it's not that i don't understand the point. it's the language that bothers me. and, it's just me.

it's not that i don't understand the point. it's the language that bothers me. and, it's just me. i suppose i'm just getting old.

i agree on social dating, without an endgame in mind. yes, a partner would be nice. i have difficulty with dating moving so quickly into a relationship. but, that's a whole other thread, isn't it?

If YOU are 'old'....what am I? :eyebat:

That was, of course, a hypothetical question..... ;)

fine wine, of course

speaking from my point of view and where I am in my own history, I debating if I am capable of dating. Every attempt I have tried since I move back to Ohio has been a LDR. When I get a chance to date local or to meet the LDR, I get very anxious, to the point of misery. Its not that the last real time break up was so awful (it was, for both of us, and I am so sorry that it was that way) but it was a string of bad ones. I dont want to get hurt again and my picker is broke, as Blade once said. (waving at Blade...stealing his words) And yet I have long distance companions who I cherish greatly but I really dont know if I would be able to date them (or anyone) if they were local. So if I were to date locally now, it would be simply to see if I could do so with being anxious.

I miss cooking for someone. I miss reading the newspapers together. I miss having my feet massaged as we watch our fav tv shows. I miss weeding in the garden together. And going to the Drs together when we both get poison ivy. God I miss those everyday kind of things people who are in love and living together do with one another.

I also really miss the simple joy of waiting to be picked up for a date. Of putting on special make up to look good for him. I so want to pick out a movie to watch that will suprise him because he will have thought I wanted to watch The Notebook and I picked Deliverance instead. I want to smell his cologne on him as I hug him hello and I want to smell it on me when he tells me good night and I am alone to think about what could come next...

I miss this...but it also scares me . I am afraid of losing so much again. There was a time when I believed I could get much more if chanced it, than I could ever lose if it didnt work out. I dont believe that anymore....

hey ash

we've known each other a good while and spent a lot of time talking (while trying to figure out just where the hell we were).

i've been through the dating process and the "not having any luck finding anyone" process for a good number of years. some people are just not a good fit, some are close but not quite right, and sometimes the timing just sucks. i get all that. the issue i'm having is simply with the language. you know i'd say the same damn thing to you...i don't want organic to think i'm just picking on someone here.

i know i've said some things in my life that were either insensitive (at best) and horribly dickish at worst. i work to evolve in my thinking, and by extension, my speaking. i'm simply pointing out a prhase i find offensive. that's me, my thinking, the way things sound to me. i'm not trying to start a war or even skirmish in here. it's becoming apparent to me that others aren't offended, which is fine. i really don't want to be convinced that i shouldn't be feeling the way i do, or that i'm wrong to be offended. i feel what i feel, right?

you know me personally, for reals, for a few years now, ash. you're my friend, my compadre, my amigo. i would hope, that as all those things in my life, you'd let me know if i said something that you thought was fucked up or ill advised. it's what friends do and how we help one another broaden our perspectives. so, maybe you and i can talk about this when i see you in LR. or not.

sorry this is rambly...just got up and no coffee yet.

No I dont think he thinks that, he didnt like the language either when I said it. I was just taking responsibility for the statement. Its all good dude!! I fully understand your point and Im sure Ob does as well.
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Afternoon!
 

Good afternoon singles!! I hope everyone is having a wonderful Saturday. Anybody have a date this evening?

no date for me...I am trying to hold off going to Urgent Care because we have another series of severe storms coming in and my dog cant be left alone in them. (my right arm is giving me lots of problems)

but..if someone were to ask me out for this weekend, where would I want to go? Hmmmm....

the movies is so cliche-ish. So no, not there. We have a lovely botanical garden in my town and they have a lovely collection of trees that we could wander in, especially as the storm starts to breeze in and you can almost feel its pulse as it comes closer... hair whipping around as I point out the differences in trees and how they are shaped according to their varieties. I would get lost in my knowledge to wear down my anxiety, to have something to focus on while he watches me, listening but really more so watching my face, especially my lips as I talk about the larch and the beech and the sprawl of the spreading juniper...

they have a great restaurant inside the marbled building. A nice tall glass of herbal ice tea and a fancy croissant sandwhich, followed by a piece of cheesecake shared by the two of us...

we talk and as I sense him watching me intently, I blush and sometimes get a little giddy in my speech. Finally I sit back against the huge wall of windows where the restaurant overlooks the beautiful glacier lake and look right at him instead of pouring out words from my bottomless well of anxiety...

he doesnt stop looking intently...

I notice the sincerity in his eyes and the solidness of his face, full of character and wisdom, with laugh lines to balance the seriousness of his years. Locked onto his eyes, he smiles at me and I am compulsed to simply smile back...

not a word is said while I twirl my napkin, and we look upon each other...

shyness...

who would have thought I was shy, so bold and brassy I can be

yet there I was, being very shy but now quiet, the only noise coming from the kitchen and the conversation between two older women a few tables away from us.

and then he asks me "would you like to play putt putt?"

"no" I softly say

Bowling?

no, not bowling

hmmm...go to a movie?

not today.

a museum perhaps?

I shake my head no

He never stops looking into my eyes, as he continues asking

"would you like to go to the mall?"

my nose scrunches up as I adamantly say no to that proposition

would you care to just take a drive out in the country?

I pause and think about this and I nod my head yes...

we gather up our trays and take them to their station and leave...

his hand slides into mine, the first time we touch, as we head to the car...

later we will kiss

and say good nite

and go home seperately

with wonder inside us both

for all the magic a simple first date can bring...

Yeah the Botanical garden is nice here too. You can't really talk at the movies but it's fun to go after you've been dating for awhile. I like to do fun stuff on dates like bowling or pitch n putt. Hanging out in the park or at the lake is fun too.

I know it is hard not having a date on Sat. But there is a lot to do, I do enjoy the culture here. I like hanging out with my friends.

Good Morning Everyone,

No dates for me. I am like Lipstix, I haven't found any butches in this area. Makes me miss living in Orlando, I atleast knew where the lesbian bar was.

Have fun today and I hope you all are enjoying your Sunday morning,

Zimmy
<Leaving strong coffee and tea>

Good Morning everyone,

I am sitting here drinking my Italian Roast coffee from Starbucks, watching my friend's little boy sleeping on the couch next to me. For some reason, he won't sleep in his crib and we both are dumbfounded as to why. So she is looking for a toddler bed today and see if that might help.

Hope you all have a good day and I am leaving plenty of coffee for us,

Zimmy

Morning Zimmy,

I hope you have a great day! Maybe he feels like he's too old to sleep in the crib or at least he feels that way. I don't know and I won't pretend to. Either way you have a wonderful day!


OB

He is fine when he is with me, but he flips out when his mother leaves. I am thinking it is Seperation Anxiety Disorder and she needs to break him of this, before she has her second little boy next month. I just hope the toddler bed will help and we both can find some peace...He cries his little heart out and it breaks our hearts to hear him cry..

Good news on no internship today!!!

Have fun,

Zimmy

I did this to. My internship place was ran by two cousins. When I first started, I enjoyed it, but when the woman's cousin started, I ended up hating the place. The cousin and the secretary would tell me the wrong things to do, so I would get a lecture from the owner. I ended up walking out and I never went back.

She is a single mom and that is why I am here helping out. I don't give into him, he knows this. But she cannot handle to hear him cry and picks him up after five minutes of him crying. I am glad that I will be going back to school, so when she is pulling her hair out, I won't be here...My mother is trying to help her out, but she won't take our advice.

Have fun today,

Zimmy

hi I am just out of a 10.5 yr relationship and it is very stressful when you have bought a house togther, and the dog (she is a toy poodle and is our child) I am keeping the house and will help my ex get into an apartment. When you breakup you also lose the partner's family and this is hard for me.

Never the less I have made up mind to start over. ....Take one day at a time
I wish you luck and happiness

what is your occupation if you don't mind me asking? I would love to travel somewhere out side of the US

Good Morning Everyone,

Welcome Atlanta!!!! Hope you all are having a good start to your day!

I am off to visit my mom who is doing a manicure on me. I am horrible about breaking my nails, so she is going to put the gel nails stuff on them.

Have fun and I am not babysitting today, woohoo!!

Zimmy

Good Morning Atlanta,

I am planning a trip to Ireland next year, hopefully. I was supposed to go this year, but I lost my job. I babysit my best friend's little boy four days a week until she goes on maternity leave next month.

Hope you are having a good day,

Zimmy

I've been to Ireland, the people are very nice.

Welcome

That's really nice that you're willing to help your ex. Not many people do that - when it's over they just kick ya to the curb and forget all about ya.

Take your time and be gentle with yourself - breakups are excruciating.

I couldn't possibly agree more. Of course, I'm not a fan of beaches in general and walking in the sand is one hell of a workout, don't hold my hand unless you're leading me far far away from the beach.

Hey y'all! I figured I'd post here since I am single and new to the site. If nothing else maybe I'll make a new friend or 12.

I'm 31, originally from Texas although I currently live in North Carolina. My last relationship ended in 2008 and I haven't been actively looking to change that. However, things change and I'm starting to think it might be nice to have someone special to spend time with.

I live with my best friend and her two daughters, which makes me a sorta-parent and I often call them "my (or our) girls". We also have 2 chihuahuas, a rat terrier and a cat. My best friend, Monkie, and her girls are my heart family. Monkie, the girls and I are a package deal. They will always be a part of my life, therefore it's imperative that the person I'm interested in can accept and embrace them as well.

I stumble when trying to explain the type of person that I am most often attracted to. It's all about masculine energy for me. Butch, TG, Gender Fucker, FtM, you get the idea. Older than me is always better (and I've seen the older crowd here wondering why some of us seek older) if for no other reason than I've stuffed a lot of life into my 31 years.

I'm kinky to a point, my kink doesn't rule my life but I certainly welcome power exchange and rough play whenever it's available to me. I consider myself queer, because I'm not a lesbian (transmen are men afterall) nor am I bisexual (the prefix "bi" means two and I firmly believe that there are more than two sexes and infinitely more than two genders.)

I'm in a period of transition in my life. There are big changes on the horizon and I'm opening my world up to the possibilities that lie ahead in all aspects of my life.

I ramble at times, when I have a million thoughts on something and am trying to get all of my points across. I can be a silly, silly bitch at times and anyone that wishes to be a part of my life has to accept that, ideally not only would she/hy/he accept it they'd embrace it.

And, as impossible as it must sound, I've never been on a date that wasn't with someone I was already in a relationship with. This whole going on first and second dates and feeling a person out (I didn't say feeling them UP!) is completely foreign to me, but something I'd lovelovelove to experience sometime in my life.

So, yeah .. I think that's me in nutshell (awful big nut for this sized shell). Any questions? Feel free to ask, this is more information that I've volunteered about myself unprompted in a long, long time.

- Jinx

Good Morning Everyone,

Hope you all had a wonderful weekend and are waking up to a gorgeous Sunday morning! When I start college at the end of August, I will try and be in here as much as I can, but I am taking an Anatomy and Physiology class in six weeks.

Have fun today!

Zimmy

Good Afternoon Mystic,

Good luck in Phlebotomy class! I start class on August 30th to become a registered nurse. I am taking Anatomy and Physiology 1 and 2 in six weeks and a microbiology class in fifteen weeks.

Have a good day today!

Zimmy