NEVER TAKE THE PERSON YOU ARE WITH FOR GRANTED. MAKE EACH DAY COUNT.

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take walks along the beach (or elsewhere) and pick up rocks that look like hearts. (there are a surprising number of them!) give them, send them, or take a cell photo of your hand holding it and send that. or save them until you have a lot.

do postcards. but not with long messages or even sentences. my ex-lover once sent me a picture postcard of Tina Turner that had written on the back:

River deep, mountain high.

That's so hot, isn't it?

I am guilty of doing too much. So much so, I end up being mommie.
I come across as not needing others. but its not true.
I need to have higher expectations of others, but less of me.

It's a hard pattern to break. I have a hard time letting go and allowing things to just not get done.

partners
 

I would never be in a committed relationship with someone who didn't have the same work ethic as me. We are a team, team mates pitch in, join forces and help each other. I think that's a perk of having a partner. Even if my "wife" loved to make her own jewlery, I don't know the first thing about it. And it doesn't interest me in the least. But if she needed help, I'd do whatever she told me to do. I'd learn quickly, so I could help. If I lived with someone, they wouldn't have to tell me what they need , I could see it for myself and just do it. I think it's all part of the package. It's the least I can do. If she decided she wanted to paint the living room, first thing Sat. morning I'd have everything set up ready to go, probably before she even got up. Any project she decided to start, would automatically become my project too, unless she told me to get lost. hahaha

I have a really strong work ethic and it is a sickness I was told. lol
I think knocking out a wall to rearrange the house is fun.
My yard looks so bad right now. It's embarrassing, it feels like a reflection of being lazy.

It has been my experience that who ever says that a strong work ethic is a sickness , is just trying to justify their laziness. And maybe manipulate you into not doing so much. That way they don't appear to be so lazy, and the more you do the more they know you are going to resent them not helping. So if they can get you to slow down, or stop, all the better for them. They also know sooner or later you are probably going to expect them to help, that's what they are trying to avoid.
Am I right or am I right?

LMAO...you are so damn right!!! I work because I love to be busy. l love feeling productive at the end of the day. If they can't keep up they need to get out of the way.

Make out with her like it was the first time :)

When the relationship is over, accept one's personal responsibility and then move on. Don't air dirty laundry, doesn't make anyone look good, don't make passive agressive posts and pretend they are not.

Don't Do anything. Take some breaks from your relationship. Focus on your other interests, or get some other s*** straightened out. Do something or go somewhere else then come back.

This last part is especially true, but sometimes we don't divulge the bad in us not realizing we could potentially hurt someone in the long run.

I don't agree with the going to bed angry part, sometimes I need an overnight to regroup and think. I am always better the next day where I can talk clearly... or especially if what has made me angry/upset happened late at night.

Each person is different I guess. :) For me, I have learned after losing so many impotant people in my life to work it out no matter if it took all night so to speak. You might never get that chance... And I dont want my last memory to be of fighting or disagreeing. thats just me.... :)

I joke I am a recovering perfectionist but it is kind of true.

My parents would always say to not start something if you are not going to finish it and something worth doing is worth doing right.

Yes they were full of old sayings but I do believe that they are correct and I do always try to live up to ones like these.

I know to rein myself back though when I have done a good job and to stop focusing on perfection-yes, I do know it does not exist:)

I also know that not everyone lives by these standards and I have been guilty of jumping in and finishing a half-done project (after waiting a couple of months for it to be finished).

I have been working so hard lately to not finish or clean up after others or to not take responsibility for things not mine to take on.

Close your eyes, hold on tight, and wait 'til it passes.

Hi. This wasn't said about a partner-type relationship, but it seems like good advice which came from my sister, but could be applied to an LTR.

When someone says stuff to her that is negative or false or rotten, she simply says, "I'm not taking that in, I'm not taking that on, it's back to you". And she waves her hand sort of back toward the person as if to push the bad vibes back to the speaker.

I kind of admire her for that. Seems kind of healthy to me.

Make healthy fun foods for the football game...
.....and at least sit on the sofa with your butch while the game is on (even if you don't care for football) it's just three hours!

Bonus points....wear a piece of Steeler clothing....it's hers, I don't own any.

Do remember that each is their own person - those little things that drive you crazy now were the cute little quirks that won your heart then.

Do make time for me-time is the best gift you can give.

Do remember that a soft word, a gentle touch or a sweet smile sometimes can "make it all better."

Do touch me lovingly. I would rather be caressed than "handled" - until we get to the bedroom anyway ;)

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