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Contemplating my aging parents and their health after spending the day with my Mom in the hospital. This woman who is a pillar of strength and does yoga and swims and only eats the right things is facing the possibility of a stroke diagnosis. Today she is like a little girl and I'm not showing her my fear.

Now that is a conversation that is gonna stick in my head.....

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Originally Posted by SleepyButch (Post 713255)

I don't think it was a hoax... sometimes on a Friday late... we have to deliver bad news like that so that they can get going on their treatment or decide what they want to do. I've had to deliver bad news like that. Sometimes I think I'm more compassionate as well. Just my thoughts.

I have heard from many who have received bad news but never heard of it being delivered on the phone. It is in the best interest of the patient to have news of a life threatening illness delivered in a physicians office where appropriate referrals can be made. What if the person was driving? What liability implications are there in such a situation?

Then there is the potential referral to counseling. I can understand a follow up call if a life threatening illness has previously been diagnosed and there is a change or tests show that something alarming is going on, but a diagnosis over the phone just sounds wrong to me. I am sorry for anyone who is directed to make such a call.

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Originally Posted by SleepyButch (Post 713206)

My sister got a call today from a fill in nurse at her doctor's office. This nurse proceeded to tell her that she had untreatable cervical cancer. I can't even imagine what my sister was going through. The nurse told her all about her condition, then told her someone would call her because they needed to refer her to a specialist. The nurse verified my sister's phone number and guess what?? It wasn't her number! The nurse fucked up and called the wrong person. Being a nurse myself, this is inexcusable. Not only did she scare my sister half to death, but the nurse also told my sister the name of the person who does have the cervical cancer.
Just has me thinking now about the poor person who did have to hear that news today. Life is just way too short.

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Originally Posted by Gemme (Post 713251)

WTF???

What happened to, "Hello, may I speak to Jane Doe, please?"

That would have caused one less anxiety attack, anyway.

*not only courteous...it's the law*

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Originally Posted by Sun (Post 713312)

I totally agree Sun..this level of bad news should always be face to face..I just can't imagine a doctor or situation where an "inoperable cancer" diagnosis couldn't wait until they could make it to the doctors....(unless they had mobility issues?)... I could understand it if there were something that could be done that day..that night...the next day...etc.

Seems so..heartless..in a field that most people get into because OF their hearts...

Just my 2..wait 3...maybe 4 cents... :)

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Originally Posted by 1PlayfulFemme (Post 713331)

Oh good gravy! As a nurse, you know that violates every Hipaa Law ever made! The legality of it is HUGE all by itself!!! The ignorance of that fill in nurse, at any point in her career..is so very inexcusable!!!

Your poor sister! The shock and dismay it must have caused!! I can't imagine hearing "INCURABLE". The C word is scary enough..on any level, but to add the I word?!

And, while I am relieved it's not your sister, my heart bleeds for the person getting this news, especially in the midst of this season. I know, the world doesn't stop because the holidays are upon us..it's just such a bad time of year to hear such devastating news. (not that there is a good time)

And you're right..life is far too short...we are never blessed with the knowledge of what tomorrow will bring!

*not only courteous...it's the law*

I totally agree Sun..this level of bad news should always be face to face..I just can't imagine a doctor or situation where an "inoperable cancer" diagnosis couldn't wait until they could make it to the doctors....(unless they had mobility issues?)... I could understand it if there were something that could be done that day..that night...the next day...etc.

Seems so..heartless..in a field that most people get into because OF their hearts...

Just my 2..wait 3...maybe 4 cents... :)

I guess as a patient, I would want to be told this type of news ASAP, like as soon as the doctor found out about it. So getting a phone call would be okay for me. Not only that but I imagine such news would get me extremely upset and I would not want that to happen in the doctor's office. Then I would have to walk out into the waiting room in front of all of those people? I don't think I would like that at all.

In working with surgeons who had to diagnose cancer all the time, I had many many patients calling daily, wanting to know their results. I guess it's just a personal preference. Some people don't mind knowing over the phone and some people do. I think it seems heartless for some to have to wait until that scheduled appointment in a week or two to find out those results. Let's face it, doctor's don't have the time to work patients in at the drop of a hat and if they did, it's a few minutes of their time to tell you this type of news and they are on to the next patient.

That must have been scary Sleepy - I've watched 3 family membersdie of that damn "C" word that must have scared her shitless :|

I am going to venture out of bed today. My poor house has suffered unending cruelties in uncleanliness while I have been stuck in bed... I don't think anyone else knows how to clean around here...

trying very hard to feel better today..

Today is the 3 year anniversary of my dog, Matty, passing. I still miss her all the time... She was with me for 14 years. It's rather saddening to know I have to live the rest of my life without her. I still kiss her picture when I pass by and her box that holds her ashes...But it's not the same as the tangible. I miss having her with me while I hike. And the spots we shared... I feel like she's there sometimes...I only wish she were.
I will always miss that light that was in her eyes when we were in the woods...that spirit....That's about all I can manage at this time....

Much love and big hugs to my favorite furry girl...I will always love you <3

Friendships.
The importance of people in my life.. i really cherish a new friendship made.
Very dear, thoughtful and i love when paths cross unexpectedly. She's a breath of fresh air, and her & her husband are such kind, selfless human beings.
Very grateful for new friendships as well as the seasoned friendships. The ones who have brought such joy through the years. The ones who took moments of their time to extend kindness, and care throughout the years. Friendships near and far. i have some really wonderful people in my life, online & offline. And Mtn & i are very grateful for Our dear Planet friendships as well ....Such blessings!

Just name it.. I'm thinking about it.

I am exhausted and cannot sleep. Here I sit in the kitchen eating a banana sandwich with peanut butter and potato chips. Chips must be in the sandwich and not on the side for it to be right. And have consumed almost a quart of milk. These sandwiches really bring on the thrist.

It is around 2:00 a.m. ...
WTF????

Quite bluntly, sex.

Fantasies.

I don't want to go home.

So sad over the loss of such genus

uggg what to put in my empty, tender belly

We need to do our Christmas cards today.. and I don't want to! I would rather hit the beach and play all day!

A lot of things are rushing into my mind right now. Homework, this girl, that movie and such.

I would be more than happy to go back to sleep and dream THAT dream some more.