Not a FTM but as a trans I think I should bump this thread now that I am single and looking. I am 45 for those that don't know me just call me Alix. I am going to refrain from putting out a whole what I am looking for post. Just a hi and where are all the single ladies?

Single lady here. :)

Just read some of the past few pages, and wanted to comment on the distance/moving issue.

I have seen it work for someone to move literally halfway around the world (CA to Finland, to be exact) to be with somebody that they had spent little time with in person. But I really think that that's the exception.

I'm 53, have a great job that would be hard to replace, have a pension with that job which is almost impossible to find these days (and at my age in this economy, that's priceless), and my grands (who I've raised/helped praise for most of their lives) live here and I'm not willing to move a long distance away from them.

Unfortunately for me there are basically no known single butchs/Transguys/FTMs in this area. I could date someone from the Philadelphia, Baltimore, or DC areas and only be a couple hours away, but that's still becomes a big issue if we would end up getting serious and want to start living together.

I know that this can become an issue even if you live in a big city, but when you're in a much smaller area, you really run out of choices fast.

Been a while since I have been here...still single and patiently looking and waiting. Life is good!

I did say it was thread bumping night.....
 

Because there is no transguy or queer single thread.

I know some of you know me or have seen me around some of the threads this year but for those that do not I thought a little intro was in order. Especially since I change my avatar and about me on a regular basses..like when I am bored.

My name is Alix, I am 45, and very single but not looking to settle for just anyone. I am okay with being single just no longer wish to be. I am not a FTM, I fall more into what one thread on here called the "Bravehearts". A TG guy that can not or choose not to transition. I am also a Top/Dom/Daddy even though I do not use the BDSM avatar and my about me does not say it...at this present moment.
The most important thing and or quality a person can have is respect whether they are my friend or that special someone that caught my eye. All else develops from respect and time in my opinion.

I did read some of last years conversation on relocating. Since I live in the middle of the country and everyone seems to be to the left or right of me this is something I have put a great deal of thought into. I have done and have been successful in LDR. The successful ones I did relocate for that person but not until a lot had taken place. One of which was time and considerable communication. One is real time together. The length of real time before I relocated is not set in stone and with the advent and popularity of Skype will vary. (I need more Skype friends and I was referring to non sexual Skype btw). So the question is not will I relocate but will make me relocate? To answer that I would have to say many things would and one of them would be my ability to answer the "what if" question. What if it does not work? Since I am getting older and already know I do not want to live in my hometown anymore the answer to my what if question will determine if I can take the relocate step. Relocate does not equal move in...two different questions.

Well I tend to be long winded and ramble a lot when I am nervous, so if you would like to no more feel free to post here, on my wall, or send me a message.

Now where are all the singles that like a guy like me? I know your out there!!!

we are all over the place....here.....and in the world. I honestly have not seen this thread until now...

Found it last night....
 

oh gaea I know your all over the place here and in the world...hence why I post everywhere..LOL...

I know I found this thread last night and instead of making a separate single mingle thread again I thought why not use this one??? I found if it is on the front page of the site people tend to visit...
I have no problem making a separate single thread btw if others would like me to.

Late night bump...for those of us up after midnight....

where in my home stater are you from???? I hail from Peoria originally :) even though i have been here a very long time i stall say Back Home when talking about Illinois

Cool to find this, thank you for the bump. I didn't see this thread when I joined last month, then again, there's hardly any activity - pathetic! There are more singles around, I'm sure of it.

I hail from Rockford, the big city with the small town attitude, that is stuck in a time warp while having an identity crises *laugh*

I know Peoria well and I would kill to be able to say Back Home and mean Illinois again. I keep escaping this town but coming back...I think to let go of another unwanted or unneeded piece so that I can finally say Back Home for good...

rockford? where is that near? sounds familiar....I have a lot of family still in Illinois...peoria, Chicago and up near iowa....just over the bridge.

I agree Hominid I know there are more singles around here. I think it might be the title of the thread *shrugs* who knows. Then again unless we keep it on the front page of the site or near the top no one will find it. Took me over 6 months to find it I just knew there had to be a non butch/femme single thread. Now if we can only find the singles and get them to start posting in here *laugh*

Rockford is about 1 hr and 30 minutes west of Chicago 20 minutes south of Beloit Wisconsin. About dead center of the state and as north as you can get without going into Wisc. territory.

that sounds like its cold there.....*shudders at the thought of snow* headed to the pool now :) (yes its a hundred degrees here)

Not cold yet....but it will be and I so do not want to be here when the 80 below windchill factor hits...it was bad enough with the humidity of this past summer...it is not going to be fun...but it is Fall and one of my favorite seasons so trying to enjoy it....I am now official jealous gaea pool and 100 degree sounds nice....

it is very nice especially on my skin

personally I would be house bound with a fire going at the 80 below windchill lmao..funny my auntie never worked during the winter time as she refused to drive in the snow .....I imagine I would be much the same as her. lol

Well it is a good way to get killed especially that first snow fall all the drivers in the city *blink* and loose their ability to drive in something they have driven years in....but snow is not the worse it is the ice covered by snow especially when the city runs out of salt and plow money...happens every year...I so have to get out of this state *laugh* for many reasons that being one