just love in all ways.. heart, mind, body and soul. Everything else will come naturally. :)

Hmm..I think feeling loved starts with self. I'm not sure I allow myself to feel loved, so I have to get over that hurdle. Then, I suppose it would be kind words, kind gestures, patience, feeling heard and appreciated, also feeling that the other person(s) are willing to receive my love. Sounds like a good start, I may be back after pondering some more...

I need...
acceptance of my imperfections

feeling protected and safe

consistency

honesty

trust

respect

communication

passion and romance

humor

I only ask what I myself have to give as well.

I am sure there are other "things".

However, could someone just love me for ME? If you love Me for Me.. the rest just falls into place (atleast in my experience), I can honestly say I have only dated 1 woman and lived with another that truly loved and accepted me for me good and bad quirks and all. Communcation, is key.

*thinking no wonder I mentioned in the other thread that a hug would feel good right now*

It's gotta be done right!
 

Making sure that pesky spot mid shoulder blades is scratched thoroughly without direction when it itches!

Nothing material will make me feel loved.It won't be nothing she said.It won't be nothing she does for me physically.I feel loved when she's right there by me.She can be a thousand and one miles away from me,but I can still feel her right next to me.I can pick up my phone and give her a call and hear her voice.I feel loved when she looks at me and without speaking any words tells me to "fix it" (take action,take the reigns)and I can.

Kindness

Surprises (doesn't have to be expensive gifts)

Let me be who I am - don't love me for what you think you can change me into

Emotional and intellectual intimacy

Should have a couple things in common

Treat my family kindly. You don't have to like them but be kind because I love them.

Be secure enough to not get upset when I go out with my friends and I will do the same.

Support my dreams as I would support yours.

ATTENTION! I am an attention whore galore. If I give you my time and attention I expect it back in return!

I need
 

Choccie, lots of it!

I second what Viva said, choccie! And Lots of it too!

Loved
 

Being single is hard at times and easy at times. Sometimes I feel all alone in the world but then I remember that I have friends and family.

I have raised kids with different partners but the boys that I raised with my best friend are all mine. Kids by love not blood. When my boys hug me I know that I am loved in a way that I never thought was possible. I am the unlikely parent of two loving and kind grown men.

Sometimes I just need a bit of reassurance.

My friends, my family, a kitty, a career that I love has made the biggest difference in my life ever. I get people I can help with pain, I touch people I helpful, non-hurtful, non-sexual ways all day - for many it's the first time they have experienced that. I love introducing people to new touch, especially if they have difficulty with touch. I know how much it can change brain chemistry, and I think it's important. As someone who was trained as a primatologist, I know how important touch is to our functioning as primates. Our brain chemistry changes for the better even when we think we don't need it, so getting a very good, well trained massage (non-invasive) eases stresses when we don't have regular touch in our lives.

The care I can bring my patients and the respect I get back I can't tell you much that matters in my life. I used to suffer from depression, stress, feeling like I wasn't any use or that I wasn't good enough... Became codependent in relationship by tiring myself out trying to be useful to others and killing myself in the process, trying to get praise and a sense of value. Work certainly didn't give it to me - bosses and line mangers were awful, when I worked in service industry customers were rude and sometimes down right cruel.

Now I work with people who are genuinely interested in what I can do to help. And actually doing something that stops pain by adjusting their bodies is better than an orgasm.

So it affects how I feel in myself and how I feel with others. I still need cuddles from my friends, from my cat. I still need intimacy from my friends. But I'm way, way more happy single now and feel loved and appreciated and I'm not killing myself for someone anymore. My patience for bullshit is zero as well, because I know how easy it is to be single. Frankly, it's easier lol.

I've got a good family and good friends and an amazing career. Broke as fuck, mind. But I have my rent and bills paid and I can eat. So, I'm ok.

I do feel loved. I also feel I can take care of myself and it's not hard. Not a struggle.

Just a little bit of time...

I'm independent. I'm a career woman. I'm intelligent and decently well educated. I'm a realist, I stand with my heels firmly on the ground. I can hold my own in the big boys business world out there. I take no BS and I do not back down.

Then again at the end of the day, when corporate lights go down, and our daily masks start to peal off, I make my way home. At the end of the day I am just a girl... I am a full blooded woman... I need you...

Pay attention, miss me....tell me that you've missed me... show me that you've noticed... Make me laugh, make me giggle like a little girl. Only you can make me giggle like that. Only you know the silly, crazy, stupid, childish side of me.

Talk to me, arouse my mind... calm my thoughts... Hold me like a child, hold me life a woman. Wrap your gorgeous hands around my waist and pull me in, closer, closer.... I want to hear your loud foreceful heartbeat. I want to inhale your scent. Disarm me with you gentle strength. Make me feel like a woman... I want to be loved, I want to be safe and protected, I want to be yours...your and no one else's. I want to be your girl, I want to be your lover, I want to be all woman for you...

That all... all I need to feel loved is just a little time...miss me, let me know you've noticed...Let me know you still care...

kind, wise, love-unconditional, in sync

Don't ignore me. I am the quintessential babygirl in that aspect. My butch tends to tune me out:
1. because she doesn't multitask well
2. because I talk more than she is used to - or likes...lmao she's told me to shut up on more than one occasion. That I have no issue with.
3. because I need more of that type of attention than she's used to

But when she doesn't really listen to me it upsets me. I've always been like that. I'll even make people look right at me so I know they're listening to me if something is important. When she ignores me I feel...maybe not unloved, but unimportant. I know what she's like - this is my hangup, but it's a big one. She makes more of an effort to pay attention to me when I need it, and I make more of an effort to actually tell her "hey you need to stop ignoring me" and to accept her flaws instead of saying "I take her as she is, no matter what" but then actually not accepting who she is. I forget sometimes she can't read minds and has no idea what it's like to be needy in the way I am.

But there's so much else she does for me that I need: she takes care of me, she teaches me things I don't know, she makes me eat my vegetables when I come visit her cause my health actually matters, she makes me go to bed when I'm up at 4am when I shouldn't be, she reins me in when I get too cocky and arrogant, she loves me even when I'm unloveable, she ignores my sulking when I forget I'm not a jealous person and she puts me right back in line when I'm out of control.

These are the things I need to feel loved. One thing she mostly fails at. All the others, she mostly succeeds - better than anyone I've ever known.

Little things, as I grow older I see that little things mean more than big things in the relationship but sex will always be a huge one for me.

Could not do without any of these ...
 

Your love language
 

There is quiz you can take online that will tell you what you #1 and #2 languages are out of five. It was interesting, because my wife and I took and realized that we not only do NOT need the same things....but we also didn't "talk" in the language the other needed. I am a touch language and she is an act of service.

Just exactly what I am experiencing now.
♡♡♡

To feel sexy (even when I'm not), to feel attended to, and to feel valuable.

Yes, and a book as well The Five Love Languages written by Gary D. Chapman. I just re-read it last year and even tho it's aimed at straight people, I've found it very helpful.

To feel appreciated, to be shown appreciation.

I have to be heard. I need hym to listen to me. And listen to me with the intent of understanding, not with the intent of changing my mind. We don't have to always agree, but I have to know I'm being heard.

This. I need to feel listened to. I need to feel accepted no matter what as well. And to feel valued. I also need a fair amount of attention.

thoughtful leadership, kind guidance, respect, meaningful kisses

Actions is another good one to add to my list.

Actions do speak louder than words!

Yes they do, they speak volumes, and I think that is what you can always count on.

I agree whole heartedly as well!

I need her to be respectful and it is shown through her actions.

I am talking about those intrinsic characteristics along the lines of but not limited to respect, ethics, character ...
Here are some thoughts on that:
To feel loved I need a woman who is honest, won't lie to me or intentionally leave out certain parts because I consider that withholding part of the truth (not telling entire truth) which to me is a subtle form of lying ... one who believes in me enough to realize I really have integrity which encompasses thing like
being open and honest with her, won't lie to her, won't say or do things to evoke jeoulousy, won't betray her, cheat on her, realizes I know my humor can be somewhat goofy at times, I need a femme who can give in to her silly side

I could go on and on but need to get up off this patio chair and get busy with my outdoor work. All of this does not matter anyway. I have been off the romance market for a very long time and intend to remain that way. I am content. :)

I never have to worry, I know I can count on you:hk8:

It's hard to put into words what makes me feel loved. I'm not sure I even know half the time what will work during any given set of circumstances. I know we all have our issues and our baggage. Personally I have a lot of luggage. I'm no picnic for sure. But whatever it is I need, whatever it is it takes, my wife is doing it. Thirteen years and counting. I am so lucky she loves me. She just naturally finds the holes in my heart and somehow fills them.

when i feel trusted i feel loved...as im a loyal old dog

intimacy, good food, no yelling.

I agree. For me, actions definitely speak louder than words...sometimes so much they scream!

A Honey Do List..................