If someone did this for me, I would be grinning all day long.

It really sucks when you get all the right words.. But your left waiting for the actions to follow. Especially because all those perfect words make you want those actions so badly. *Heart is working hard to mend and try and move past this situation right now*

If you think telling a girl you are in to her, care for her, love her.. is the right thing to do, because you think that's what she wants to hear.. You are wrong. You just mess with our mind, and our heart.. And it hurts more in the end than just being straight up and saying your not for me.

^^^ that is what makes it sooo damn hard to tell if someone is really in to you or not.. Took me time to figure it out, longer than I would have hoped for.. But at least I get it now. Maybe it's not even that it is hard to tell.. Maybe sometimes you know it, but you just don't want to accept the truth. :|

Maybe licking/biting lips, or blinking fast. I do these sometimes. But I'm a femme so it doesn't apply to all

If she touches you thats a sign. Like if she plays with your hair or fixes your collar.

Nice thread!! :)

If this was a test I would fail miserably. I am friendly -(some mistake or assume flirtation) with the most people I meet. I'm generally pretty good a sensing and reading people - except in cases like this. :doh:

I rarely I mean rarely notice. My friends would be the ones who would ask me after 'How did so and so work out?', or 'What happened with ABC? She's likes you.' I would ask 'What makes you think she likes me?' - of course I get the 'Are you serious ? look - :eyebrow:

For me to know if she likes me comes one of three ways;
1) My friends tell me
2) The person who is interested comes at me with a 2x4
3) We eventually figure it out.--- Needless to say this option is in the lowest rating.

Maybe if there was some kind of sensory - mood accessory or emotion bracelet that we can wear to help determine if we like each other. :thinking:

Of course to be worn discretionarily - wouldn't want to give away signals 24/7 :)

She gets out of bed in the middle of the night to drive through the city to come snuggle with you.

:stillheart:

I'm awfully dense, at this sort of thing, seems like. I do talk to my friends, though, and ask them for advice.

Yup, I would have to agree!

Oh for sure............

:giggle:..............


:goodpost:

If this happens and you're not sure if she's into you, you're beyond a 2 x 4 !

If anyone figures out how to tell if someone is really into you, please let me know! I am TERRIBLE at telling such things, unless a person is really obvious about it.. On one occasion, someone was trying to chat me up for a solid half hour before my then partner rescued me - she and her friend had been having bets as to how long it'd take before I twigged!

It's not always possible to tell. If they ask you out for coffee, it's a good bet. If you're still not sure, ask them. Say are you interested in dating or are you looking for new friends? Dating ain't for the meek.

Her
 

Yes, this is hard especially when dealing with femmes not from this site. I have a lunch date planned with a young lady that I met out in the world. I am a little scared. There will be that uncomfortable discussion about sex that I am not looking forward to. It is so much easier with ladies from this site because we all know were we stand.

Yep
I'm with you,I'm just up front,either way.
My main question these days is "am I into her?"
as Mama Cass said "unrequited loves a bore"

The longer I've been dating women, the less accurately I can read cues.
Sometimes I think I'm getting hit on, then she'll mention her wife or girlfriend. Other times someone may be sending me huge signals and I'm oblivious.
I was in an art supply store the other night and ran into a young salesclerk who usually only works weekends. She acted really glad to see me, and she even came from around the counter to hug me.
I always figured she was straight, so her enthusiasm for me didn't register at first. Then when she asked her male sales associate to take a pic of us, she sort of glued the side of her body up against mine. I said, "God, what's next, a boob grab?"
By the time the flash lit, her right hand was firmly attached to my left breast--and she held it there for a few more beats after the picture was taken.:blink:

I still didn't catch on!!

By the time she asked for my number and suggested we get together so we could "compare art," it dawned on me that she may have been dropping hints.

Too bad she's half my age. :blink:

Yep, sure sounds like she's asking you to come up and see her etchings.

Boob grab? Someone you aren't dating grabbed your boob?!

Uhhhhh...

IMHO...

How does this happen?

Well, nonconsensual boob grabs happen all the time. Men often try to get away with that sort of thing. I'm not accustomed to hearing about it as a mating ritual between women.

Be it a male or female or both: the referenced action above is not acceptable. An action towards me or the one I love: will require bail money..IMHO.

Ks-

I really don't want to belabor this point, but a nonconsensual boob grab is classic sexual assault. Period.

Um
If someone touched me without permission,I'm afraid they would see a not nice reaction.
I have had chest surgery,but even so,I am very particular about who touches me,as I have said,my question now,is" am I into her"someone who done that to me,the answer would be no.

One thing about transition is,I have to be vigilant,to not invade womens personal space and not look at kid."which makes me sad about children,but I present as male now,so I have to renegotiate society norms,but also as a feminist,respect womens autonomy over their bodies.

TBH,straight women are very clear,you know if they dig you,and these days,I meet on a dating site so its pretty clear why i'm there,"I just wanna be friends,is pretty much,ok shes not into me,cause If i'm interested,I just say it,for christ sake I'm nearlly 60,lifes too short to play games.

mooooooooving on

It wasn't a big deal--she's a goofy artist kid and we've been affectionate pals for a long time. I don't consider every single gesture to be sexual, much less a potential sexual offense. Some people can touch me more than others.
:fastdraq:

I wish I wouldn't have mentioned it.

Yeah non consensual boob/chest grab is assault as well as tacky as fuck!

Who the fuck goes around grabbing peoples chest without permission?

I definitely think there are signs........:hangloose:

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I dare say even most 2 x 4 butches can pick up most signs....

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Me and Mary met when we worked in the same office. Every day, without fail, she'd saunter over with a huge handful of pencils to use the wall mounted pencil sharpener in front of my desk. I also noticed she'd only use it when I was seated at my desk.

Now being the 2 x 4 butch that I am I might not of picked up on that sign had it not been for the fact there was a much nicer electric pencil sharpener, as apposed to the old crank model near me, sitting on the vacant desk right next to hers!