"If I let you in, please don't break anything":praying:

The opinion which other people have of you is their problem, not yours.--Elisabeth Kubler-Ross

What you see and what you hear depends a great deal on where you are standing. It also depends on what sort of person you are.

- C.S. Lewis

Ten people who speak make more noise than ten thousand who are silent.
Napoleon Bonaparte

You may delay, but time will not. --Benjamin Franklin

The journey of a thousand miles begins with one step.--Lao Tzu

“If you don’t think, then you shouldn’t talk.” – March Hare from Alice in Wonderland

Long but worth to read...I think :)
 

- "I love you" - said the little Prince.
- "I want you too" - said the rose.
- "Is not the same" - he answered...

*To want, is to take possession of something, someone. It is to search in others those things that fills the personal expectations of affection, of company...
*Wanting is to do our what does not belong to us, is to take ownership or desire something to complete us, because at some point we recognize we are lacking.
*Wanting is expecting, is sticking to the things and people from our needs. Then, when we don't have reciprocity there is suffering. When the beloved "one" is not for us, we feel frustrated and disappointed. If I want someone, I have expectations, I hope something. If the other person does not give me what I expect, I suffer. The problem is that there is a greater chance that the other person has other motivations, because we are all very different. Every human being is a universe.

*To love is to wish the best for the other, even when it has very different motivations.
*Love is to allow you to be happy, even when your path is different from mine. It is a selfless feeling which is born in a donation, is giving ourself completely from the heart. For this reason, the love will never be a cause of suffering. When a person says that has suffered for love, has actually suffered for wanting, not for loving. One suffers from attachments. If you really love, you can not suffer, because nothing is expected from the other.
*When we love, we give ourselves without asking anything in return, just for the simple and pure pleasure of giving. But it is also true that this hand over, this giving, selfless, occurs only in the knowledge. We can only love what we know, because loving involves jumping into the void, trust the life and soul. And the soul is not compensated. And knowing is just to know yourself, your joys, your peace, but also of your anger, your struggles, your mistakes. Because love transcends the anger, fights, errors and is not just for moments of joy.
*To love is a full confidence that whatever happens you will be, not because you owe anything, not with selfish possession, but being, in silent company.
*To love is to know that the weather does not change you, nor the storms, nor my winters.
*To love is to give you a place in my heart for you to stay, as father, mother, brother, son, friend, and know that there is a place in yours for me.
*Giving love does not exhaust the love, on the contrary, it increases it. The way to give back so much love, is open our hearts and let yourself be loved.

- "I already understood" - rose said.
- "Don't understand it, live it"- said the little Prince.

“I don’t know much but I can tell you this, what makes a person beautiful
shouldn’t be based on how the world views him or her but instead on how they
view the world. I’m amazed by humans like you finding the random beauty in
places most fail to see.”
-Anonymous

I'm so glad I live in a world where there are Octobers.

- L.M. Montgomery, Anne of Green Gables

The top five regrets people expressed before they died..
 

1. I wish I had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.

2. I wish I didn’t work so hard.

3. I wish I had the courage to express my feelings.

4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.

5. I wish that I had let myself be happier

Live, my friends

Sayings....
 

"Burning the candle at both ends," because that is what I've been up to lately.

You look for truth...and yet all you see is comfort and protection. And I yet I ask, once again....how do you grow?

Hello Gemme,

I read it in a friends' face book page, there it wasnt attributed to any one in particular...After I read your post, I did a simple search on Google and every time came back with the name Dominic Matthew Jackson.
Thanks! :byebye:

This writing is amazing and so descriptive-one can truly feel it.

I looked for more of his writing:


"She was the kind of girl who weighed her life in tears—not years. When I met her she told me she was as old as the ocean, and I thought maybe I could save her—as if the current needed a life jacket to keep moving."

Dominic Matthew Jackson
(via wnq-writers)


http://dominicmatthewjackson.tumblr.com

There will always be something that’s not right about you to a person who’s not right for you. —Trent Sheldon

Choose Her Every Day (or Leave Her)

Intimate relationships don’t last because you love each other. They last because you make—and remake—a choice.

I spent 5 years hurting a good woman by staying with her but never fully choosing her.

I did want to be with this one. I really wanted to choose her. She was an exquisite woman, brilliant and funny and sexy and sensual. She could make my whole body laugh with her quick, dark wit and short-circuit my brain with her exotic beauty. Waking up every morning with her snuggled in my arms was my happy place. I loved her wildly.

Unfortunately, as happens with many young couples, our ignorance of how to do love well quickly created stressful challenges in our relationship. Before long, once my early morning blissful reverie gave way to the strained, immature ways of our everyday life together, I would often wonder if there was another woman out there who was easier to love, and who could love me better.

As the months passed and that thought reverberated more and more through my head, I chose her less and less. Everyday, for five years, I chose her a little less.

I stayed with her. I just stopped choosing her. We both suffered.
Choosing her would have meant focusing everyday on the gifts she was bringing into my life that I could be grateful for: her laughter, beauty, sensuality, playfulness, companionship, and so … much … more.

Choosing her would have meant focusing everyday on the gifts she was bringing into my life that I could be grateful for: her laughter, beauty, sensuality, playfulness, companionship, and so … much … more.

Sadly, I often found it nearly impossible to embrace – or even see – what was so wildly wonderful about her.

I was too focused on the anger, insecurities, demands, and other aspects of her strong personality that grated on me. The more I focused on her worst, the more I saw of it, and the more I mirrored it back to her by offering my own worst behavior. Naturally, this only magnified the strain on our relationship … which still made me choose her even less.

Thus did our nasty death spiral play itself out over five years.
She fought hard to make me choose her. That’s a fool’s task. You can’t make someone choose you, even when they might love you.

To be fair, she didn’t fully choose me, either. The rage-fueled invective she often hurled at me was evidence enough of that.

I realize now, however, that she was often angry because she didn’t feel safe with me. She felt me not choosing her everyday, in my words and my actions, and she was afraid I would abandon her.

Actually, I did abandon her.
Like a precious fragrant flower I brought proudly into my home but then failed to water, I left her alone in countless ways to wither in the dry hot heat of our intimate relationship.

By not fully choosing her everyday for five years, by focusing on what bothered me rather than what I adored about her, I deserted her. Like a precious fragrant flower I brought proudly into my home but then failed to water, I left her alone in countless ways to wither in the dry hot heat of our intimate relationship.

I’ll never not choose another woman I love again.
It’s torture for everyone.

If you’re in relationship, I invite you to ask yourself this question:
“Why am I choosing my partner today?”

If you can’t find a satisfying answer, dig deeper and find one. It could be as simple as noticing that in your deepest heart’s truth, “I just do.”
If you can’t find it today, ask yourself again tomorrow. We all have disconnected days.

But if too many days go by and you just can’t connect with why you’re choosing your partner, and your relationship is rife with stress, let them go. Create the opening for another human being to show up and see them with fresh eyes and a yearning heart that will enthusiastically choose them every day.

Your loved one deserves to be enthusiastically chosen. Everyday.
You do, too.

Choose wisely.

-Bryan Reeves-