often put a smile on your face when you are talking to your Other...if you have to think about it to do so, work harder at loving her or him. Its your responsibility to make magic happen in the relationship (well its both but I am only talking to one of you)

bring in the groceries and help put them away

put a new roll of TP out before the old one runs out

clean your own hair out of the sink and tub

make dinner like she or he is the most important person in the world

eat dinner at home instead of out, demonstrating you think the cooking there is better than anywhere else

change the sheets on the bed together

bring home a packet of seeds you think will look good in the garden

be the first one to say you are sorry

mean it

Talk. About your day. About friends, family, birds, furniture, decor, dinner, politics, religion, love, lust, likes and dislikes. Talk. About the bad things. Past things. Gone things. Never to have them again things. Wishes, dreams and nightmares. Hopes still held and hopes dashed never to return. Talk. About what makes you happy. More importantly, what makes you angry or sad. Talk. Because we are not all mind readers.

really, considering that yours is the day before your birthday and therefore you will never forget
and that I am dyslexic and therefore will never get it right
I find this comment to be a bit...........
well I already said it to your face
smart ass:hk10::hk10::hk10::hk10::hk10::hk18::hk18:

Always if you have had her on your mind all day about what you would like to do to her LOL

Always go home and SHOW her LOL

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Tell them when you need to be alone
Use logic gently
Be quiet together reading
Listen to complex music together, really listen, with attention
Sit in the woods holding hands
Learn to temper your speech
Embrace mindfulness
Breathe
Be present in your body
Dare to reveal

Respect is a very important element.
Communication without it you have nothing.
Learn to listen to your partner, what you think may not be important is to them.
Compromise if you cannot do this then you are selfish.
Never think you are always right, learn how to say you are sorry when you are wrong.
Never, never make plans to do the uhaul thing so fast, will lead to the end.
Know just because you talk to someone everynight does not mean you know them, people can be who they want on the phone and in the first few meetings.

AMEN AMEN AMEN AND AMEN and especially AAAAAAAMMMMMEEEN to the last one! oOOOOOO so true :)

Be impeccable with your word.

Make time.
Make amends.
Make time.
Make out.
Make time.
Make it all better.
Make time, make time, make time.

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In case yall didnt get it she said Make Time :) LOL j/k Laney

Always sleep in the same bed.

Compliment each other even on the worst days.

accept the fact that you're going to argue

make an agreement that if the argument gets too passionate - you'll drop it so that both of you can calm down.

make an agreement that the disagreement will be readdressed when both are in a better head space.

understand that you both need to have your own life, you don't have to share every facet of your lives with each other.

understand that there will be times where it will be much easier to walk away from each other than to stay and work it out - make an agreement that barring "deal breakers" you'll both strive as hard as possible to work it out.

Remember that people tend to make serious changes in their lives every 7 years or so - as a couple you have to learn to grow together. Don't think that the person you're with today will be the same person 10 years from now - or vice versa. We all change.

When it comes to arguing - ask yourself "Is this the beach I want to die on" Chances are - it's not.

When you argue - never call each other names. It will destroy your relationship. Plain and simple. There's not a single successful healthy long term relationship that contains name calling when arguing.

Understand that your sex life will at times not be a significant part of your life - for various reasons.

Also understand that even if your partner doesn't have a high sex drive it doesn't mean that you can't masturbate - or that they wouldn't enjoy watching you do such.. who knows what it may spark ;)

teasing is one thing - picking on a sensitive subject is another thing. Find out the difference for your partner.

you're going to at some point (probably multiple times during the course of the relationship) take each other for granted - it's a natural human condition. Talk to your partner if you feel that is happening.

Learn how to take constructive criticism.

Buy your partner small knickknack gifts randomly just for the hell of it. It lets them know you're thinking about them.

You and your partner should have this room in your relationship that no one else can go to. This is a figurative room - a room where you and he/she share each others secrets - a room where you talk to each other more than and about more subjects than you talk to anyone else. If you find yourself building a room with someone else - and starting to tell that person more than you tell your partner - you're asking for trouble. Serious trouble.

OMG! Truer words have never been spoken.

I still have a hard time forgiving myself for wasting so many years living for that big change and not trusting my own gut and common sense!

If someone cheats on you once: They Will Do It Again!!!

if she makes a great pecan pie,
tell her that you want one for supper tonight!!

take time to go fishing even bait her hook I think it is all the little things kind of like a glue that binds
when I look at her I don't think well I wish she would change I look and see the face that I want to be the last thing I see at night and the first thing I see in the morning.. I would not change a thing

Be a sweet, kind lover.

never forget the butterflies you first felt when you met them... :-)

Starry (f)

Take responsibility for your own feelings.

Don't let the pets sneak into the bedroom and wake him up when his alarm is going off at 5am...

What's that now?

DON'T GIVE UP ON SOMEONE YOU CAN'T GO A DAY WITHOUT THINKING ABOUT.

HOLD HER AS MUCH AS POSSIBLE AND JUST BE.

Do what works for you and your partner, don't let others tell you how your relationship Should be.

Laugh together everyday at all the crazy stuff you encounter

Share everything~ feelings, the bed, the covers (hint hint honey!), even your ice cream cone

Don't be afraid, don't expect to be hurt, don't keep your guard up. They are not your past, and they shouldn't have to pay for what the past has done to you

Communicate!!!

Love with all you have, and accept the love you are given~ he has shown me what it is truly like to be LOVED and I am completely in love with him bc of it