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My 4 instant turn offs -
And for me, these apply to anyone; friends, colleagues, acquaintances, dates, whomever....
The sound of forced laughter is an all-out auditory assault; if you don't find something funny, you really don't have to laugh. In fact, I beg you to please just stop unless it's genuine. Obviously fake smiles; if you're gonna fake it, you had better make that performance count! Put some effort into it, for crying out loud, lol. Limp handshakes; just ugh all the way around. I will always prefer an overly-enthusiastic hand pumper (lol, is that the correct term? - I don't know how else to describe it) to shaking hands with a overused dishrag. How do these people get jobs, anyway? Halfhearted hugs. Either mean it; or just get offa me already, lol. I can cope with pretty much anything else. |
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Hygiene is a huge one - Dirty fingernails, teeth, hair, feet, or clothing is a huge turn off.
Name-dropping Hypochondria No sense of humor or having a stick up your ass Mean-spirited bullshit or rudeness Not being able to hold a conversation about current events or politics on even a small level Interrupting Not listening Racism/Sexism Owning an emu (LOL! I'm phobic!!) |
I think that someone who doesn't understand (at least not without a REALLY good reason.....like being raised by wolves in the forest or something) the fine lines that traverse and connect our social relationships.
For example, the lines between confident, cocky and arrogant. For me, I'm definitely okay with the first option and possibly the second option if there's humor in the equation but the last option is an instant switch flipper (and not in the ON direction). The line between dominant and controlling is another example. I like it when people....not just potential mates, but all people....toe the line of impropriety in one form or another but have enough sense to not fall off the deep end. For the record, I have no ill will towards emus or those who love and/or own and/or farm them. |
People who are so self centered they seem to forget they are actually talking to another person. I like to be talked with, not talked AT.
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People who are way performative. I know it is just one way of being in the world, and it's kind of celebrated in our sub-culture. But it doesn't work for me. Wears me out.
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Biggest turn off for me is having never-ending lists of turn offs because: 1. It denies the reality of being imperfect human beings. 2. It takes away from the quirkiness and individuality of people expressing their diversity in their own way. 3. It indicates people should fit a check off list of what pleases each of us, rather than just accepting who they are. 4. It adds negativity to the world which seems to need a good healthy dose of positivity. |
Well, I think you ought to know what you want and what you can and can't put up with. What's the value of all this experience if it isn't to learn from and prevent yourself from wasting time and hurting yours and others' feelings?
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Indeed, it behooves one to know oneself well. Sometimes, it also behooves one to take a step back and ponder. Sometimes, some things we dislike is likeable with the right person. Sometimes, what we like can be horrific with the wrong person. Sometimes we might need to think about whether we are seeking a real, live, imperfect human being, or if we are seeking an inanimate cardboard cut out of <insertpreferencehere> embedded in our fantasies. And, I appreciate you raising this existential concept without rearranging my parts. I can see I am still growing on you and have graduated from "like mold on wet sheet rock", to "a mere allergen tickling your nose". :cheesy: |
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So much for the candy coating. :) And now, back to our regularly scheduled programming. |
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However, there is something to be said for knowing what you can and can't put up with. Some habits, attitudes, etc. are simply deal-breakers, even if the person can't help it. Even I have been a bit taken aback by some of what I've read on here because the poster is not only describing traits I have, but traits I can't help or "fix" (and some of them, I wouldn't necessarily want to). Still, it's better to know these things up front before investing any time in a relationship that is destined for failure. I think it's a good idea to be clear both about what does it for you and what doesn't so you can select a mate that best matches you, rather than suffering in silence with someone who really does have 20-plus unacceptable qualities or habits that you can't stand because you've decided to settle. |
Smoking (Cigarettes, not as in being smoking hot or the very attractive type of smoking)
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Just one word , Dishonesty
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Ppl who think they can bully the other person into whatever they want
Ppl who cant take thank you but NO thanks Ppl who r so into themselves Ppl who say one thing but are another Omg i could keep on |
Lacking self confidence
Not able to carry an intelligent conversation Passive Pessimistic Boring Jealous Not willing to take risks Can't laugh Hung up on the past Not self-sufficient No goals, ambitions or dreams Not a sushi fan Doesn't treat my dogs well Doesn't treat me like a lady |
~Pessimism
~Sloppy appearance ~No imagination |
turn off
most things everyone has covered ...
just like to add pity party ppl. poor me ..stuff. (suck it up.. move on we all have stories) Be well :) |
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