I feel like I tend to be the hunter. :cigar2:

Im both the hunter and prey... It just happens that way.

I'm the hunter, but I tend to hang back and observe for awhile before making a move!

My style is that of a medium sized cat. I hunt alone. My personal habits are rarely observed. I will lay on a cliff just watching your habits, waiting. You rarely see me.

I'm most comfortable being pursued. I'll flirt in a way that makes my interest known, but I could never make the first move. Yes, prey.

I'm still the "hunter"..so is my wife,that's how she got me.

Yep, I also got it bad for someone from this site. I'd say over a decade now,goes back to the original site.It's her mind I'm in love with and nothing else.

If she only knew the power she has over me. :bowdown:

Her posts are legendary..for me anyway.

Sad part is she lives far away..might as well be Venus.

When I saw this thread last night my first thought was...

Good grief... it's been a while!

My second thought was...

Well, I'm definitely not prey. My side thought was... Although ... some femmes are quite adept at letting the Butch think they're not prey. lol

I concluded, so then... I'm a hunter!

I thought back to a time when I hunted... and thought back ... and thought back ... and thought back ... and then I remembered a (now embarrassingly) cocky mantra from my youth ... I don't chase. lol SMH

I was standing in the middle of my kitchen ... with furrowed brow ... trying to recollect how I ever got girlfriend in light of these glaring contradictions... I'm a hunter and I don't chase ... and then... it hit me!

I'm a ... Venus Fly Trap!! :blush:

I quite literally laughed out loud when that name and image popped into my head last night. I know... I admit... it may not seem as sexy as hunter or prey but ... more importantly... I've never gone hungry. ;)

This thread has proven to be a most interesting trip down memory lane and self-reflection. Thank you!


p.s. I want y'all to know I resisted the urge to replace Venus Fly Trap with something else that lures and is a lot more Butch!! Let's all pretend I said the very butch... Alligator Snapping Turtle! :p

you find Me in My wranglers and cowboy boots and usually a polo shirt or button down and My ball cap

This has changed radically for me over twenty years. Twenty years ago I was definitely prey.

Last fall I stalked someone at a leather weekend (in order to determine what I might use to start a conversation, nothing more) and eventually wound up offering to buy her a cup of coffee. Success with the coffee and almost success with more but alas it was not to be.

There are still times when I need a clear signal that more might be welcome. So I put a lil bait out there and if it's snapped up, it's on.

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I will let a butch know I'm interested in hym ~ a look , smile , get hys attention ~ then I'm prey ~

When I have dated in the past, I like to pursue. I also date “soft butches” or more feminine dykes (not necessarily femmes) so I guess it works out.

It depends on the personality of the person I want to hook-up with. Can vary between butch and andro Top (rare) to serious butch submissive and masochist (frequent) or sammie or even the rare brat personae.

Got to be able to read the person or people in order to make my split second decision where to go. That keeps the excitement up even in my relationship.

I don't know if it's because I'm femme, but I always end up making the first move. I would like to be pursued once, lol.

I like the femme to make the first gesture, then I'll make a move.
See, I'm one of those smiling, friendly people, and in a lesbian setting my natural friendliness is sometimes read as flirtation, when it's not.
Sometimes I give my closest friends nice 'just because' gifts or pay for dinner, and some of them have thought I was trying to get in their pants.
What does one say to an old, platonic friend who thinks that, when their pants are of zero interest to me?
If I've known them 20+ years I'd usually say, "You wish."
They reply, "No, YOU wish."
"Yeah? You wish I wished."
"You're too wishy washy to wish!"
"You need a trailer for that ego!"
"You need one for your self help books.."
"F*uck that!"
"No, f*ck you , you f*cking f*ck."
"No, thanks."
etc.

After a few dozen rounds of that..we get bored and go back to normal.
But if I get that kind of static from someone I'm not making moves on, I'm sometimes kind of scared to make an actual first move and get the same reaction. Make sense?

I find that lots of femmes tend to be comfortable making moves, and I think it's great. The best lovers I've ever had always made the most memorable first moves.:rrose::rrose:

I always flirt, let them take me from there ~ enough said. lol

Depends on the person... In general though I think I make the first move to show interest and then go from there. Same way back in high school, with the addition of hand-written notes, drawings, and poetry (To all my ex's: I'm so, so sorry for all that poetry... :| I mean, it worked..but still.. #angstybabyfemmedyke )

Depends. Sometimes I'm the bug and sometimes I'm the windshield. :|

I'm prey.

*runs off nervously giggling :byebye:

I prefer to think of it as a dance, rather than predator vs. prey. I wouldn't want to do the preying or be preyed upon lol. I'd rather be swept off my feet. :bellydancer: