I would have been happy to be friends with most of my exes. In a few cases I actually believed it was going to happen. But it never really did materialize. I hold no animosity toward them and I don't believe any of my exes dislikes me as a person. The relationship just didn't work out for one reason or another but none ended badly or with hard feelings. So you would think the door would be wide open since, speaking for myself, I still care deeply about all my exes. But the friendship never did last. I always feel bad when I think about that. I try to review to see what I might have done that contributed to not having a friendship but I honestly don't know. Every so often I will send an email or something to say hey to one of them and there will be a short flurry of conversation but then it will just peter out and in a year or so I'll wonder what happened and be back trying to figure out why I can't keep any of my exes as friends.

Some I could be friends with but their new girlfriends/wives won't let them.

Others, not in a million years.

I tried to reach out to my ex that I was with for almost 11 years (because she was sick for a long time) and her GF says "Stay the F... away from my wife". Ummm LOL

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Well,yeah.

honestly Mr Sunshine, referring to anyone as a "douche" makes one wonder who has the problem, imo. What you contemplate in private reflection is your own affair, but a woman observing such declarations (of a woman you at some point cared for), wince.

I've never had a relationship where we just drifted apart - there was always a big reason why it ended. Also, sometimes I wish I more extroverted like cupcake but I definitely do not have friends for different occasions. I'm an introvert and if I let someone into my bubble in real life that's significant to me. I'm friendly to everyone, but being friendly and being friends are totally different things. Once the relationship is over a wall comes down and it never comes back up for that person again.

Is there something personal going on here or are we really forbidden from referring to any single one of our exes as a raging douche because I think I probably have dated at least one raging douche in my life. And maybe have earned the title before myself. :)

Or is this like a feminist argument?

Not sure but thanks for asking this, I was about to do the same!

I have dated a few raging douches myself! I myself have had that title as well!

I've dated a couple cunts. A few pricks. Several assholes. A useless fuck or two... But haven't had the pleasure of having dinner with a vaginal rinse yet.

And I'm very much a feminist.

And a complete tit.

Here's a lesson in reading left to right and NOT reading into things. " yes, as long as THEY ARE NOT a raging douche". Unwinch

to each his own:tea:

Paraphrasing Urban Dictionary:

Douche:

Comparing someone to products that clean vaginas.


http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=douche



Yes, I think it is a sexist thing to say to an ex or about an ex.

I really do not know what happened to mine. I certainly do not feel inclined toward calling them crude names... I am above all that. I respect folks who know how to STILL be friends with their ex's, and STILL treat them well. It shows me how educated some people are, regarding their past relationships.

You know, some of us just use crude language in general, as we speak. I also use self deprecatory humour and tease my friends abut being raging sluts. I get called a cunt by my friends on occasion and with great cheer.

It's a different concept of social interaction. I do not feel put down when someone in my social group calls me "hey moose flaps" or my best mate called me titsy fat arse.
Btw, flaps are another word for vaginal lips aka piss flaps.
I'm Canuck, therefore I get called moose flaps.

I'm actually a really politically active person, I am in a very caring and health care orientated job, I went to *finishing school* even, as a young teen. If I want to pull very good upper class manners out of my hip pocket, I will.

Most of the time, I don't fucking feel like it. And oddly enough, it's pretty rare someone who meets me *in person* finds me offensive. Mostly my verbiage makes people laugh. A lot.

Because they can see my body language, hear my tone of voice, and see my grin. That's not possible on here so I usually temper it. But guess what, *some* of my exes were cunts/pricks/arseholes.

And sometimes I am a *massive* tit.

If you are offended by "rough" language unbecoming of a "lady" (#sarcasm) then you likely be offended by me in the future.

PS. Pussy farts

on being friends with an ex...
 

yes you can, eventually(with most)

My ex tries to stay in touch will all of her exs because she, eventually, tries to get back with them. It is like a rotating door....

Only 2 (me and her ex before me) won't speak to her. She is now with her ex from when she was 17. I figure my turn won't come up for another 10 years or so. Too bad, so sad..... my answer will always be "not for a million dollars".

it really depends on the 2 exes and how it ended i think. Its hard to be just friends with someone you might still be in love with. Though once the anger and pain has subsided, i think its possible.

I really don't care to be friends with my exes. Feh.

And ftiw, I can certainly use rude language--especially when discussing exes. I yam what I yam.

Not Me
 

I kind of moved on you could say.I wish them all a happy life and that's about it.

Sometimes, it happens.