I still love this thread!!! Sorry for the derail, but how awesome that there are so many different opinions and excellent suggestions!

Haha, that's no derail! And I feel the same way about this thread. Keep it up ladies, your responses are great!! :D

With impunity.

You know what I always thought was fun? Meet me at the bar where some local band is playing and it's too loud for us to talk. Force your way up to the front line against the stage with me (I'm short and I'm rude, okay?) and bob alongside. Clumsily make out with me while we're waiting for my bus to arrive, then you go wait for your bus.

Actually, this one time someone got on my streetcar with me and took it to my place. Then she walked across the street to the stop for the streetcar going in the opposite direction and went home. I thought that was kinda rad.

Don't pick me flowers, plant me a tree.
Don't buy me candy, comb me a sea shell
Geodes are forever.........

Shower me with autumn leaves and I may fall for you :)

Starting to not feel so hopeless about romance...
 

OMG there is still romance out there!

Finally somewhere that gets it!

For me, it's simple. If you want my attention, sweep me off my feet! You don't have to spend a ton of money because it's the little things that mean the most! Pay attention and pick up on the small clues and you'll know exactly what to do.

Grooming, that's a given! If we're going out, then I am going to take the time to look good... (I am a femme after all), and I expect you to do the same. Smell good too, but wear something that's subtle enough that draws me in.

Do I expect you to go have your car detailed, no, but I also don't want to contend with fast food bags and whatever else that you have in there either.

Flowers are always welcome.

Come to my door, don't pull up and honk, I'm not waiting for a taxi service.

Take me by the hand and walk me to the car, open the door. Treat me like a lady because I AM!

Plan out something that will be fun for both of us! That comes back to paying attention to those little clues. If I am going out with you, we A. have things in common, and B. I'm interested! Picnics are awesome, long walks are great, things that we can do where we can spend time talking and getting to know each other are awesome!

I'm comfortable with my sexuality but please don't assume that means that you can grope, touch, kiss, fondle, or anything else. Ask first! Extend your hand and let me decide.

If we go to a bar, I don't expect you to buy my drinks all night but I do expect you to offer. I also don't expect you to think that you can get me drunk and think you're going to take advantage.

When you take me home, open my door, take my hand and walk me to the door. You can kiss me good night, but I don't need a tonsilectomy, start soft and we'll see from there.

The bottom line, Romance me!!! Sweep me off my feet!!!

I,m thinking Id rather not hear your worse date story! :blink:

All the above are the basics in my book.

Wha??? No tonsillectomy? :0

snickers...

like a lady and with respect

:)

treat me well and with respect like how you would want to be treated. talk with me as though its a fact i have a brain and not just a hope on your part that i do, chuckle when i order the most expensive thing on the menu, because I'm likely to, or if on a picnic i want my water right out of the bottle please no need for fancy cups. Have a conversation with me a meaningful one so that when the date ends there is no question that a second date will in fact happen, the world is a playground, lets play.

and please if you want my interest, do not lie to me..i pick up easily on that shit and i really dislike being lied to.

Bumping this one..

On the way home, stop to pick me daffodils just to see me smile and show me your gentle, affectionate way.

Like a lady :) Nuff said.

Still a lil ol'e fashioned..smiles
 

I'll tell you how NOT to treat me:

Don't pick me up on a motorcycle with no advance warning so I'm inappropriately dressed, take me to a bar, and ignore me to watch tv. I will sneak out the back door, pick up a burrito, go home, and ignore your calls.

Actual date I went on about ten years, BTW.

Seriously, just pay attention to what I'm saying and make me belly laugh, and you're golden.

Actually the above reminds me of a date I went on. Look, I know some people hate phones, but at the time I had a brand new mobile, flashing blue lights and one of the newest out at the time. Plus I was young, single and living in a pretty wild city, so yeah, I was on my phone a bit. That didn't stop us talking, having fun and drinking. Through it all she never said anything about the phone.

So we're somewhere and manage to convince a gorgeous gay male couple to play pool with us. We're getting all competitive and laughing and one of the boys tells us we're loads of fun, then out of the blue and in front of both boys (she actually made a point of saying 'I have something to say', so we were all listening), she tells me she doesn't like people using their phone around her. Both boys backed off in embarrassment and I was so shocked that for me, the date was over.

She tried to see me again after that, but I wasn't interested in seeing anyone who felt comfortable humiliating me in public just to get her point across. In fact I never spoke to her again.

i've said this before, but this gets my goat. Picking me up and THEN stopping at the ATM or for gas. Do that BEFORE you pick me up. Basic courtesy. i don't even do that to friends unless i get rushed or something. They don't need to sit through my errands.

Seriously, a butch picked me up once and did both -- got gas and went to the ATM. Then she got lost. Great preparation.

What the heck??? I think a Butch should get gas well before picking you up. Who wants to smell like gas when they want to get close to a femme??

I agree with you and SleepyButch--total rookie.
Stick with the Varsity Butch team honey....