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1) No drugs, no alcohol, no cigarettes/pipes/cigars.
2) Must like cats. 3) Be able to own one's own emotional stuff & be honest. 4) Be a capable, caring top when it comes to sex. Sorry that's four. Oh well ;) |
Fascinating what people focus on in this thread. Further proof we all make our own happiness.
1. Let's start with what I am not -- your rebound guy, your consolation prize, your soft place to land after you've been dumped or your revenge romp. 2. I am a nice guy who is going to be nice to you, your mom, your grandmother, your friends, your siblings, etc. If the fact that I am going to treat you right is an issue, then I am not your guy. 3. Own your stuff. Personal responsibility and accountability are both huge to me because of what I have been through the past almost 26 years. Be an adult, please. |
1) Edgy but KIND. There was a time when I really wanted/needed edgy with a bit of kind, but time and experience has switched that. I want and need kind first with a bit of Edgy!
2) Interested in family (as I'm a package deal). 3) GREAT kisser! This is not-negotiable. |
Integrity
Kindness Compassion |
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I ask before the first date if she/hy has a problem with me being vegan and would they eat vegan foods at home, should the relationship become serious….most have said they would. :) I’m often complimented on my nicely toned body and how I don’t move like a BBW. I’m also complimented on my fitness and high energy levels….I’ve said before in threads that I’ve always enjoyed being active; doing Yoga, T’ai Chi, Swimming, walking, etc. I’ve never let my Spina Bifida or my Plus size body be an issue….I can’t do anything about my genetics when it comes to my body size, but, I can maintain a good fitness level. :) My Ex. gave me the nickname ‘Xenia Onatopp’ because she liked the way I held her gently with my thighs when we, well….you know! :o |
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I am not going to list the things I feel that do not need to list. If you lack honesty, integrity, stability, a job (or substitute like pursuit of an education/retirement etc) then you may as well move on. And do not think that I will not catch you in a lie-I have an almost photographic memory.
My dealbreakers are: * what you lack-hygiene, manners, sex drive, confidence, a positive outlook * what you are addicted to-smoking, alcohol, gambling * what you are not-interesting, kind, thoughtful, accepting of my kids :sparklyheart: |
I won't include the obvious.
I keep busy – must be able to match my energy level or accept it. I haven’t made this a priority in the past and it’s been an issue. I don’t expect you to keep up, but don’t expect me to slow down.
I am gentle and I like peace (does not mean passive) – if you need/like to argue or on a constant vent about injustices at work, home, life. I am not the woman for you. She must be able to live with and accept change. Let's keep out of the rut. |
No druggies drunks or smokers or addicts past or present.
Strong convictions/good self-esteem and self-worth. Must be affectionate with a sweet kind compassionate heart. |
1. Treat me like the special woman that I am.
2. Must kiss me good morning and good night every day! No excuses! 3. Let go, laugh and be silly. :-D |
I would like to echo Starryeyes, my homegirl. :)
In addition, my top 3 non-negotiables are: 1. Must have employment (or retirement or trust fund or whatever) 2. Must be an excellent kisser 3. Must be affectionate and sweet, publicly and privately 4. Must be respectful and supportive of my life, career, and pursuits 5. Must love dogs, cats, basically all critters 6. Must tolerate my astonishingly poor mathematical skills (like listing 6 things for a Top 3!) |
My three...
1. Must be a stable adult. To me, this means you make responsible decisions, financially, emotionally, etc. You are emotionally available, have learned from your past mistakes without allowing them to impede your present. Know who you are and what you want.
2. Active, playful, silly, funny, a dreamer and enjoy spending time with me. I'm really not one to sit around. I'll try anything at least once and like most things. I like being out in the world and appreciate and relish my time in it! :) I'm also one to take a calculated risks and work hard for them, to give and receive what I want out of life and to reach my goals. 3. Passionate about the things that matter to you and the relationship. I need to be kissed, hugged, cuddled, and ravished on a regular basis. Generally speaking, when someone consistently endures things they aren't passionate about, it wears on other aspects of their lives, most often their personal relationships. |
1. Conviction of mind & spirit
2. Great sex drive 3. Madly, truly, deeply, endlessly, in love with me |
1. Kind heart
2. Rational mind 3. Sensual soulfulness 4. Bonus add on... Likes and respects solitude |
Must leave pets outside of the bedroom. I love my sleep and play time waaaaaay too much to have an audience or extra critter-like participant hanging around.
Must have an equal-to level of a sex drive. Companionship is great but I definitely need more than that. I need physical satisfaction. Must be willing to entertain self and enjoy alone time. As a Pisces, I most certainly do... and I don't want to be made to feel guilty or inconsiderate for having my own personal alone time moments. |
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We each had lives before we met and we should be able to blend both our lives as seperate people and a couple together....easier said than done, though! |
Great sense of adventure
Great sense of humor Good communication |
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The more they are gone, the better I like them when they come back. :cheesy: |
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I have a sticker on my old lap top... A lil goth angle girl who is saying... *How can I miss you, if you don't go away* I like missing people... |
take notes girls. . :p
Hygiene for one. Yeah the girl has to Smell good, everywhere.
Respect for self and others. Non drama. Not always drunk. Occasional social drinker is ok. Have a personality to match the beauty. I got your back so I expect the same. I better be the #1 guy in your life besides our children. |
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