Do not follow your head - follow your heart.
The heart is love's domain, the head is just there to complicate things.

I disagree with that 100%, just saying.

LOL.. You know how many people come in to my work saying that thier ex took all of thier toys?? Cheese and Rice, people.. It's a TOY.. and I'll be damned if an ex is going to take my packer.. Totally lame.. Taking all the toys.. But good for my business! So, if you live in San Diego, go ahead and take the toys, the expensive silicone ones and leather, please.. If anywhere else in the country.. Yer lame.

-Tony, from me space.. lol

I agree with you chicky girl..

You listen to what the heart is saying, but the head makes all the important desisions..

DO NOT ask me to choose between Mine and you.

They will always win out.

Do not expect me to be an insta father for your kid(s).. Not my place, never will be.

Right, if I had paid more attention to my head when I was younger I would have avoided a zillion messy situations.

And besides, sometimes my vagine tries to trick me by dressing up in a heart-suit. Fortunately my vagine does not own a head-suit.

Such trickery!

Uh huh..

See the way I figure it.. the heart is all about the coulor red.. It's got a real heart on for it..

So.. It doesn't pay attention to the red flags.. It thinks they are cute..

Don't name drop your ex's :|

NOT attractive and I'll see you as a douch and pretty lame.

In fact, name dropping is totally lame anyway. I don't want to know who you've played with or who you are fucking or have fucked.. Lame.

DO NOT tell me how my gender appearance should be...

never let anyone put lipstick on the crotch of you jeans even if they were just goofing off.. then dont walk arond the bar like that the rest of the eve..and when ya get home.. might not be wise to ask her if she knows how to get lipstick out of jeans. toss um!! unless you like your jeans more then your g/f.

If you are in a monogamous relationship, DO NOT allow anyone's lips near your crotch..

If you did, please disclose all info to the other person so everyone is on the same page.

AKA don't lie.

just the crotch?

DO NOT fall for the whole hey my friend spending the night and she has to sleep in our bed with me cause she can't drive another ten minutes (sober) while I am out of town.

Don't smoke your partner's last cigarette leaving your partner without one for the morning


I Also Don't Advise Talking Before Coffee,
Dylan

don't make me snuggle all night after hot sex.
i need space.

Do Not...I repeat...DO NOT drink my last diet coke! I don't care that you are thirsty, or that you are going to the store in 1/2 hour. Don't do it!

Always follow your head. Listen to your heart, but don't let it make the decisions. I know I don't.

Don't ask your partner to bring you and your "study partner" some food right after you have had sex. At least let the smell disappear before.

I'm Sure This Is DSM-able
 

If I'm drinking milk or a milky-like substance (to include, but not limited to, milkshakes, bowls of cereal, protein shakes, chocolate milk), DO NOT just grab the glass and take a sip. In fact, don't even ask me for a sip. Milk is NOT one of those 'sharable' beverages. Because of the consistency of milk, it creates a milk/slobber suspension in which the slobber of others sits suspended in the liquid and not actually absorbed or killed by the beverage (Coke, for example, has enough chemicals to actually kill slobber, making it a "sharable" beverage).



Also, Please Don't Drink Out Of The Milk Carton (same reasons as above),
Dylan...will save you some when I'm done, but we can't have a "back and forth" share-fest when it comes to milky beverages

ok so what if your goofing off and the girl sitting at the bar next to you drops her lighter and youve been cutting up mostly with your butch buds and and being funny you say.." while your down there" then bam! real quick she bites you there... and ya dont think anything off it until someone says something.. i was honest and still she never got over it!!
oh well way in the past.. just came to mind

I think if a bf of mine said to a girl in a bar, "while you are down there" I would
1) question why he would talk trash to a strange girl
2) question why he would think it was an appropriate thing to say when he is in a relationship
3) question his ability to make proper judgements about other things beyond the safety of the zipper of his pants
4) question why I am in a relationship with someone who would make me question 1, 2 and 3
5)tell my BF that being honest doesnt make you unaccountable for your lack of good judgement. It just means you are throwing it all out there at once so you wont have to go thru it inch by inch
6) decide if a strange girl could put her mouth there on a dare, I sure wasnt going to put my mouth there again out of love. The sacredness of our sex would have been violated, and what makes it even worse, is that it was all funny. It wasnt even done seriously...

not picking on you, Cody...it just struck a raw cord in me. You didnt upset me..the scenario did...

yes i hear ya but we had all been cutting up.. having fun her included.. actualy a few girls were messing with us butches and we didnt start it
and she did it as a joak!!! he he ya know fun? see thats why i said never let it happen!! it was a reaction and fun was had by all.. im sorry your so up tight about it.

Just because someone thinks differently, doesn't make them up tight.

by uptight i was refering to this part of her post.


Cody...it just struck a raw cord in me. You didnt upset me..the scenario did...

Again, she puts a different value on things than you do. If there is anything I've learned from this thread, it's that each of us have very different ideas of what is important in a relationship and in interactions with a partner. That doesn't make any of them wrong or right.

Has common courtesy and consideration gone out of style?
 

For the record, if my partner came home with another girl's lipstick on their crotch, they'd sleep on the couch or floor that night while I figured things out and then they'd most likely get out the next day. I do not play games like that because...when *I'm* with *my* friends and some butches come up and we're all messing around and when another butch puts parts of their body on mine...whether joking or not...*my* partner would get upset, and rightfully so. That shit feels terrible and I don't want to be with someone who can so easily minimalize my feelings. I'm with softness on this one. The scenario sucks; this is NOT a judgement call on any of your past experiences, cody. Just the situation as it would apply to me.

If I were single and that happened, it would be a totally different situation because I would not have a relationship with someone else that should be honored above temporary fun.

Riiight? I've never been with someone that shared all of my likes/dislikes in food, so there's always been MINE and YOURS and OURS. Eat whatever you want from the OURS foods, but I don't eat YOURS without permission and I expect the same to apply to MINE. If I am craving that ice cream or candy or cake or whatever and I go to look for it and it's either gone or almost gone or opened when I know damn well I didn't open it, I won't be a happy girl.

I need sleep. :blink:

ok thats why it was posted in the things not to do!!! i fought this battle once many years ago i learned from it.. and didnt realize by posting it "as something not to do" i would feel i had to defend mself..

What NOT to do...
 

Do NOT ignore the KISS (keep it simple stupid) philosophy: When someone shows you who they are, believe them, the first time.

Thinking about it. Feeling it. Worrying about it. Will not change anyone or their behavior. You may ask for what you want (and hopefully you do) BUT. You can't change anyone, save yourself. Everything begins and ends with yourself. Empower yourself in all your relationships (and life) because nothing else will work.

Seriously.

One thing I personally hate is pretentiousness.
Be real and keep it real.
Head games might amuse "you", but may not entertain everyone.

This approach may not work for everyone.
... just sayin. :)

Hi Cody!

It's not you having to defend yourself it's what NOT to do right?


I mean I am a girl and if there were a bunch of butches *yacking* it up I certainly would not think that me putting my mouth on any part of them especially if they are with someone is OK and hell I am a pretty open person and sexual but still know boundaries.

I guess that is what makes us all different in the long run, you see it as a joke and well some of us see it as poor choice on the girls part for not listening to you that you had a girl and you contemplating lying to your girl.

Lesson in all this is.

Milk sharing is icky beyond all get out right up there with SCAT and allowing girls to put their lips on one's crotch ARE NOT good things for a relationship! :)

don't take his last dollar bill out of the big daddy wallet because he likes to always have one for a coke in a can

unless you want a big daddy fit about never having any big daddy bills

teehee