While all the below are imperative, these two are the most important to any kind of human relationship with me:

(1)Trust. If you're a liar, or behave in a dishonourable way, or are given to meanness or sneak attacks, stay far away from me.

(2)Respect. If you are disrespectful towards me, or if you're in the habit of doing things that would lead me to lose respect for you, stay far away from me.



The other imperatives for a dating relationship, not in any order of importance are:

(3)A safe playing, dominant, sadistic butch leather top with a high sex drive.

(4)A butch who is either stone, or who will respect and be satisfied within my stonefemme boundaries.

(5)Someone who has her own income and is living within her means.

(6)Either a biker or motorcycle friendly.

(7)Smart and funny.

(8)Non-monogamous.

(9)Not politically conservative.

(10)Someone who is relatively local. She would have to live within a day's ride from NYC.

Only 3??? Oh boy...this is going to be hard!
 

1) Communication; talk to me, discuss, debate, let me know what you think and why. Make some of the choices and don't wait for me to do everything.

2) Something to get up for in the morning; whether that's a job, a vocation, education, anything. Just something that gives you a life away from 'us'.

3) Honesty; don't lie, i'll know. Without honesty there can be no trust.

and a cheeky fourth

4) Cuddles and 'Us' time is essential; Sex is a two way street but let me take charge ;)

Back again:

1. Passion-not just of the obvious kind, but passion as a way of life, a passion for life. Includes having passions outside of the relationship.

2. The ability to be present in the moment with me, whatever is going on. You won't always "get" me, but really trying is important. I will reciprocate with you.

3. The ability to face your challenges and problems and see them as opportunities for real change. Even if they beat you down at first, the ability to come back stronger.

Non-negotiable
 

Always the same three for me;

!. No cheating

2. No lying

3. No stealing

Actually, I have more than three but maybe that is on another thread.

Lead by example.

1. Someone who knows and is true to who they are.

2. Someone of strong character and integrity.

3. Someone with a passion for every area of their life.

Must haves:

Integrity

Kindness

Wisdom

Followed close by a healthy sense of adventure

must have
 

emotional honesty
Likes to have a clean home
Communicates

1. A (nearly) similar view on spirituality, philosophy and ethics.
Indispensable attribute. Prevents major conflicts.

2. Healthy self-discipline.
There are no Problems, just challenges. Fear? Conquer it. Bored? Open your eyes for the miracles around you.

(If it's going to be a sexual relationship)
3. Attractiveness.
Female masculinity and a dominant aura is a good start. Or s/he is an anthropomorphic alien. *cough* :D

Hmmmm....

Honesty

Affectionate

Must love dogs

I don't share nicely, so NO open policy

I am not looking for pain = love, if you are keep walking away

I am the Domestic Goddess you always dreamed of having by your side ...
Not your slave, step up or get lost.

Okie dokie, there, some honest to gawd honesty.

It's Sunday morning, and yes, I'm putting it out there. Scorpio rising today. Feels fabulous.

SCORPIO QUEEN OF CUPS Diving into emotional situations is best. Get in deep for best results. Work out emotional knots by addressing them head on.

See, Arwen said so. Feels good to say things outloud sometimes. I'm going to do this more often. :tarot:

1. no smoking
2. no cats
3. no coming home drunk and obnoxious

and few others that are regarded as "normal"

GASP!!! I didn't realize there were things that were better than boobs...(and I am a chocolate fiend.)

good communicator
loves to kiss
loyalty means something

I think I'm still figuring these out, but almost everything I've thought of falls under this category:

Treats self and others with respect

principled
passionate
ready

Funny
non smoking (please, please, please )
Thinks I'm funny ... cuz I am.

My number one rule in any relationship is to never expect something Im not willing to give.

but non-negotioable things

Respecting and trusting each other

Having that certain sumtin' sumtin' connection.

Sharing a sense of humor is also very important.

They wouldnt have to share all my interests and I dont expect to share all of theirs, but they would have to be accepting and propbably try to take part in them a little and I would do the same for them.

non - negtionalbes

1. my finances are just that MINE ~
2. lies ~ not allowed ~ I 'll end it right there and then ~
3. no physical violence ~

Principled and morals, compassion and passionate and having an opened mind and heart. for me its just not about being ready.

Honesty, faithfulness, committed.

I'm trying to decide which of my non negotiables are most important here...
...
1. have your shit together (be employed or otherwise able to support yourself)
2. don't be an abusive jerk (this includes no headgames or drama for the sake of it)
3. be committed, loyal and honest

yup...
 

No fear or defensiveness in hearing the authentic feelings of another.

In turn, talking from the heart, with depth, emotion and vulnerability;

regarding how you are feeling.

Both, without false selves, keeping each others' sharing as gifts and trusting that it was safe to open up.

:love1:

NO drugs, including marijuana
NO alcohol except social or very light drinking
NO infidelity
NO dishonesty, full disclosure expected


NO EXCUSES

For me, the non-negotiables are:

1. Honesty - no secrets, ever.
2. A sense of humor.
3. Communication.

Kinda simple, but at the same time if they're so damn simple why are they so hard to do?

1 -Healthy in body and mind =

In body: No self-inflicted diseases ( ex: lung cancer from smoking, obesity from overeating, lack of mobility from said obesity and lack of exercise, etc = I'm an ex-obese before you flame me!)

Zero addictions: including porn, videogames, internet, prescription drugs such as antidepressant (someone unable to function without their pills).
Alcohol socially o.k. Occasional marijuana negotiable.
Preferably non-smoker.

In mind: Psychologically- sound:with no unrecognized unhealthy patterns.
Negotiable: Someone working on themselves actively through therapy, meditation, whatever form of self-development is fine with me as long as there is action taken.

2- Not hurting animals or human beings.
No hunting or fishing, no working in the meat industry or any industry hurting animals, no restraining orders from abused spouses or family members in their past

3- Loyalty, faithfulness

*throws afghan over ya... gotcha covered!!!!!

for Dirty folks.... hee hee
 

:pirate-steer:

50 Shades of Mud...real filth!
 

Hey now, some folks pay good money for mud.....


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Of course they do; how do you think I became an eccentric millionaire? :cheesy:

My 3 non-negotiables are:

1. Above average intelligence

2. The attitude to handle a big cock

3. Zero enmeshment with previous partners

1. Honesty.
2. Fidelity.
3. Devotion.

These are reciprocal. Ask for nothing you arent willing to give.