someone at work ...

their every existance at work is very calculated ... they MUST do everything possible to underhandedly (smoke and mirrors effect) encourage others to always view them in a favorable light

undetectable unless you work very close to this person and pay very close attention ... then you can see this hand-crafted personality ... person will have perfect timing in displaying modesty, can also throw out believable lies on the fly with no hesitation

very well practiced in the art of deception ... (Rolling Stones song quote)

also, brings "social engineering" to my mind since I am a software developer ...

Social engineering can be defined as using deception and manipulation to obtain confidential information. I have found that is an interesting topic to read about. (google: books by Kevin Mitnick .... techniques are disclosed)

The list seems to grow as I age. Not sure how I feel about that. Goddess, I hope I'm not becoming a crotchety old intolerant spinster! :blink:

• Arrogance
• Pretentiousness
• Apathy
• Self Centered
• Religion
• Emotional Immaturity
• Disrespect
• Lack of Manners

People who try to gross you out or are crude and disgusting without caring that they might be offensive.

Loud chewers.

A person who arrives EARLY for a date or appointment is so rude especially
when they expect me to ready with shoes, socks, coat and any other outer-
wear on.
Even if they're on time, must be willing to stay and visit my family or any
friends who may be present. If I chose to have someone in my apartment
when going out, you better bet it's to form an opinion to talk about when I get
home or the next day.
The obvious, rudeness to anyone.
Any physical violence other that defense to an/impending attack
Poor table manners. You don't need to be raised wealthy to have proper basics. I'll show you about using your fork for ice cream, and how to pick a lobster.
Act/look like you care about yourself.

the word..maybe
do say yes, or no

Oh gosh, yes.

Also: people that chew with their mouth open.

I die a little death inside.

The one and only time such behavior was acceptable... dare I say... almost cute! :p

Smokers sorry no can do.

Me neither. I don't even have friends who smoke. I've tried!

I quit back in 2014 and my ex quit not long after we got together. It aggravates my allergies really bad now and oh man the smell, I just can't.

Good for you! It's incredibly hard to quit! :koolaid:

My bro finally quit too recently... like after 30 plus years.

Thanks and congrats to your bro on quitting as well, his health might improve too since he stopped smoking.

Just 6 months ago, I quit smoking cold turkey a few days after a phone
call to my plastic surgeon. The nurse told me that my surgeon would not
operate if I was using tobacco of any sort.
That scared me into quitting cold turkey from 1-1.5 packs per day.

No meds, gum, lozenges, vapes Just incredible will! You can do it too.

Wanted Top Surgery more than lung disease.

Yup... I watched my godfather and one set of grandparents die from smoking related cancers. My doc won't even consider surgery unless i quit. I smoked even after my near death deal in 2010 but last straw was seeing what it does.

I have met some very nice over-sharers who turned out to be wonderful people whom I liked very much.

BUT, I still have to say, over-sharing. If I don't know you well, or even if I do, there are things I do not need to know.

Being chased or stalked. Big deal breakers, to me.
Instant turn off.

Instant turn-offs
 

Pushy and passive aggressive personalities.
Manipulative personalities.
People pleasers.

Religious zealots who try to throw stuff in my face, ive had a date do this.

Folks who cant text back.