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Soft*Silver 05-30-2012 05:43 PM

I am suppose to get newspaper and tv coverage for my grand opening. So i will make sure I link to those things when they happen.

I dont know if this is permissible or not..please just delete it if its not allowed, but...

I am looking for lace curtains. I need several for windows, alcoves, off the balcony, in the fitting rooms...if anyone has one or a few they would care to sell or donate please let me know. Valances, panels and tiers are all needed and I dont need them to match, they just have to be lace...

nycfem 06-01-2012 08:23 PM

"If you can't imagine fat people being healthy...that's YOUR pathology!"
-from http://blogs.sfweekly.com/exhibition...at_shaming.php
by Marilyn Wann

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Soft*Silver 06-06-2012 07:08 PM

I am so sore...I have been working at the store every day for several hours a day, setting it up, bringing in new consignments, ticketing displaying, etc. I am not opened yet, but I keep the front door open so I can get a breeze into the shop. I had several people walk in to see the shop today! I have found out my shop is the talk of all the VFWs in the area, as well as the weight loss groups and the beauty shops! Holy Moses! People I dont know are telling me how excited everyone is, how closets are being gone through, how pennies are being pinched so they can come buy, how happy they are to have a place that is all theirs! One woman, after five minutes in my store, grabbed my hand and held onto it and started to cry.

This is overwhelming for me. I knew on FB and other internet areas (like here) have been very supportive and excited about the store, but to get it in real life, direct from people in front of me, is truly, literally, overwhelming.

As I said, I am so sore. Every part of my body aches and my legs feel like they are on fire. But its so worth it. Once the store is assembled, the work load is so different. Not so much laborious. More details. Like ticketing, sorting, etc.

I sent a press release to our local LGBT Pride Center. Its going into the newsletter and hopefully on their web site, that my store is opening and welcoming to the LGBT community. I specifically invited the trans folks to come in, MtF, and I would welcome them especially. I have a special day with special hours just for them. Once I get the women's section done, I am adding on the male clothing line too...for bio mens, transmen and butches to shop.

I love my life right now. It is so full...

Leigh 06-06-2012 07:10 PM

I'm not surprised Tia, your an amazing woman and I'm proud to be able to count you among my dearest friends :heartbeat:

Soft*Silver 06-06-2012 08:34 PM

awwww...sweetie, thank you so much! Love you too!


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Originally Posted by Leigh (Post 598246)
I'm not surprised Tia, your an amazing woman and I'm proud to be able to count you among my dearest friends :heartbeat:


Leigh 06-06-2012 08:40 PM

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Originally Posted by Miss_Tia
awwww...sweetie, thank you so much! Love you too!


Your still my cheerleader, and I'll always be in your corner :)

Soft*Silver 06-06-2012 09:38 PM

I need to clarify something I wrote. When I said I have a special day and time for MtFs to come to the store, that doesnt mean they arent welcome at any time in the store. I said it much better in my press release! LOL. Some MtFs, especially those just transitioning, arent comfortable going out in public in female form. Thats why I have the special day and special hours for them. But I dont care if they hang out all day any day with me! Whatever their comfort level!

nycfem 06-06-2012 10:14 PM

"It remains a radical act to be fat and happy in America…Being publicly fat and happy is hard; being publicly, shamelessly, unshakably fat and happy is an act of both will and bravery."– Melissa McEwan

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Beth Ditto

nycfem 06-06-2012 10:45 PM

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LeftWriteFemme 06-07-2012 07:47 AM

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Soft*Silver 06-09-2012 04:03 PM

Are you tired of hearing about the store yet? Today I got in my desk, and some tables, and a bookcase. I also had delivered an electric sign, more fixtures, metal sign stands, a shoe rack seat, and a HUGE mirror, easily 10"' tall! Its enormous! I want women to look in this mirror and feel like a queen!

Every day I am at the store, people walk in and tell me how excited they are that I am opening. This is so amazing to me. All I did was put up a sign and start setting up business and word has traveled amongst the plus size women in my area! They are walking in, making appointments to consign clothes, and taking a tour of the place. They grab a fistful of business cards and away they go, to tell even more people.

Why has no one thought of doing this before? The response to my presence is intense!

I spent the day tagging tiaras! I got in 21 tiaras! I am going to wear one every day I am there! I love it! Who doesnt want to feel like a princess? LOL

I had a meeting with a guy who buys storage lockers...just like the people in Storage Wars. He supplies the best consignment shop in the area (for non plus size women. Mine is the best for plus size women!) with the name brand clothes he gets from those storage rooms. He hasnt had a place to sell the plus sizes and is extremely excited to do business with me! He is passing my name onto the other people who do this too, to get them involved with my store.

Holy Moses! This is getting really exciting and I am so close to opening! I am having a premiere party on the 20th of June for my group members and consignors. Then July 1st I have my grand opening for the public!

I love my life right now!

nycfem 06-10-2012 01:11 PM

Cool and Useful Merchandise for Big People

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Worth checking out - some fun links!

Soft*Silver 06-10-2012 06:00 PM

I SO want her!!!! jen, you have created a wish list for me by posting those links! I am also sharing them on my shop's group page!

http://voluptuart.com/wind-p-79.html

Soft*Silver 06-15-2012 08:34 PM

I have had an incredible week at the shop! Its all coming together very well and while I am exhausted, I am thrilled and just cant stop obsessing over what to do next!

Just a few more days and it will be my Premiere Gathering. I invited a small group of people to come in, shop and tour the shop. And then I hand them an evaluation to fill out before they leave. I want to know what they think I did right, and what needs improved. I will take their suggestions and do them before my grand opening!

I now have a rounder of sexy underthings. Corsets, bras, teddies, camisoles, garter belts, etc. All either new or used once/tried on and didnt like for themselves. I even have a hot cop costume! I love it!

One of my biggest thrills is when mothers bring their daughters in. They turn them loose in the store and the kids go wild, so excited to find a whole store just for them! Hoodies, man, I could sell a dozen hoodies a day! LOL. Moms sit in the back, enjoying the comfy area, while the kids pick out clothes. And boy do they BUY! I had three separate families come in this week and from them alone, I can pay next months rent! But the real joy is watching mom be happy instead of shopping with daughters who are miserable because they cant find anything to wear. Or they buy things too tight just to have something. One daughter kept wanting to buy things that were not buttonable, or she couldnt get the zipper up. I had to talk to her about how important it was to look her best, and to do so, best fit is more important than having "something" I assured her so much more was coming in and that she was going to be able to find ALOT of clothes that fit her much better over time. Mom gave me a thumbs up. And the daughter took a shine to me, glad I think, that I wanted her to look good, and not just buy.

I love my life. I love my store...

Licious 06-15-2012 10:53 PM



I have been putting my life on hold. Still having problems with that.... Thank you all so much, you are such inspiration and comfort.

Tia your work with your shop is amazing, and I so admire you.

Well, that's all I have to say for now... I read this every time a post...

Soft*Silver 06-17-2012 05:23 PM

My photos are up in my gallery!

LeftWriteFemme 06-18-2012 03:46 PM

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Originally Posted by Miss_Tia (Post 603389)
My photos are up in my gallery!


Wow, the pictures look great! Congratulations!!!! Wishing you all the best with your fabulous store!!!

Soft*Silver 06-21-2012 09:04 AM

The Premiere Gathering went very well! I got alot of visitors, and they filled out evaluations, ate cookies, shopped, stayed to visit, met each other, laughed, swapped phone numbers, became friends! It was wonderful! Everything I hoped it would be! Such joy!

And I am exhausted! The shop looked wonderful, the racks were full, the place was spotless! One of my customers brought in "P" shaped cookies, in pink and green, for my colors of Pretty and Plus! That was so thoughful and caring!

I am going to play mahjong all day and take the day off from the shop and tomorrow, hit the racks and get ready for the grand opening!

*Anya* 06-21-2012 09:11 AM

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Originally Posted by Miss_Tia (Post 604924)
The Premiere Gathering went very well! I got alot of visitors, and they filled out evaluations, ate cookies, shopped, stayed to visit, met each other, laughed, swapped phone numbers, became friends! It was wonderful! Everything I hoped it would be! Such joy!

And I am exhausted! The shop looked wonderful, the racks were full, the place was spotless! One of my customers brought in "P" shaped cookies, in pink and green, for my colors of Pretty and Plus! That was so thoughful and caring!

I am going to play mahjong all day and take the day off from the shop and tomorrow, hit the racks and get ready for the grand opening!

MT: your store looks awesome! What a major accomplishment to open your own business! I just love when women do this!

Kudos to you and I wish you much success!

{{{ Hugs! }}}

Breezy 06-21-2012 12:39 PM

Popping in to say hello. I hope you are doing fabulously! :rrose:

Soft*Silver 06-22-2012 06:53 PM

I had a young woman come in today, who was floored that there was a plus size shop in our area. She got on her cell phone and promptly started calling all her friends...as she spoke to them, her other friends started calling her too, because the friends she had just called had called other friends and they were all calling her to find out about this store..lol. It was SO wonderful! We were laughing and giggling together like crazy! Her phone lit up like a 4th of July evening!

She is coming back in tomorrow and bringing some friends with her. I cannot wait! This is going to be so much fun! She has a super personality and I just know we are going to hit it off as friends as well as customers...

Licious 06-22-2012 07:33 PM

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Originally Posted by Miss_Tia (Post 605724)
I had a young woman come in today, who was floored that there was a plus size shop in our area. She got on her cell phone and promptly started calling all her friends...as she spoke to them, her other friends started calling her too, because the friends she had just called had called other friends and they were all calling her to find out about this store..lol. It was SO wonderful! We were laughing and giggling together like crazy! Her phone lit up like a 4th of July evening!

She is coming back in tomorrow and bringing some friends with her. I cannot wait! This is going to be so much fun! She has a super personality and I just know we are going to hit it off as friends as well as customers...



Yay! Go Tia!

LeftWriteFemme 06-23-2012 12:35 PM

Please forgive me, but I can't resist posting these Graham Norton clips.....


LeftWriteFemme 06-23-2012 07:17 PM

I have NO idea what show this is, but I thought the dancer is super cool!


Soft*Silver 06-25-2012 10:56 PM

One of my customers just sent me this..its what she wrote for our area paper. I didnt know she was a writer for our newspaper! Holy Moses!

With great anticipation, a new store will be opening soon in the Mahoning Valley . The Pretty and Plus Shop, a consignment and resale store catering to Plus size Women, the first of its kind in the area, will be opening July 7, 2012 at 8 State Street in Struthers, Ohio. The store carries clothes sizes large, up to 6x in women’s clothing, as well as accessories, jewelry, and shoes. The Pretty and Plus Shop will also have a small selection of plus-sized men’s clothing and accessories .

Proprietress, Teah Keshock-Crew, states This store is here to help “as well as support women of ample size. We often feel slighted by those of smaller sizes. From childhood to adulthood, we can be victimized by cruelty of strangers and even those we love. My store's credo is we are so much more than just numbers. We are not our dress size, nor how many pounds we weigh, not even our age matters when it comes to measuring our worth. Our value lies within us and how we live our lives...not what size pants we put on! So here is a happy place to come, to feel welcomed and appreciated. We are SO beautiful...and we celebrate our size-diversity!”

The store itself offers many amenities not found in other retail shops! There is a comfortable seating area to sit and meet other consigners/customers, as well as have a cup of free tea or coffee. A play area for children with games and books to keep them occupied while moms shop! Even a rocking chair and a changing table to make moms lives easier! The shop will even have some helpers this summer to keep an eye on the children!

The store will open in July, but Ms Keshock-Crew is now accepting consignments by appointment.

“I had a lady come in today, for the first time. She was so excited that the whole time she was in the shop, she was calling her friends and family, telling them all about the shop! Not only do they want to buy, they have lots of clothes they want to consign too...party clothes, chillin' clothes, church clothes, work clothes! Her enthusiasm with her friends on the phone just tickled me to no end! THIS is exactly why I opened this store! They were all so excited about having a place, an entire place, for our sizes!’ Ms Keshock-Crews stated.

For more information on the store or consignment information, contact (Contact info). There is also a face book group listed under The Pretty and Plus Shop

LeftWriteFemme 06-29-2012 10:06 PM


LeftWriteFemme 07-01-2012 10:15 PM


Soft*Silver 07-02-2012 12:04 AM

hah! We are having a beach party all of July at the Pretty & Plus Shop! I have a huge arch that goes over the doorway that is filled with moss and ferns and lights and star fish, fishnetting, etc. The window displays will be filled with sand and seashells and bathing attire and picnic baskets! All summer wear will be 25% off and anyone who sends me a photo to put on my FB group gets 50% off one item! I cant wait! Its going to be wild!

I am SO not ashamed of my fat body in a swimsuit! Let 'em see me! As if clothes ever covers up bulk! Clothes dont make us thinner...anymore than baggy clothes makes a thin person heavier! Its just an illusion to the wearer...so once we accept that, we can either accept what size we are and agree that whatever we wear reflects that size, or we do something to change that size and not pretend clothes can make that difference...

so...me, size 18...is taking photos this week in bathing suits and gonna post them for the world to see! Happy me! And Imma an old woman who is saucily gonna be eating a hot dog in the photos...

dont call me old or fat like its they are bad things...if you only knew what this body knows, you would bow down and revere me....lol

LeftWriteFemme 07-03-2012 12:38 PM



I think this girl may be or have gone on to drink the :koolaid: but I thought the blog was good none the less

LeftWriteFemme 07-03-2012 12:41 PM




I think this girl is awesome and I love how her family is her family and embraces who she is!

Rockinonahigh 07-03-2012 02:18 PM

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I think this girl is awesome and I love how her family is her family and embraces who she is!


Wow,is all I can say.

Leigh 07-03-2012 02:57 PM

I absolutely LOVE this thread :)

LeftWriteFemme 07-07-2012 09:31 PM

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nycfem 07-08-2012 08:40 AM

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LeftWriteFemme 07-08-2012 07:14 PM

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I've got to say, this made me laugh! Being fat doesn't make me morbid, it was my childhood that makes me morbid!!!

Licious 07-08-2012 07:39 PM

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Originally Posted by nycfembbw (Post 612620)


Thank you. I am still struggling with my larger size, and working to love myself and be nice to my body. I want to hide it, I don't want to spend money buying myself *thinking of my body as it, don't want to buy it* nice clothes, have trouble feeling attractive or very sexy, frankly. You women are inspiring! I appreciate this thread so much.


Licious 07-08-2012 07:51 PM

This made me choke up a bit, couldn't help it.



LeftWriteFemme 07-08-2012 09:49 PM

What I want to know.....
 
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What I want to know.....what I really need to figure out is why in all the dozens of times I have listened to this before I never.....ever..... heard the words, "full bodied" I think it must be some kind of a block and I have to tell you that when I listened to this before I always imagined that Ivan was speaking of 'gay twiggy'........I was so wrong. Sometimes it is a blessing to be wrong.

Thank you Licious for giving me an opportunity to see the error of my ways!

nycfem 07-14-2012 07:43 PM

This was such a delight to watch! How did you even find this?

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nycfem 07-14-2012 07:56 PM

LMAO! This was so smart, funny, and feminist! Loved it!

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