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The_Lady_Snow 07-31-2010 07:00 PM

DO NOT introduce me as your latina girlfriend and wiggle your eyebrows at your friends.....

betenoire 07-31-2010 07:09 PM

Absolutely do not expect me to spend all of my spare time making words at you. Sometimes nobody has anything to say - and that is OKAY. It is fine to not have anything to talk about. But don't get upset and presume something is wrong when I can't keep up a constant stream of inane chatter.

Jesse 07-31-2010 07:10 PM

Do not "out" me. I don't tell folks what's in your pants, and I see no need for you to tell them what is or isn't in mine! I am 52 years old and as such am perfectly capable of outing myself to whomever I wish to be outed to.

Rockinonahigh 07-31-2010 07:18 PM

Do NOt play me against someone else.
or never let me catch u in our fav resturant at OUR table with some biker then tell me he was an old friend...im not stupid..esp when u 2 have been all over each other..it shows.
When we first meet,dont expect a one night stand..not my style.
Understand sex wont happen till im shure about our feelings about our relationship..I want us to get to know each other before that happends.
If u are a booze head or druggie get help or keep walking.
If u cant manage ur money dont even think about touching mine.
Be nice to my fur kids..if the good feelings are mutual fine if not bye bye.
My son is one of the most accepting persons I know who gets along with nearly every one,dont think u will ever get between us and diss either of us about the other..u will lose.
When we are dateing and arent exclusive,see anyone u want,when we are an ithem I will not be one of ur stable of studs in every town..I am not a toy boi.

Julie 07-31-2010 07:19 PM

Do not ask me for my truth
and then punish me for giving it
If you pretend everything is okay in the world when it is not
Do not expect me to know -- I am not a mind reader

The_Lady_Snow 07-31-2010 07:20 PM

DO NOT ever let my leather fall from your hands onto the floor....

adorable 07-31-2010 07:30 PM

Don't take love for granted.

Love is a VERB - it is something you do. Be open. Be giving.

Don't be selfish. It's impossible to love that way.

Enchantress 07-31-2010 07:30 PM

Never, ever, take something that I've shared with you in confidence (regarding my life, experiences, feelings etc..) and throw it back at me, in a twisted, not what I told you way (when you're angry). It is the personification of trust breaking. And, if this occurs, you will never hear another meaningful thing from me again.

SuperFemme 07-31-2010 07:33 PM

do not be afraid of death.

Jesse 07-31-2010 07:34 PM

IF you happen to be doing the laundry...your red panties in with my white socks or tees is a BIG no-no! :sunglass:

Lynn 07-31-2010 07:42 PM

Don't give me ultimatums or tell me what I will not be doing, "or else."

Don't think that I need you more than I love myself.

Don't be afraid or unwilling to accept love and affection to the same degree that you like to give it.

Don't start thinking that I'm better than you (I'm not), or that you don't deserve me (you do). It can only end badly.

Don't treat other people or animals badly and then expect me to trust you to treat me well.

Zimmeh 07-31-2010 07:43 PM

Tranzman,

I am using your post and this is nothing about you, but my ex did this to me. If I want complete strangers to know about my sex life, I may tell them, but please for the love of life, don't tell your friends anything. I am a private person..And don't go threadstalking me and then use what you find against me, especially if it is from almost three years ago...If you don't have trust in me, then I don't have trust in you.

Zimmy

Quote:

Originally Posted by Tranzman (Post 165074)
Do not "out" me. I don't tell folks what's in your pants, and I see no need for you to tell them what is or isn't in mine! I am 52 years old and as such am perfectly capable of outing myself to whomever I wish to be outed to.


The_Lady_Snow 07-31-2010 08:00 PM

DO NOT yank forward when I am inserting an 18 gauge needle into your back.

IrishGrrl 07-31-2010 08:09 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by The_Lady_Snow (Post 165138)
DO NOT yank forward when I am inserting an 18 gauge needle into your back.

But what if it REALLLLY hurts?!

Soft*Silver 07-31-2010 08:45 PM

dont set me up for failure by deeming yourself unworthy of me while simultaneously acting as tho I am beneath you. In other words, dont transfer your issues onto me....

dont fuck with my reality

more importantly, dont fuck with my serenity

Billy 07-31-2010 08:53 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by IrishGrrl (Post 165053)
Please do not give me a detailed run down about the amazing shit you just took.

Do not rush me to orgasm while fucking me

If I say I need time to think, please dont follow me around the house.

I dont mind harmless flirting, but DO NOT oggle other women all night

Please do not call me to talk, then go on a 20 minute spiel about something ADORABLE your cat did. Then go on for another 20 min's about your OTHER cats!

Never, EVER lie to me, even if it's gonna hurt.

If you are pissed off, or upset about something, talk about it. Passive agressive behavior will get you the boot.

Dont do the running man on the dance floor while we are out with our friends.

If you burp or fart say excuse me.

I may not act like a lady, but dont forget that I am one, and treat me accordingly



Alrighty then ...........:sunglass:

Billy 07-31-2010 08:56 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by IrishGrrl (Post 165145)
But what if it REALLLLY hurts?!


Its going to hurt more , just sayin . And I believe you would not move when told not to :)

IrishGrrl 07-31-2010 09:17 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Billy (Post 165211)
Alrighty then ...........:sunglass:

You are training right UP!!

*hauling ass*

The_Lady_Snow 07-31-2010 09:17 PM

DO NOT yell red when I am halfway in a swing, it will land.

IrishGrrl 07-31-2010 09:18 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Billy (Post 165218)
Its going to hurt more , just sayin . And I believe you would not move when told not to :)

Because of course I always do what I"m told.

snicker*

Arwen 07-31-2010 09:21 PM

  • Do not use me as your emotional punching bag.
  • Do not expect me to make you my be-all/end-all unless you do the same for me (and then we really need to talk because that's a bit much, capiche?)
  • Do not drag negativity into every situation. No, the world is not out to get you.
  • Do not talk other people down and say things about them you wouldn't have the cajones to say to their face.
  • Do not refuse to talk about the important stuff.
  • Do not overanalyze the unimportant stuff.
  • Be willing to be flexible on what's unimportant and what's important.
  • Do not jerk me around and then expect me to be happy when you want to go out again. I'll be busy--promise.

I promise to do the same for you.

SuperFemme 07-31-2010 09:43 PM

do NOT make fun of my family.

The_Lady_Snow 07-31-2010 09:44 PM

DO NOT tell me yo' mama jokes

Jesse 07-31-2010 10:22 PM

The Truck...ahem!
  • Do not your leave trash in it
  • If you have to adjust the seat, please... do put it back
  • If I allow you to drive it, do not bring it back on empty!

The_Lady_Snow 07-31-2010 10:23 PM

DO NOT badger me after a 14 hour day of working about how the dog got into the trash can and you had to clean it up and how I did not answer the phone while I was at work to listen to you complain about it.

amiyesiam 07-31-2010 11:17 PM

Please, do not, while I am at work, give me away:blink:

dixie 08-01-2010 12:47 AM

Please don't tell me about all the people you have slept with or wish you had slept with. It makes for awkward moments when I wake up to an empty bed at 3am and find you in the living room on webcam with one of them while they are very scantily clad (to say the least)...

Gemme 08-01-2010 02:28 AM

Don't call little people midgets. I hear they don't like that.

And don't ever let me run out of sugar. This is for your safety and sanity as well as mine.

Julie 08-01-2010 09:11 AM

Do Not speak to me as if I am beneath you..
I will Chew you up and Spit you Out.

weatherboi 08-01-2010 09:20 AM

please please please do not throw away my *extra* copies of "Pillars of the Earth"

they all mean something to me!!!

Jesse 08-01-2010 11:44 AM

: points to pc and laptop: MINE! nuff said.

Arwen 08-01-2010 11:48 AM

  • Do not promise to do something then back out at the last minute.
  • Do not be subtle. If you love me, tell me. Words count. Actions do too.
  • Do not expect that because I am psychic I will be.
  • Do tell me where you would like to go with me even if we can never get there. Dreams are good.
  • Do not promise anything you can't deliver.
Again, I'll do the same for you.

UofMfan 08-01-2010 11:51 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by amiyesiam (Post 165387)
Please, do not, while I am at work, give me away:blink:

I am still laughing out loud over this one! :)

theoddz 08-01-2010 12:13 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Tranzman (Post 165324)
The Truck...ahem!
  • Do not your leave trash in it
  • If you have to adjust the seat, please... do put it back
  • If I allow you to drive it, do not bring it back on empty!


I second this with overwhelming emotion. :clap:

~Theo~ :bouquet:

tuffboi29 08-01-2010 01:16 PM

DO NOT...


Touch my stogies!!!! They are *mine*. If you want one...ask first please.


Also...


Apparently....

(generally speaking) femmes do not seem to appreciate carburetors left on the kitchen table for rebuilding.


Sorry... :worried:

TenderKnight 08-01-2010 01:30 PM

If you meet someone online and send them a picture, please have it be a recent one, meaning no longer then a year ago.. If you've changed a LOT from the picture you've sent and what you look like in real life, the truth WILL come out and yes, sometimes it does matter..

violaine 08-01-2010 01:52 PM

push me if i'm in need of space -

disrespect what is mine, your story is respected as it is an honour to listen to the journey of another human being as their story unfolds-

AtLast 08-01-2010 02:16 PM

This may sound trite, but, screaming at me just does not go over well. especially obscenities. Verbal abuse is verbal abuse. Not talking about raising one's voice to make a point or to get my attention. But, I will hear this and give my undivided attention so partner's have never had to go to the screech level.

ARGH... there is a lesbian couple living across the street from me and one of them is a mega ragea-holic. out of control and very loud!! I am so tired of hearing her scrteam at her partner. Why the partner stays is beyond me.

Besides, it's noise pollution and I don't want to know the details of their relationship issues. I wish they would get some help.. or just break up and move!!

Lynn 08-01-2010 02:26 PM

Don't tell me how to spend money.

Don't try to dictate my priorities.

It isn't necessary for us to enjoy all the same things, but don't belittle my interests. Same for my friends and my aspirations.

JustJo 08-01-2010 02:30 PM

Please do not:
  • tell me how I "should" be...I am who and how I am...and my way of being is as a valid as yours
  • rage at me...I cannot hear you if you shout, accuse or cuss. My brain and emotions shut down and I stop being able to hear
  • put others before me all the time. Yes, others count and will be first sometimes, but I should not always be last on the list
  • pretend that my reality isn't what it is...if you hate kids, cats, or stubborn women...then I'm not the woman for you
  • expect me to read your mind...tell me what you want, what you think and how you feel. I will always listen....but I need you to tell me
  • close down on me verbally, sexually or emotionally. If you need space, tell me and I'll honor that...but if you just "leave" don't be surprised when I react by feeling abandoned


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