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bigbutchmistie 03-02-2010 10:32 PM
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Originally Posted by Miss Scarlett (Post 60002)
Does anyone watch Ruby on the Style network? She got a really great attitude about life and isn't afraid to talk about how people's reactions/perceptions affect her.
Yes I do. I love watching her. She is so sweet :)

sweetfemme247 03-02-2010 10:33 PM
oh i love ruby she is so pretty, I wish I could meet her.

Princess4u 03-02-2010 10:39 PM
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Originally Posted by Miss Scarlett (Post 59995)
I've heard it too. That "if only you were smaller crap" comes from people who are definitely NOT worthy of you or your time.

I've lost 130 lbs over the last 17 months. I did it for me and no one else. (Health reasons - trying to avoid Type II diabetes and that ugly pancreatic cancer that killed my mother.) Shelia loves me for me and not for the "packaging." And I love her for just her. If she wants to lose weight for herself and her health I will stand by her. If she doesn't, I will still love and stand by her.
You are both very blessed souls....congratulations on your loss Miss..that is remarkable. As I said and its sad but also wonderful.....that ppl like you and Shelia are rare....I am honest about my size...I dont try to make someone thing I am something that I am not....with that said....and you will love this one.....I have met ppl from here...and went to see them....and oh you should see the expression on their face as I am getting off the plane..now mind you...i have webcam...i send pics...and I am honest...I will tell you here i am a 22-24..closer to the 22...and yes...they are all about me while we are on the phone and getting to know one another...but real life....wow what a difference....then comes the ...lets be friends talk..LOL....which I find funny given that the day before I left....i was "the woman of her dreams"....LOL

sweetfemme247 03-02-2010 10:42 PM
I know how that is, I get that all the time, your not pretty enough, your to big, your to young, I say kiss my ass.

Miss Scarlett 03-03-2010 05:35 AM
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Originally Posted by everettdiva (Post 60013)
I know how that is, I get that all the time, your not pretty enough, your to big, your to young, I say kiss my ass.
Yes!

Actually what I say is "Kiss my big, fat, fuzzy, lesbian a$$!" Well, now I say saggy instead of fat. But you get the idea.

Princess, I don't understand what the heck they were expecting if you sent them accurate pics...some people are just plain wierd. :wtf:

Equally annoying are the people who don't want overweight friends.

Or the ones that do - so they feel better about themselves. My former employer actually felt threatened by my weight loss! She equates a person's value to their weight. If I saw a mutual acquaintance and mentioned it to her her first question was about their weight. This included a friend who was recovering from breast cancer. She's very wrapped up in herself. For example - I had lost over 60 lbs and she did not notice until someone brought it to her attention. Then she came to me and said "Someone told me you lost over 60 lbs. Is that true?" I stood up and she nearly fell over.

Do you find that your weight makes you invisible to some people?

Princess4u 03-03-2010 12:46 PM
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Originally Posted by Miss Scarlett (Post 60112)
Yes!

Actually what I say is "Kiss my big, fat, fuzzy, lesbian a$$!" Well, now I say saggy instead of fat. But you get the idea.

Princess, I don't understand what the heck they were expecting if you sent them accurate pics...some people are just plain wierd. :wtf:

Equally annoying are the people who don't want overweight friends.

Or the ones that do - so they feel better about themselves. My former employer actually felt threatened by my weight loss! She equates a person's value to their weight. If I saw a mutual acquaintance and mentioned it to her her first question was about their weight. This included a friend who was recovering from breast cancer. She's very wrapped up in herself. For example - I had lost over 60 lbs and she did not notice until someone brought it to her attention. Then she came to me and said "Someone told me you lost over 60 lbs. Is that true?" I stood up and she nearly fell over.

Do you find that your weight makes you invisible to some people?
Well, just another way to think of your friend w cancer....perhaps she didnt notice your wt loss bc she never say you for your wt to begin w..she saw you for YOU!!! just a thought...and yes..i am invisible everyday!!! and for those few moments when i stick out like a sore thumb.....I have learned to go "into" hiding....but I do have my moments of..."here I am....take me or leave me the hell alone!" but I think that is just a front most of the time!

Miss Scarlett 03-03-2010 08:34 PM
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Originally Posted by Princess4u (Post 60256)

Well, just another way to think of your friend w cancer....perhaps she didnt notice your wt loss bc she never say you for your wt to begin w..she saw you for YOU!!! just a thought...and yes..i am invisible everyday!!! and for those few moments when i stick out like a sore thumb.....I have learned to go "into" hiding....but I do have my moments of..."here I am....take me or leave me the hell alone!" but I think that is just a front most of the time!

Upon review of my post that you responded to, I realize that I can be a terrible writer...my friend with cancer noticed and supported my weight loss. It was my former employer who was so self-absorbed that she didn't notice until it was brought to her attention. Believe me, she saw my weight. Then she chose to ignore me dismissing me as fat and unworthy. She will never change. Of course I got the last laugh. She paid nearly $2,000 to a nutritionist in an effort to lose 10 lbs. When I left that job last summer she had lost 7 lbs but gained 9. Whereas I, by that time, had lost over 100 lbs and am still losing having lost 130 so far.

Princess4u 03-03-2010 10:43 PM
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Originally Posted by Miss Scarlett (Post 60504)
Upon review of my post that you responded to, I realize that I can be a terrible writer...my friend with cancer noticed and supported my weight loss. It was my former employer who was so self-absorbed that she didn't notice until it was brought to her attention. Believe me, she saw my weight. Then she chose to ignore me dismissing me as fat and unworthy. She will never change. Of course I got the last laugh. She paid nearly $2,000 to a nutritionist in an effort to lose 10 lbs. When I left that job last summer she had lost 7 lbs but gained 9. Whereas I, by that time, had lost over 100 lbs and am still losing having lost 130 so far.
WOW you go girl...congratulations.....i would love to hear your routine one day...i have tried so many products and support groups!!! so i am interested to see how your routine has changed your life

Leigh 04-24-2010 06:42 PM
I haven't seen anyone post in this thread in awhile, so I wanted to say hi to all of the beautiful BBW ladies who rawk our world :rose:

RockOn 09-12-2010 08:04 AM
This is where my attraction to femmes is geared ...to the plus size women ... hot, hot, hot, sexy and beautiful ... what an enormous turn on for me as long as it is not to the point of bringing on health problems.

MysticOceansFL 09-12-2010 08:10 AM
I've always liked BBW and I also noticed they have more confidents about themselfs than other woman do.

nycfem 09-12-2010 09:16 AM
Just linking up these two friendly threads :)

http://www.butchfemmeplanet.com/foru...read.php?t=418 (Big Girl Love)

http://www.butchfemmeplanet.com/foru...859#post189859 (BBW)

nycfem 09-12-2010 09:40 AM
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Leigh 09-14-2010 12:22 AM
*giving the thread a little bump*

Electrocell 07-06-2011 07:54 PM
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Originally Posted by sweetfemme247 (Post 60013)
I know how that is, I get that all the time, your not pretty enough, your to big, your to young, I say kiss my ass.
Hon tell them if they don't like what they see don't look .It will be their loss for not getting to know you.

ScandalAndy 07-06-2011 08:42 PM
I'm responding to this hella late, as usual, but the bolded bit below (alliteration, hehehe) really speaks to me. I find that because of my weight I am often immediately placed in the 'friend zone' when meeting potential partners. I also feel like most people don't look at big people as "sexual people", like we're some sort of anatomically devoid dolls that don't think about or have sex, because that's too gross or something. It bugs me, a lot.



Quote:
Originally Posted by Miss Scarlett (Post 60112)
Yes!

Actually what I say is "Kiss my big, fat, fuzzy, lesbian a$$!" Well, now I say saggy instead of fat. But you get the idea.

Princess, I don't understand what the heck they were expecting if you sent them accurate pics...some people are just plain wierd. :wtf:

Equally annoying are the people who don't want overweight friends.

Or the ones that do - so they feel better about themselves. My former employer actually felt threatened by my weight loss! She equates a person's value to their weight. If I saw a mutual acquaintance and mentioned it to her her first question was about their weight. This included a friend who was recovering from breast cancer. She's very wrapped up in herself. For example - I had lost over 60 lbs and she did not notice until someone brought it to her attention. Then she came to me and said "Someone told me you lost over 60 lbs. Is that true?" I stood up and she nearly fell over.

Do you find that your weight makes you invisible to some people?

Electrocell 07-06-2011 08:46 PM
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Originally Posted by ScandalAndy (Post 373578)
I'm responding to this hella late, as usual, but the bolded bit below (alliteration, hehehe) really speaks to me. I find that because of my weight I am often immediately placed in the 'friend zone' when meeting potential partners. I also feel like most people don't look at big people as "sexual people", like we're some sort of anatomically devoid dolls that don't think about or have sex, because that's too gross or something. It bugs me, a lot.
Big people are ususally more sensuous and sexual from my experience.

dixie 07-06-2011 09:06 PM
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Originally Posted by ScandalAndy (Post 373578)
I'm responding to this hella late, as usual, but the bolded bit below (alliteration, hehehe) really speaks to me. I find that because of my weight I am often immediately placed in the 'friend zone' when meeting potential partners. I also feel like most people don't look at big people as "sexual people", like we're some sort of anatomically devoid dolls that don't think about or have sex, because that's too gross or something. It bugs me, a lot.
Agreed. Ha! If they only knew how well we can rock their world! lol ;)

Actually, from my experience, I haven't really had an issue for the most part. Usually, if they have an issue, they aren't someone I would want to date anyway. Hell, even when I was skinny I wasn't skinny. I'm a thick girl, always have been. Yeah, I'd like to be a lil smaller than I am now, but I don't EVER wanna lose my curves. :praying:

Electrocell 07-07-2011 06:33 PM
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Originally Posted by dixielady (Post 373610)
Agreed. Ha! If they only knew how well we can rock their world! lol ;)

Actually, from my experience, I haven't really had an issue for the most part. Usually, if they have an issue, they aren't someone I would want to date anyway. Hell, even when I was skinny I wasn't skinny. I'm a thick girl, always have been. Yeah, I'd like to be a lil smaller than I am now, but I don't EVER wanna lose my curves. :praying:
Curves is always good :cheesy:.Agree would like to lose a few more pounds myself.

ScandalAndy 07-11-2011 10:37 AM
So femmes, where do you shop? Are there any particular styles you feel are complimentary to your curves?

For everyone: what's your favorite thing to wear that makes you feel amazing about yourself?


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