singles and dating sites
 

I have been on a bit of a frenzy joining butch femme dating sites in addition to POF, Match, Pink cupid, etc.

so, here is what I have realized, the same people (including me)are all on the same sights. Many times with different names, different ages, etc.

I think that I have to dump some of them because seeing all the same people is beginning to seem weird to me. I also realize that if I focus on one or two I am not missing out on anyone to meet.

Not sure this is for me, I haven't seen anyone "grab" me yet. lol

have a nice night

I feel much the same. I see the same faces... sometimes with different names and details. They weren't interested in me on THAT site, so I figure they aren't likely to be interested in me on the next one either... yet friends keep saying "don't give up". I'm kind of ready to say. THEN YOU PICK THEM.

None the less... single makes for lonely late nights. So here I am.

I haven't tried a dating site. I am not super motivated. Sometimes it sucks being single. Other times I am grateful that I am single. Tonight I am grateful.

Mel, I find that single is more entertaining and sustainable when I have more time in my social calendar. When I am busy and rushing around from one thing to the next I wish just a little for someone to listen and warm arms at night.

I love my life and everything I have going right now, but it would be so much more rewarding if I could share my accomplishment, my worries and stresses, my joy and my hopes for the future.

I understand Jenn. I am cynical at the moment (perhaps a bit longer than a moment). I remember the ways that being partnered was wonderful. I just want no part of it currently. I may change my mind tomorrow, but for today I am not interested in dating sites or dating in general.

I wouldn't mind sharing :wine: with a friend though. Friends are good

I definitely flutter between wanting to be partnered and enjoying singledom. And sometimes it changes by the day.

I think what I miss most is feeling like someone is there. And cuddling at night.

I believe we have plans to do that in about a month!! Looking forward to it.

Yea, who will all be at the Reunion? I'm looking forward to it.

I had my boss officially sign off on my PTO today. With airfare and hotel booked, I'm ready to go!

Unlesss there are unforseen circumstances, I will be there

A cuddle buddy would be nice.

randrum I am very excited to get a hug from you too!!

Wrangler, you and me both sweety... that's one of the things I miss the most when I'm single.

greaaaaaat...all the talking and reading about it has me missing it too.

I made some goodies for y'all!

Cookies, cake, pie, etc. Have at it and I also stocked the fridge again and there is wine, beer in there as well as other alcoholic stuff.

I grabbed a rum and diet coke. tyvm

You are welcome very much!

So....we are without chat (which kills me since I JUST started going back in) and I have some questions. Where did you meet your ex (any/all)?

My longest relationship was with someone I met on the dash site.

My concern is that by being an introvert who tends to hermit, I am missing out on relationships (romantic and otherwise). I'd like ideas....still not looking for a relationship but more b-f friends would be awesome.

I have attempted to start a few relationships from this community and the dash site, but they haven't really gone far enough to count... with one exception.

My longest relationship since I came out was someone I met while I was in college.

I can hermit some too... and even when I do go out, I seem to stick to just me. I don't like crowds... unless I'm on stage. I have been really trying to step outside my box and make grown-up friends lately, but its hard. So I get where your coming from.

I've met partners in a variety of places. Mainly online but also in high school and college and at a bar. Oh, and at a recruiter's office.

The older I get, the more introverted I think I'm becoming. When I'm approached with a social setting, I'm good and mingle, but I don't actively seek it out. It's not because I don't want to; it because I don't want to take a chance with my life.

Seriously.

They drive crazzzzzy here.

Like number 2 or 3 in the worst cities to drive in national study kind of crazy.

Also, I don't have a counterpart to go with me. Not necessarily a romantic thing but it's good to have someone there for support and security. The world isn't what it used to be.

All you have to do is travel to the East coast! I can't help with everything but I'm a good snuggler and partner in crime. :)

Hey ProfPacker, I think you're right; it's the same pool of people in most of the sites, or let's say if you made a Venn diagram of all the sites, there would be more overlap than not.

I have a theory that it's more productive to look for communities you gel with, than individuals.

Have you tried MeetUp?