its going to be a tuff holiday season for me.. lost my brother to cancer last month sept 20th, he was always a big thanksgiving guy. lost my mother a few years ago nov 20th...my partner to cancer 2yrs ago she always made a huge thanksgiving. it seems thanksgiving has turned into a day of rememberance for me. ill be spending it with some close friends, two straight couples that are always trying to set me up. shound be fun, but i do know what will be in the back of my mind.

anyway good morning to all the singles and have a great day!

yeah for friday!! i dont think stone has anything to do with it.. me personaly i think to many people have gotten umm .. for a loss of better word "lazy" in thier dating habits. i know i feel i have in the past. counting on the computer to do all the work for me instead of actually putting on my best getting out there and meeting people. i would instead toss a few things out on a dating site and wait for replies.. didnt work for me either.. met a few stalkers and some very strange ones. i feel there is no one "like me" within 100 miles of where i live. being stone and very close to male id'd i may end up falling back into dating straight women. in the past for me this has caused nothing but proplems, fights with hetro guys, being put down for who i am an what i love. i dont want to go to jail for fighting "again" so ill sit back in the "lazy" roll and hope someone comes my way putting me,my dog, my harley,my home and my truck befor dating.. usually keeps me busy an happy and i know eventuly if its meant to be for me it will happen when it should.

Mornin'.....

So, whoever wants to go to the dance tomorrow night here, meet at my house at about 6.

Geez..... wouldn't it be great to really have a "transporter" via Scottie! Would solve so many problems!

Just Beam Me!

Wishing all a great weekend!

I will spend Thanksgiving at our family ranch in Northern California. What is great about this is that there is room there for us to gather and it is pretty central for all of us to travel to.

If it turns out to be a nice day, all the kids can run and scream and just be kids outside. If not, they will do the same, inside! A football game will be blaring in one room with some that enjoy this and some kind of rivalry will most likely be going on. My sister’s grandchildren will make time to play checkers or just sit with her husband that has Alzheimer’s. Shit, they are starting to do some things like this with me because of my damn arthritis!

The Holidays are a time that I do get to see family and this means a lot to me. There is always reverence paid to those we have lost, lots of laughter, catching up, hugs, tears, arguing, and great food!

We all have things that have been passed down generationally that we cook for each other and family traditions passed on to children, like preparing and serving antipasto, using dishes from my parents and their parents. The basil used is still from seed my own father’s gardening produced that was from his Grandfather in Italy! Yes, one of my adult nephews has made certain that the seeds are preserved each year for this and he also produces olive oil and imported trees from the regions of Italy my Mom and Dad were from. Now, he is working on getting some from Chile as we have uncovered family “secrets” about a part of our family that was hidden from us. He is doing this as a way to combat the internal racism that surrounded this occurring in our family. You don’t have to let wrongs continue and this begins at home! We are hoping that new found family from the east coast will be at the table for Christmas.

I always talk about the "First Thanksgiving" in terms of how Native Americans were treated and continue to be treated. Education begins in all of our homes, within the family. Correcting what is left out in school curriculums is up to all of us.


Elders do sit at the head of the tables and I am proud to be given one of those seats. Younger members learn of the relatives they are too young to have known. We want them to have a sense of our family history, their culture. We bring favorite photos to share.

It is also a time that we reflect together on how much we do have to be thankful for as a family. Arguments over politics will run rampant! We have differences just like everyone, but, there has always been a deep love between us that transcends these differences. We do have each other's backs and always have.

I am very fortunate to have the family that I do and never take this for granted. So many other people just do not have this as a foundation and that makes me sad. Perfect, we are not, proud of our heritage and contributions as a family to our communities and each other, we are. I would not trade my deep love of family garnished with immigrant history for anything.


There will be many stories about those that we have lost and as usual, I will miss my parents, brother and one sister sitting with me and the “clan.” But they are with us.

No, it isn't just another day to me.

Hello Everyone! I will be working so I will be spending my first Thanksgiving alone (well ~ me & my 3 dogs). visited my family last week for a per-Thanksgiving gathering.

Hope you all have a really nice weekend! :)

When I was younger, my family and I would drive up to my greatgrandmother's house and have Thanksgiving and Christmas there. When my parents seperated and then divorced, my brothers and I would go to our mom's house on Christmas Eve <it is something we still do> and our dad's house on Christmas Day. After my dad passed away eight years ago, my middle brother decided not to join us and we respected his wishes. I just remember the fun we used to have and how we would do things afterwards once we were old enough to drive. Now we go to the movies after spending the day with my mom or we go bowling. That is something I missed while living in Orlando for seven years and now I am home on the East Coast and I am loving it...

Have a good night,

Zimmy

I will make you some homemade chicken marsala and Fed Ex it to you!

How are you doing?

Zimmy

That makes three of us. I will be alone for both Thanksgiving and Christmas, but I am thinking of doing some volunteering during this time.

I'm alone and I'm going to make myself a fabulous dinner.