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Don't push me when I'm irritated at you. I like to think I'm very laid back, it takes a bit to set me off, and I don't want to be annoyed/angry with you. It takes a lot more for me to get over being angry with you than if I am just irritated. Besides, I will get snippy. There's a side of me you shouldn't have to ever see, and if you do, not directed at you! :sunglass:
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Understand that I dont have family dont belittle me because you do.
Dont be verbally/physically/emotionally abusive in any way to me Dont expect me to pay your bills Dont complain about me being too mushy. When Im a man whose comfortable enough to tell you and show you that I love you and adore you. When you know I dont dance, dont dance to love songs with other butches while out. Its disrespectful. And rude. Besides I may have two left feet but would slow dance with you given the chance. Dont fall asleep during a heartfelt conversation |
Don't yell at me or call me names. Don't be sarcastic when you are angry or say "nothing" when I ask what's wrong.
Don't notice and appreciate beautiful women and expect me not to do the same. We sometimes are attracted to the same thing. Sorry that weirds you out. |
Don't tickle me to wake me up. You will have one seething, hissing, hellbent femme on your hands!
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And I hate to be told "nothing" is wrong when something is clearly wrong... |
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I just had to say it...
yeah....well....call me fat and I will say "nothing!" when you ask me what is wrong...lol....
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Maybe the biggest one of all is: Don't be hesitant to take responsibility for what you do, and I'll do the same. Everyone makes mistakes and no one is perfect. A quiet apology goes a long way. |
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Don't tell me you don't deserve me. You do. I am not perfect, I have flaws. How do you not deserve someone who will care about you and love you? Everyone deserves that.
Don't get snippy with me. You might be in a bad mood or caught off guard but do NOT bite my head off. And do not use profanity aimed towards me or something I may have done. I get defensive and the last thing I want to do is be around you because now I feel like worthless. |
If you're mad at me, fine...but for the love o' Moses...DO NOT say "whatever" and disregard what I have to say on the situation.
I swear thats the most juvenile thing I've ever heard come up in an argument. |
Don't forget why you fell in love in the first place.
If that happens, sometimes, you can never recover. |
do not escalate every disagreement to "we might as well just break up, then" because we will. i have been emotionally blackmailed with this one too many times, and i dated a butch a couple of years ago that i warned straight up about this. i was really attracted to hym. i really liked hym. we had a really good time together. i was considering relocating, even. then one day hy picked a fight with me thru text message (!) and when it didn't go hys way hy texted me that maybe i should just go find someone else if i wasn't going to act right (!) hy never heard from me again. |
Oh yes I get ya'll on the hollering,tickleing and belittling ...one more thing to add..dont ever grab me in anger and threatin me..not cool..u will not win...u will be out the door ina flash.
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To be naked ~ Body and Soul
Is a most vulnerable place Do Not turn your back and walk away I will never forget that hurt ~ nor will I let it go |
Dont start a deep conversation, or try to sort out an issue, when I am on my way to bed. Or when I am in bed. If you want to talk to me, do it when i am awake.
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don't call me controlling when I won't do what you want me to do
and don't blame me when you want to do something I don't wan to do and you chose not to do it cause I won't do it. don't hog the remote, the music, the phone or anything else that impacts me cause i am in the same space don't expect me to entertain you all the time. I am never bored and there will never be enough hours in the day to learn, do, find out about, discover, read, craft, etc. everything I would want to. don't tell me you are bored all the time bored people are lazy or boring in and of them selves. |
When arguing or disagreeing, don't make things up based on what "you" might think is true. Too many fights escalate into something entirely different leaving a person to defend themselves from against unfounded accusations.
I'm amazed how many people actually do this sort of thing. |
DO NOT assume that I feel/think one way or the other. This is a HUGE pet peeve for me! ASK me what my thoughts or feelings are instead please. If you do not trust me enough to communicate honestly with me, then why are you here?
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this reminds me of another one lol...if you want to do something and you ask me "do you want to go to/do X" and i say "no, but i will" either be happy that i am willing or go by yourself....don't start a campaign to convince me i should or do want to- i know what i want. I don't want to go- but i still will go b/c it will make you happy. |
Don't expect TOO much of me...then get upset that I couldn't read your mind or meet every expectation.
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Assume I mean a particular something. Please ask for clarification. Sometimes I know I may not be as clear as can be. LOL... especially upon waking!
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Don't change topics when we're having a particularly important one.
It really bothers me when gears are shifted as such. If you don't want to talk about it, tell me. I'll still be miffed, but I won't feel as dismissed. |
When having an argument, try not to laugh when she swears (especially when she hardly swears). It makes her think you're not taking the situation too seriously. Also be sure the tv isn't on in the background when having a deep convo. Either hit mute or shut it off altogether so she has your utmost attention. (Now where the hell did I put the remote?)
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If you have an issue or a problem, come to me directly. Instead of going behind my back and complaining about whatever it is to whoever you meet, just talk to me about it. I know sometimes this is hard, but it will be easier in the long run. The issue could be something easily fixable or sometimes even just a simple misunderstanding or miscommunication. And please, don't "hint" at it. I am capable of having "duh" moments just like we all sometimes do, so I'm not always quick to pick up the hint. Nothing drives me more nutty than hinting, which can turn to some serious passive aggressiveness if the hints aren't picked up on. I know this. I've been guilty of it myself, numerous times. I still have to stop sometimes and make myself have an open discussion because serious convo can be awkward, embarrassing, painful, etc. It takes time to learn how to communicate and be open with someone, but once you can it tends to make things a whole lot less complicated. It can be enlightening, informative and bring folks closer instead of farther. (f)
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OMG so true...hinting brings out counter-passive-aggressiveness in me...b/c when i realize you're hinting at me i automatically get really "dumb" i do think, however that, for me, it is a good idea to talk a problem over with a trusted friend (or preferably my therapist) before confronting my partner- a lot of the time i need help separating the true issue from whatever fears it triggers in me |
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Don't sit on your ass and think it's ok not to work because your partner makes good money. Of course it's a totally different matter if this is a planned arrangement.
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Don't fly off the handle with jealous rants and accusations. This makes the Dear John/Jill letter much easier to write. Think before you speak!!!
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go to dinner with your honeys right wing racist family and expect to leave still a couple.
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dont move into a relationship with someone and plan for them to move in with you after a month of dating and never even met in person. never rush a relationship and mix lust with love. and never trust someone you really dont know.
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I generally do not piggy back on these type of posts... YOU ARE SO RIGHT!
Dated Southern Baptist Butch... Wants me to meet family (Me - Jewish, Atheist, Anti-War, Anti-American, Human Rights Activist) -- Feel the Moment! "Jane Fonda was a Communist." "You will suffer in pergatory unless you accept the blood of Christ." and... WORSE - They held their bowls to their mouths as they shoveled the salad in (Sorry that put me over the edge). Quote:
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If you know you don't like kids, don't date anyone with kids. You will NEVER take their place!!
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be careful posting to multiple women on FB from your phone.......
you may or may not be on PM lol................ |
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