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ruffryder 10-31-2011 05:05 PM
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Originally Posted by ScandalAndy (Post 451330)
So, I had a casual dinner with ambulance girl on the 12th. I was out of town from the 13th through the 17th. When I got back I asked if she wanted to hang out, she said it was her birthday that week so she was booked, but we would definitely get together the following week. She started a second job and plans never materialized. I asked her this past Thursday if she wanted to see a movie with me, she agreed to Wednesday. I did all the research for theaters and show times. She responds to texts for a couple minutes, then just disappears.

I think this girl is awesome, but lately I'm starting to get the feeling that if she was into me, she would make time to hang out with me or answer my texts. Am I barking up the wrong tree, here?
Sorry it's not working out the way you would like it to. I think you are right that she should be showing more interest. Have you tried to call her? Sometimes, life takes over. Try a call or another text. Express your interest of spending time with her and that you would like to again when she can and you look forward to hearing from her so you can make plans. Leave it like that with the ball in her court. You will know soon enough. I wouldn't keep texting however. That can lead to disappointment and frustration if no one is answering. Good luck!

Rockinonahigh 10-31-2011 09:37 PM
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Originally Posted by *Anya* (Post 451665)
Why don't you try one of the lesbian dating sites? It is surprising how many women use them now and there are all different age categories.

As we age, we do not just run into them at nightclubs or the grocery store any more, we have to put ourselves out there.

I had a date with an ex-nun this past Saturday and another date with someone else this coming weekend (not an ex-nun this time).

I even heard from a woman that got out of federal prison-yeah me!! (No, no date there for me).

I figure I have nothing to lose and may meet "the one" one of these dates!
:bunchflowers:

I tryed that many years ago....some needed to b in a mental ward...the rest were so hard up to b with someone I thought I needed a guard dog..Good idea but bad results.

deedarino 02-15-2012 09:58 AM
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Originally Posted by Rockinonahigh (Post 451957)
I tryed that many years ago....some needed to b in a mental ward...the rest were so hard up to b with someone I thought I needed a guard dog..Good idea but bad results.
LOL...it is so true.


I can usually *feel* if someone is into me. When the actions match the words...thats how you know.

ScandalAndy 02-15-2012 10:48 AM
Now that this thread has popped back up on my radar, I feel compelled to add that ambulance girl and I did go on a second date, after which she asked to walk me to my car, then informed me that she had been seeing someone for a few months and she hoped i understood. Apparently I am really nice and smart and awesome, but she wanted to see where things went with this other girl. Whom she had been dating for three months.

I think it was questionable interest at best, so I still don't know how to tell if someone is ACTUALLY into me. :)

Kobi 02-15-2012 11:06 AM
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Originally Posted by ScandalAndy (Post 527629)
Now that this thread has popped back up on my radar, I feel compelled to add that ambulance girl and I did go on a second date, after which she asked to walk me to my car, then informed me that she had been seeing someone for a few months and she hoped i understood. Apparently I am really nice and smart and awesome, but she wanted to see where things went with this other girl. Whom she had been dating for three months.

I think it was questionable interest at best, so I still don't know how to tell if someone is ACTUALLY into me. :)

I have had to revisit my thinking on this myself lately.

I know for me, I make it pretty clear when I am interested. It in the attention I give, the contact I maintain, the things I say and the things I do.

It's also pretty clear when I have mixed feelings. There is an inconsistency in the stuff mentioned above.

And, I still have no freakin clue how people date more than one person at a time.


Mr Nice Guy 02-15-2012 11:31 AM
When it comes to online....I have no clue unless she sends me a pm or hits me with a hammer.
When it comes to real life.... Well I sometimes have a clue.

LipstickLola 02-20-2012 11:14 PM
Trust me on this, if they come right out and tell you how beautiful, amazing, and awesome you are.........run like he11 :seeingstars:

Greyson 02-20-2012 11:24 PM
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Originally Posted by LipstickLola (Post 532275)
Trust me on this, if they come right out and tell you how beautiful, amazing, and awesome you are.........run like he11 :seeingstars:
This made me laugh. Although, I get that you are quite serious about what you are saying here.

I am partnered so I am not in the dating pool but when I have been single, I have noticed sometimes (not always) if they appear to not pay attention or communicate, then oh yes, they are interested. This may not add up but it is true sometimes.

LipstickLola 02-21-2012 12:49 PM
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Originally Posted by Greyson (Post 532281)
This made me laugh. Although, I get that you are quite serious about what you are saying here.

I am partnered so I am not in the dating pool but when I have been single, I have noticed sometimes (not always) if they appear to not pay attention or communicate, then oh yes, they are interested. This may not add up but it is true sometimes.
It's ok, go ahead on and laugh..........:confused::confused: kidding! I'll be able to laugh again soon! I'll take the not interested/non-communicative under advisement :)

JAGG 02-21-2012 01:51 PM
If someone said you were good looking lipsticklola why would you run like hell? I'd be flattered. For me I always know when someone is attracted to me, if I'm attracted to them. I have never been attracted to someone and wonder if they like me too. Maybe because I am very direct with my flirting, and I find out either way right off the bat. If it seems like I'm not noticing you flirting or I am not responding the way you hoped and you have to wonder if I'm interested, then I'm probably not .

girl_dee 02-21-2012 01:55 PM
Apparently i am a 2x4 femme so i dunno.

always2late 02-21-2012 02:04 PM
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Originally Posted by LipstickLola (Post 532275)
Trust me on this, if they come right out and tell you how beautiful, amazing, and awesome you are.........run like he11 :seeingstars:
Hearing that wouldn't make me run...but I'll tell you what would (and should). Whenever anyone says "You are too good for me" or "You could do so much better than me"....BELIEVE THEM! :)

Scuba 02-21-2012 02:04 PM
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Originally Posted by Cajun_dee (Post 532675)
Apparently i am a 2x4 femme so i dunno.
Ditto...butch that is.

afemmenatalie 02-21-2012 02:08 PM
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Originally Posted by scubadyke (Post 532682)
Ditto...butch that is.
Ditto.....femme that is!

Cuddles 02-21-2012 02:09 PM
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Originally Posted by always2late (Post 532681)
Hearing that wouldn't make me run...but I'll tell you what would (and should). Whenever anyone says "You are too good for me" or "You could do so much better than me"....BELIEVE THEM! :)
That was my last relationship exactly. I feel like rescuing the damsel in distress sometimes and I'm all for being supportive but I couldn't take the pity-wagon day in and day out. I'm not saying she has to be the most confident person in the world (I can help her develop her confidence) but a little goes a long way... you know?

JAGG 02-21-2012 03:43 PM
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Originally Posted by always2late (Post 532681)
Hearing that wouldn't make me run...but I'll tell you what would (and should). Whenever anyone says "You are too good for me" or "You could do so much better than me"....BELIEVE THEM! :)
ABSOLUTELY!!! Or if they ask why me, why do you love me so much? Or if they say, you don't want to date me, I'm to this or too that or I'm not this or that. Just say oh ok I didn't know that, my bad and run!!! Count your blessings every step you take in the opposite direction. =)

LipstickLola 02-21-2012 10:21 PM
I'll be looking very forward to a more settled, boring existence :)

Sassy 02-21-2012 10:29 PM
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Originally Posted by always2late (Post 532681)
Hearing that wouldn't make me run...but I'll tell you what would (and should). Whenever anyone says "You are too good for me" or "You could do so much better than me"....BELIEVE THEM! :)
That or if someone tells you up front they're an asshole. Believe them. Yup yup...

Ginger 03-11-2012 08:29 PM
How to tell
 
Is she into you? Words are nice. But I trust actions.

JustBeingMe 08-10-2013 07:34 PM
I'm definately a 2x4 butch and don't have a dang clue when someone is into me anymore. So if they don't just come right out and say they are interested in me, I have no clue at all anymore. I'm very shy until I get to know someone, but I dunno how to talk to them anymore either. LOL


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