I once said never again would I ever take the trip down the isle,I did it twice both were for all the wrong reasons at diffrent times of my life.The first to young and wanting to get away from home..didnt happen then divorce and two kids later turned me upside down like I never thought I would be dealing with.The second he was a friend from my past who my kids loved like a dad..he loved them as well so it became a conveniance thing evn tho he knew I didnt do bio guys ever again.As with things it came to an end and we are still friends tho with a lot of distance.
At this point in my life i'm free,that sounds great but it dose get to be a lonly road to walk.If I ever do tale the plunge again I will spend time makeing shure its what we both want and what we both can handle the ebb and flow of the life.I'm older,I hope wiser.The future,well we will see.

marriage, for me, was aping no hettie. The rules of our marriage was between me and my wife. two wives.

Our marriage aped heterosexuals about as much as our sex life does. we have sex at night in a bed most of the time, just like hetties. We eat three meals a day, just like hetties. we go to work, go to the park, roller skate, ride a bike, have kids, have cats, travel, stay in B&B's ( and want the same rights about staying in a B&B in the same bed as a hettie) but all of these things aren't "aping" hetties. So why would the choice to get married and be self sovreign over your own relationship be aping a hettie any more than all the other things we do in a day/lifetime that's the same at hetties?

I didn't own my wife. she didn't own me. Just like the original meaning of the term "queer" wasn't very nice but it's been reclaimed. I reclaimed marriage for myself and my wife. Our rules. Our love. Our decisions. I get really pissed off about people saying my marraige aped some hetties marriage. How the hell would they know?

I also get pissed off with people saying my partners using a strap on apes heterosexual sex too.

If my partner picker wasn't broken, I would say "yes." But since that is not the case, my answer is "no".

I'm divorced.

I would get married again one day if I felt it was the right person, place and circumstance. If it doesn't happen I am ok with that, too. It's not a goal, but if it happens, it happens. And I plan on making a MUCH better decision next time than I did the first! I didn't get married for the right reasons the first time.

Things morph and change (like marriage or not marriage), and I was really hoping for some discussion...your answer is perfect!

I believe in open marriage. It has worked for me for years. In my current situation, I have been in an open marriage for 10 years (maybe longer, she's the one that keeps track).

Do I believe we, LGBT people deserve the right to get married? Absolutely. However, is this our only rallying cry in the LGBT community, because it kind of seems like it is.

Housing discrimination, job discrimination, bullying of LGBT kids or perceived LGBT kids, hate crimes---seem to me MUCH bigger issues in which to rally our community around.

Rope--

I completely agree that there are much more important issues for our community...however this one seems to wake up everyone and suceed in bringing visability to our struggles.

Equality is important, human dignity is imperative, but what other issue has brought our struggles to this point? We have to fight the battles as they come (in my opinion), and after marriage we go for something else...because we are seen as "equal" in one way, it will be harder to justify continued inequality in housing, jobs, etc....

If I met the right girl, I would absoulutly ask her to marry me. I love the idea of it. Are there other issues affecting our community, yes there are. But marriage is an issue of the heart and of love and for me a very important issue. I want to be able to marry the person I love just like any other person on the planet. We are all human, gay, straight and everyone in between. If I want to marry my fellow human no matter what the gender or orientation, I should be able to do it without judgement. So yes marriage is for me. And wherever you are girl of my dreams....look out cause I'm coming for ya and I'm gonna ask you to marry me ;)

No, but being in love and monogamous is. I just don't like contracts with the government.

Seeing as we now have equal marriage in Aotearoa/New Zealand, I'm a hell yeah! I'm never been married, but want to some day.

to be or not to be married
 

I am unconventional about marriage besides the obvious. Marriage is a heart place. I am monogomous about that set of feelings. I have the one place there for her. I love living alone. I dont mind not being in the same town. I would like two houses tho. I dont have to have our lives intertwine. Im not sure I am capable of intertwining. Marriage means you are my priority along with your children and my family. Marriage means sharing.

Marriage is a feeling that doesnt go away. It is something I feel I cannot change and that I cannot control. I have tried. It is like wifefi. It is always there except when service gets interrupted.

Been married twice for 11 yrs each time.. I hear third times a charm! So Yes. I do & would again.

Very adorable !! :)

Marriage
 

is just a word some people take seriously and others just pretend to take seriously. If I need a piece of paper to convince me, where I belong who my heart belongs to or I need to feel safe I need therapy not a license.

With all do respect IMHO it is more then just a piece of paper. It could mean the difference between someone having admittance to their partner in a hospital or being allowed to make decisions for said partner. Then there's tax breaks and I could go on.
As for the question. I've been married twice.The first time I was way to young and not for the right reasons as we were pressured by family.The second one was to my partner of 11 years we are divorced but on good terms. So would I marry again, absolutely I love the commitment and love that surrounds it.

I see, well it depends how you look at it. A power of attorney is effective, actually more powerful than a license. And why do I need a license to show love and commitment? It's a personal choice.

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I Never was,so i'm somewhat curious about being married..
but like..curiousity killed the cat.
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I have never been married so IDK.

Now that it is legal in the US, I still don't know if I want to be married

My choice of partners hasn't been good or the relationships don't last long.

I really do not want to deal with all that entails a failed marriage either.