What makes me feel loved and or secure
 

To have faith in my abilities

To believe in who I am

To Trust me

THAT look...the one that says no matter what, no matter who, she thinks I hung the moon.

A good start
 

Fidelity! Really,how hard is it???

OMG, I am the same, but I also need for someone to give me unconditional love and to love me for me, not a mold.

That along with 'normality'.

To feel loved
 

We are not together in the way most are... For me to feel love is in the voice... It makes my heart race and I can't help but smile and sometimes even giggle...
It is in the texts.. When I hear my phone go off at work or anywhere I look down and again my heart is racing and I am excited before I even read what hy says ....
It is in the actions... I can have bad days and still feel loved... the support the caring ... the quick words of " I love you so so much" it melts me right there... I wake up and am thinking of hym I go to sleep and the same...
To me that is real love... More then I have ever had... I am respected... cared about... supported.. and most of all I have it all unconditionally .. I love you Dallas so much!

Oh sweetheart I love you so so much :bunchflowers:

Feeling loved
 

I feel most loved with a combination of physical touch, cuddling as well as romantic / sexual and listening.

To me feeling most loved is to be supported and encouraged to what makes me the happiest, and allows me to care for someone in the same way.

I read an interesting book a few years ago about how each of us shows and feels love in different ways - how to help identify what makes you and your Sig Other feel most loved - called "The Five Love Languages":. While not all parts of the book were in sync with my beliefs I felt the message was a good one.

So many things, but these will suffice for a start...
 

I agree I should have put that as well.

Also someone who values relationships as I do. Someone who doesn't move from relationship to relationship. :)

This book is amazing! I wish I'd read it long ago

I don't remember.

Who am I?

High love for myself-without that, no one else is getting through my walls.

Acceptance for all I am, faults and all, BUT also someone who will push me in the ample behind when I make up my mind to better myself. Challenge me, dare me.

I don't need gifts, but if you want to give me one, make it something personal-like you know who I am. The best are made, or planned. Something simple like my favorite dinner on the "good" dishes, followed by slow dancing in the living room...etc.

For example, it would rock my world if she would massage me; better still if she snuck out and took massage classes just to learn how to pleasure me ;). I was married to a man who gave me a gift certificate for the cheapest massage at a spa, and I had to drive myself there and back. No more.

I must have laughter, enough to make my sides hurt and so I can't breathe, tears rolling down my face. I won't ever be with someone who can't make me laugh. I hope I make my future girlfriend laugh the same way.

I must have someone who listens to me and who doesn't talk to me while walking out of the room.

Be reliable and authentic.

Tolerate me when I'm a big kid and love cool things, whether you think they are or not; better yet, sometimes be a big kid yourself. This does not mean being childish or un-adult when seriousness is needed.

I like the physical part of a relationship often. Very often. This is my primary "love language", from that book. It does not always mean sex; I love contact, period. Don't expect me to warm all over you in bed if you've not touched me at all during the rest of the day.

That's a long list, all to say I can't define it but I know when I feel it :)

Love
 

I always feel loved. I need nothing to have that feeling. Others can add to it but no one, and nothing can take away from it.