Just plain mean
 

A mother cat who eats the head off her new born kitten.:eek:

Ya know if a human mother did the same..that would definitely be an instant turn off for me.

I think people are human beings with many faults and they don't always get it "right".
I can't tell others they better be perfect, because I know for a fact that I'm not.

Just don't eat your kids head off, cause that's like,not cool..and I wouldn't want to be around you after that.

When out on the date- and my date's phone rings- in the middle of the meal- and she answers- only to tell me that it is her ex asking advice about something.

Seriously?

Oh, and she continues to eat while talking to said ex.

Did I mention that was the ONLY date?

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Negative & jaded, especially when it comes to matters of the heart, folks.............

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A killjoy...............

Whiners. Whining, pleading learn the difference. One gets you not invited to parties and the other, with any luck, gets you laid.

Now, that was funny!

I'll choose:

Dishonesty
Blame Game & never wrong
Cheapskate/selfish/stingy
Bad hygiene
Hates sex & affection
Too moody
:eek:

Lazy. Don't be lazy- like as your default setting. Lazy days should be treats.

LYING
" " deserves 2 lines
poor hygiene
low intelligence
Gain detergent, dryer sheets or anything else reeking of Gain
Misogyny
Any and all bigotry
Intolerance

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A Debbie Downer.............

Instant Turn-Offs...
 

Bossy people.

Especially Domme's that are power tripping thinking they can boss anyone and everyone around.

There's a difference between asking someone to do something and telling someone to do something. Learn the difference!!

Testers ... people who like to test you to see what you'll do. Often the test is doled out in passive-aggressive actions.

Inability to apologize when wrong. I'm turned off by that now more than ever.

That is a major turnoff! Also, people who work waitstaff to death.
Ex: I once had lunch with a potential new g/f and she asked about salad dressings.
The waitress named off the usual- ranch, bleu cheese, thousand island, vinegrette and the house dressing. I can see asking to sample the house dressing, but this woman asked the waitress to bring her samples of ALL of them--during the lunch rush.
Then she chose ranch. On a small side salad.
She also asked questions about the rolls, the ingredients of several entrees and the entire dessert list.

Being overly late. After 15 minutes is bad. At 30 minutes, I cancel.

Another turn off is bad grammar. Supposibly and irregardless are the worst.

Borrowing without returning, returning things in wrecked condition--basically everything my pushy new next door neighbor says or does. :blink:

One quirky turn off I have is people making "air quotes" with the fingers.

Sharing details of our sex life in a group of people, in an attempt to be funny.

Needless to say, nose-picking, intentional belching and farting, or doing the usual bathroom things with the door open. I don't need to see anyone on the toilet, flossing, or otherwise spoiling the mystery of her beauty.

Finally, the silent treatment or ghosting without any explanations.

I don't want to see flossing or other gross things either, but if a Butch wanted me to create some mystery around my allure, I'd immediately resort to wearing sweats, face cream, and do rags.

If I had a neighbor like that, I'd learn real fast to say to whatever she wanted to borrow "Oh I just ran out of that myself"
"I could care less" vs "I couldn't care less" are my grammar irritations!

If a butch really loves her partner, then sweats, face cream and do-rags wouldn't change a thing. I just don't need to see, or be seen, conducting certain bodily activities. It's got nothing to do with what she wears.
Just like you said--flossing and other gross things, I'd rather not see.
And I like a little mystery surrounding my love's allure. *Who doesn't?


*A rhetorical question
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That mysterious woman thing is sexist. Nothing that we do is so baffling that it can not be understood by another human being. Implying so puts pressure on women to maintain sexist standards of behavior.

Women are fucking ashamed of their sweat or the shape of their labia. Fuck that crazy shit. We are fully human, not fairies or aliens. We sweat, belch and excrete like everyone else. And if we choose to use beauty products or even to get cosmetic surgery, it is not magic. It's expensive, time-consuming effort that I hope most of us do primarily for ourselves, not to maintain the "mystery."

Some people do this mystery femme thing playfully and by choice. All power to them.

But saying everybody feels like this is sexist. Women are not mysterious, unless they want to be.

[QUOTE=Martina;1239683]I don't want to see flossing or other gross things either, but if a Butch wanted me to create some mystery around my allure, I'd immediately resort to wearing sweats, face cream, and do rags. QUOTE]

Do rags and sweats are hot.

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Those who go on and on about their ex....

i don't want to see her bathroom routine and i'm glad not to share mine, unless it's bathing/showering together

I don’t mind flossing and oral hygiene, provided it’s not done at the dinner table, but I’m instantly turned off by bathroom humor.

Instant Turn-Offs...
 

People that suck their teeth or pick their teeth with a toothpick, napkin or something else while having dinner at a restaurant or while walking out of a restaurant... :blink:

I don't care how often you floss ( brushing is nice ) but I do want you to be able to name 5 European countries ( at a minimum ).

Gays who support or vote for Trump...and I don't give a flying "f" what the rationale is.

Judgemental people

People who assume without asking questions first

People who judge a book by it's cover

Bigots
LIARS, worst of all
People who claim to support a cause without fully understanding what it's
all about.
Blind Faith in any human endeavor(politics, history, economics, religion, etc.)

condescending..cruelty, for no good reason..natural grace turns me on

Instant turn-offs
 

Bullying, control freaks, liars, wilfulness

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you just described TRUMP !

Trump the bully
 

chuckling... I watch too much news (lol)

However, I have interacted with others who are like that..., and discovered that because of the criteria to do meditation as I do, they can't do it :)

There is always a price/consequence resulting from the choices that people make... Then again, if they had intelligence/goodness in them, they wouldn't make those "choices", and they would see the difference between choice and right/correct action. It is relatively easy now for me to discern those kinds of people.

Is there an instant turn ons thread?


I find ,that I would rather just think,"not my type"

As I'm pretty odd and tend to annoy people,"not in a I'm a jerk way"just I tend to think outside the box a lot :)

Yes there is a turn on thread but im not quite sure where its hidden on the board!

Turn-offs
 

Being invited to a home that is filthy and gross.
Cheaters
Liers
Druggies
Thieves

Cheaters
Liars
Players you know the more than one woman deal
Wimp ass folks who couldnt bust a grape in a fruit fight

these are all really good ones.. I could add these to the long list

over-dramatic
doesn't take accountability
twists your words
makes everything your fault
they are too stubborn to talk about problems
cannot compromise
always makes it about them
and always wants it their way
or does not care about your milestones or pivotal moments of life
has double standards
then if they hide things...like stupid little things about themselves and blow it off like it was none of your business... ya have to think ...hmm if they lied about that.. what else they lyin' bout?

but i think most importantly on having all these traits.. they still believe they are nice people.

(these are the short list of traits I have experienced over the years of dating...)