It took me quite a long time after breaking up to even think about dating. In fact it took me about 3 years. The first year you sit back a bit dumbfounded. You wonder what went wrong, you blame yourself even if it wasnt you fault. The second year you place ads, talk to a few people and that can be a major trip! You step back, re-evaluate and proceed with caution. You decide that maybe a forum of a bit of queer networking is in order and to take it one step at a time. By the third year you meet a few people and encounter some BS and drama. It make you really start to miss even the worse relationship.

Isn't that funny because I too have been approached lately by lots of younger boi's. Cute, playful but was thinking the exactly same thing as you. I'm honestly not sure what I want but I know "something" needs to get my interest to fully engage me. I'm too busy for causal nothingness so if I'm going to take the little free time I do have I want to invest it into at least an awesome life long friendship.

So if you're looking for good conversation then here I am. If you can manage a bit of fishing that might be good too.

:police:Hey ,, this is nice .. been single for awhile...

fishing? figuratively or literally? I'm always up for good conversation with an intelligent woman. Hit Me up in yahoo somtime...

Good Evening Everyone,

Berl, I agree with you. I broke up in early March with my ex. I gave up my job, apartment and my family to be with her. I moved to Seattle and unfortunately, the relationship didn't last. I moved home two and a half weeks later and I won't give up my life unless I know that my partner is in it for the long haul.

Lipstix, your family are missing out on watching you have a life. One day, they will realize this, but by then, it will be to late....When I had to make the decision of talking to my bio dad, it was hard, but one that I don't regret. My life is much better and I know who my true family is...Hugs...

Ruthie, tell that piece of shyt to piss off...You deserve much better than what she has done to you....Hugs


Hope everyone else has had a wonderful day,

Zimmy

Welcome to all of the new people and hope you all are having a wonderful day and are enjoying the BFP site...

Zimmy

I'm going to chime in for a moment and I haven't read through the latest posts so I'm probably off the subject at hand but.....

I'm single and will likely stay that way for awhile longer. I haven't been involved in long term for more than 18 years. I think I would like to meet someone eventually, but the thing is, I don't believe that dating has to carry
that goal. I would date to have fun, not to get into a relationship.

If, in the course of dating, I develop some deep feelings than sure. But I would never ask anyone out because I was searching. I'd ask them out to have a good time; I believe in dating around. I would also make that very clear at the start. I have resent being pinned down. Just my .02

I agree with you Jet I am the same way and I've been single ten years not because I had to but I needed to plus focusing on myself and my goals , I'm not getting any younger and I am finding out that the younger appear to be interested in the older folk which is nice but I perfer someone really close to my age. " No offense to the late 20's and 30's. just my two cent's.:police:

sometimes I get a glimpse of not wanting to be single when I see my friend's girl making dinner for him. I don't want her because I don3 make moves on anyone elses lady but I thought it must be nice. Ok I'm over it. Lol

I don't know why younger people are attracted to older folks. But...I'm with you...I'm flattered. Hey, we're not gettin any younger.

Good Morning Lipstix,

You are welcome and hoping your internship goes a lot better this morning...

Have fun~!

Zimmy

Good Morning Everyone,

Hope you all are having a good start to your day. It is in the low 70's here, but the high today is going to be near 100. Thank goodness, I don't have any errands to run.

Have fun,

Zimmy

Hi everybody :)

Just popping into this thread for the first time. I'm single and living in the Cincinnati area.

Hope everybody is bearing the summer heat well!


~Clever

Thanks
 

Zimmy thanx for the thread :)
I live in Az. and 103 degrees for today..last night at 10pm it was just 98...lol
anyway, I am single, not doing too much dating, but looking forward to meeting new ladies, who knows where it can lead to, eventually..also to meet some good butches and tmen as friends. My last relationship was about a year ago, we tried the LDR for 2 years, eventually I moved to be with her but, well...it just wasn't meant to be, nuff said. We're friends now, I guess that's all it was meant to be, and that is OK.
So, "I'm back on the market", so to speak.
Anyway...guess that's all for now.
Everybody have a great weekend :)

Welcome FC and Paposeco!

The only way to beat this heat is to go swimming or stay inside if you can. I'm not looking forward to August and September here in Florida.

Leaving cool drinks and have a good day,

Zimmy

Good night everyone....

Hope you all sleep well and have a good start to your day tomorrow..I am taking my three year old niece to school tomorrow for my mom and then I am coming back home...

Zimmy

Sweet dreams!

Thank you Zimmy, for starting a thread for singles, of all identities. I hope everyone has a cool weekend. :)

Good Afternoon Liam,

You are welcome...I am a music junkie, some of my fave bands are Motley Cure, The Cure, NIN, Manson and PitBull...My iPhone has almost one gig of music on it and I am going to upgrade to the 16 gig iPhone so I can put more music on it...

Hope you are having a good day,

Zimmy

Hope everyone is having a wonderful end to their Friday nights and their work week...

I am off to La La Land and since my roommate is off this weekend, I get to sleep in..Woohoo...I might make a trip to visit my mom in NSB, FL and go swimming...

Have a wonderful Friday night!!!

Zimmy

as in dropping a line. There are some great trout spots waterfalls up this way.

Puttering with wood and tools will be the highlight of this single's day.

I am a free agent here in hot humid Louisiana!

Hope that everyone is having a relaxing day!

I love to trout fish! I'm from WV...it's what We do!

fishing
 

Cool

I would love to go fishing here some time I just need to get my gear together..Don't have anything. Since I moved back home and don't feel like asking a friend to send it down from alaska...just 1 pole. I need to get all new tackle.
Bummer.

Yes, flying solo here and it can get rather lonely here.
only been out of my last relationship about less than a yr BUT she was gone all last yr and very little contact other than by phone.
:2butch:
:(

Hello ya'll,

Hope you have a good week. It's hotter than hell right now and no relief in sight. Just about praying for a Monsoon.

just wondering
 

I don't have a formula for you to follow, and I think this would be a great reason to find a therapist, if you don't already have one, and discuss it with them. I think that its important to trust yourself, and when setting up that first meeting, be smart—let your friends know where you are going, preferably it is a public space. If its in another city, make sure your friends know the name, address and phone number of the person you are going to see. Have a friend that you can check in with.

I agree with Liam and also want to add that when I'm interested in someone I watch the little things that they do. Some things may be insignificant to others but you can learn a lot about a persons character by little things that they do. It's also hard because sometimes unexpected circumstances lead to certain situations in life that people never thought they would be a part of. Good luck with your search.

I agree with both Liam and Organicbutch. My ex thread stalked me before we started dating and when she decided to end the relationship, she threw a lot of stuff in my face that I had written on the other site over two years earlier when I first joined. From what I have seen, is that she still goes and looks at my profile page on the other site and has had her friends pm me here on this site to see what I will tell them of the breakup. I learned a hard lesson and one I won't repeat again. I have met some wonderful ppl from this site and the other site, and I haven't let what she did to me affect my trust in ppl.

Have fun today,

Zimmy

Good Afternoon Singles,

Hope everyone had a wonderful start to their week. I spent the day watching my oldest niece, nephew and baby nephew for my mom. It was hotter than hell outside today and I am glad to be home in the a/c.

Have fun tonight!!!

Zimmy

It is hotter as hell here too. We did get some good rains over the pass 2 or 3 days. Now its hot as hell and steamy to boot!!! LoL.

Hurry up Fall!!!

Good Morning Everyone,

Hope you all have a good day and keep cool. They are predicting temps up near 95 degrees here today, so I am going to stay inside as much as I can.

Have fun today,

Zimmy