Lipstickgal,

My parents, esp. my mother, was verbally abusive towards me about my weight growing up. I was very thin and extremely muscular. I was out playing football, tennis, lifting weights, and so on. I weighted maybe 100 pounds soaking wet in high school. Everything else was muscle. She was embarassed by me. I was the exact opposite of her ideals of what it was to be a girl/woman/female gender.

If I talk with them today, the entire conversation is just about my weight. Even if I tell them it is not a subject up for debate or discussion, they ignore it. It wasn't until a friend of theirs was in their home, and walked in on a heated conversation of ours, it would have still gone on. I no longer talk with them at all. It is how I survive mentally. As parents, they should be ashamed of themselves. But they are too mentally ill to even know it.

Andrew

((((((((((((((((((((((((kfemme)))))))))))))))))))) ))))))))))

Sending you back the biggest hug ever :bunchflowers:

I definately agree with this ~ we can only be the best person that we can personally be, and if no one else likes it I say to heck with them!!!!

My 2 confessions...
 

Hello Andrew..Byddy I know how u feel about wild shorts,I feel the same about shirts..Hawiian shirts,I have a closet full of them,I get told they are a bit out of style but not to me,last year my cousin went there for vacation and brought me back six of the real deal...love em.

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we neeeeeeeed pictures!! please??

:threadneedspics:

and as far as "out of style"...who cares!?! i say, wear what ya like, not what others like! (this could be because i have never been "in style", but regardless...)

Have i mentioned we need pictures?? :cheesy:

pictures...
 

Well I have never been in style either,when I was showing horses everyone dresed like a cowboy except me when I wasnt rideing I wore wild tropical shorts n shirts and straw hat.Yep, a rebel even then,about pictures..well when I figure out how to work photo bucket I will gladly post a fue.

I agree, us guys should post pics of our "out-of-style" styles :lol2:

I whole heartedly agree with rav; we should always wear what we like, not what others exect us to cuz ya know we're rebels like that :hangloose:

If you like that style, no matter what the world thinks, wear it proudly bro :D

Yeah you should post pics bro, would be neat to see you rock your own style for the world to see and do so proudly :thumbsup:

I don't think they ever go out of style!!!!

I ha to get this post going again, so I could add my voice to those praising big, beautiful, butches. There is nothing like being on the arm of a big, strong butch & knowing I'll be in her arms that night!

How very true! :moonstars:

I have been plus size most of my life. I've had times when I was cool with it, and times that it caused me lots of pain. But regarding big butches - THEY are FINE! I agree with posters above who love to be escorted, held and loved by a wonderful big butch. The fire has tested you and made you stronger - I love that strength.
Many Smooches,
Keri

Amen brudda!! ;)

Interesting thread. I tend not to use the terms "obese" or "overweight" because I think that they are negative, pathologizing and unhelpfully position some bodies as normative and others as "deviant". I prefer "fat".

With regards to health, I prefer the HAES (Health at Every Size) approach as an alternative to weight-loss dieting, which I believe is unhealthy. I know a psychologist who specializes in eating disorders and she made the point in a recent interview that the very behaviours prescribed as solutions to those labelled ''overweight'' or ''obese'' are often the same practices she as a practitioner diagnoses in those with clinical eating disorders like bulimia and anorexia. I think part of the reason conversations like these are often very highly-charged is that it's difficult to separate out fat stigma from questions around body size and health. Anyway, there are growing number of resources available to fat people- many of them targeted to queer, lesbian, butch/femme and transgender audiences. If anyone's interested in fat-positive materials for butches of size, just message me.

As far as sexual attraction is concerned, I'm not attracted to fat or bigger butches in spite of their size but because of it. A big butch really turns my head and gets the juices flowing! Of course I'm not only attracted to fat butches and instant physical attraction isn't the only or even the primary characteristic I look for in a prospective partner but in a room of otherwise equally attractive butches, it's ze fat butch who attracts and holds my attention first.

I love your post and so agree with you! I wish more people had this level of awareness.

Is the interview you mentioned online by chance? I am psyched to hear a psychologist make that point. Very cool :)