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The top five regrets people expressed before they died..
1. I wish I had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.
2. I wish I didn’t work so hard. 3. I wish I had the courage to express my feelings. 4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends. 5. I wish that I had let myself be happier Live, my friends |
Sayings....
"Burning the candle at both ends," because that is what I've been up to lately.
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You look for truth...and yet all you see is comfort and protection. And I yet I ask, once again....how do you grow?
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"You think you’ve seen her naked because she took her clothes off? Tell me about her dreams. Tell me what breaks her heart. What is she passionate about, and what makes her cry? Tell me about her childhood. Better yet, tell me one story about her that you’re not in. You’ve seen her skin, and you’ve touched her body. But you still know as much about her as a book you once found, but never got around to opening." |
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“Crocodiles are easy. They try to kill and eat you. People are harder. Sometimes they pretend to be your friend first.”
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I read it in a friends' face book page, there it wasnt attributed to any one in particular...After I read your post, I did a simple search on Google and every time came back with the name Dominic Matthew Jackson. Thanks! :byebye: |
It is not a lack of love, but a lack of friendship that makes unhappy marriages. Friedrich Nietzsche
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This writing is amazing and so descriptive-one can truly feel it. I looked for more of his writing: "She was the kind of girl who weighed her life in tears—not years. When I met her she told me she was as old as the ocean, and I thought maybe I could save her—as if the current needed a life jacket to keep moving." Dominic Matthew Jackson (via wnq-writers) http://dominicmatthewjackson.tumblr.com |
There will always be something that’s not right about you to a person who’s not right for you. —Trent Sheldon
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Choose Her Every Day (or Leave Her)
Intimate relationships don’t last because you love each other. They last because you make—and remake—a choice. I spent 5 years hurting a good woman by staying with her but never fully choosing her. I did want to be with this one. I really wanted to choose her. She was an exquisite woman, brilliant and funny and sexy and sensual. She could make my whole body laugh with her quick, dark wit and short-circuit my brain with her exotic beauty. Waking up every morning with her snuggled in my arms was my happy place. I loved her wildly. Unfortunately, as happens with many young couples, our ignorance of how to do love well quickly created stressful challenges in our relationship. Before long, once my early morning blissful reverie gave way to the strained, immature ways of our everyday life together, I would often wonder if there was another woman out there who was easier to love, and who could love me better. As the months passed and that thought reverberated more and more through my head, I chose her less and less. Everyday, for five years, I chose her a little less. I stayed with her. I just stopped choosing her. We both suffered. Choosing her would have meant focusing everyday on the gifts she was bringing into my life that I could be grateful for: her laughter, beauty, sensuality, playfulness, companionship, and so … much … more. Choosing her would have meant focusing everyday on the gifts she was bringing into my life that I could be grateful for: her laughter, beauty, sensuality, playfulness, companionship, and so … much … more. Sadly, I often found it nearly impossible to embrace – or even see – what was so wildly wonderful about her. I was too focused on the anger, insecurities, demands, and other aspects of her strong personality that grated on me. The more I focused on her worst, the more I saw of it, and the more I mirrored it back to her by offering my own worst behavior. Naturally, this only magnified the strain on our relationship … which still made me choose her even less. Thus did our nasty death spiral play itself out over five years. She fought hard to make me choose her. That’s a fool’s task. You can’t make someone choose you, even when they might love you. To be fair, she didn’t fully choose me, either. The rage-fueled invective she often hurled at me was evidence enough of that. I realize now, however, that she was often angry because she didn’t feel safe with me. She felt me not choosing her everyday, in my words and my actions, and she was afraid I would abandon her. Actually, I did abandon her. Like a precious fragrant flower I brought proudly into my home but then failed to water, I left her alone in countless ways to wither in the dry hot heat of our intimate relationship. By not fully choosing her everyday for five years, by focusing on what bothered me rather than what I adored about her, I deserted her. Like a precious fragrant flower I brought proudly into my home but then failed to water, I left her alone in countless ways to wither in the dry hot heat of our intimate relationship. I’ll never not choose another woman I love again. It’s torture for everyone. If you’re in relationship, I invite you to ask yourself this question: “Why am I choosing my partner today?” If you can’t find a satisfying answer, dig deeper and find one. It could be as simple as noticing that in your deepest heart’s truth, “I just do.” If you can’t find it today, ask yourself again tomorrow. We all have disconnected days. But if too many days go by and you just can’t connect with why you’re choosing your partner, and your relationship is rife with stress, let them go. Create the opening for another human being to show up and see them with fresh eyes and a yearning heart that will enthusiastically choose them every day. Your loved one deserves to be enthusiastically chosen. Everyday. You do, too. Choose wisely. -Bryan Reeves- |
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