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be realistic, make goals, have dreams and make a plan, don't just talk about it
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what to do in a relationship
Treat her like a lady Pick flowers for her on your way home Bring her breakfast in bed every sunday then uuumm (lol)
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share, everything.
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~Talk less, listen more
~never let an I love you go unexpressed ~make your actions match your words ~do silly things together, like dancing in the rain :) ~fall asleep in each others arms ~flirt with each other |
Apologize when you know you have said or done something wrong.
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Sell your pedestal on Craigslist but compliment her life and bring her up not down.
Keep your "spidey sense" insurance for those wtf moments. Make love like it is the last time you will ever have the chance. Keep your finger on the eject lever for at least he first three months. Try to do your best to bring half (or more than half) to the table. |
allow yourself to be loved.
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Don't assume that the online version, weekend getaway version is the real thing, do your homework and don't hide from the truth. Honesty and reality are crucial to make it work, even the smallest hint of dishonesty will ruin it. Be real about who you are and what your hard limits are. You can't "make" someone fit no matter how badly you want to. The little things in the beginning become the BIG things in the end.
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It's probably been said a few times,
-Dont' lie. -Keep communication open. -Never say it's ok when it's not. -Forget about pride. -If you say sorry, mean it. -Don't compare your past with your present. -Give and take process. -Be aware of each other's feelings. -Be available. My biggest thing is COMMUNICATION. |
Love like there is no tomorrow!
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Communicate. It's the most important thing.
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Never lie...never, never, ever! Not in a relationship or just a friendship. Not for ANY reason!
It destroys trust, creates doubt and is just wrong! |
Together and Apart
Nurture your own interests and life separate from your partner.
Maintain a little mystery. Create a time and space just for you and your partner to connect, without distraction or interruption. Make sacred space for your love and relationship. |
Belly laugh together about those "only we can get" things. Let yourselves laugh to the point of tears.
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Recognize when your defenses are up out of fear or past baggage.
Admit it and talk about it. Allow yourself the vulnerability that comes from such openness. It fosters love and closeness. I work on this daily. ❤ |
Talk, sometimes it's hard as hell but not talking just causes things to fester then they come out way too emotional.
Working on this now. |
Always show appreciation for the things your partner does not matter how small.
When you are busy and cannot talk on the phone; explain politely you will call them back when you are free and say you are thinking of them; it does make a difference to your partner. They will feel wanted even if you can’t spend time with them until later. When doing things together; like reading, smile, blow a kiss or wink at your partner if you’re not snuggling together. |
what to do !
Listen with your head not your heart .. Sometimes you don't like to hear whats being said so you block it and get defensive ( I am guilty of this ) but listen and open your heart to whats being presented to you. ALWAYS kiss goodnight even when your mad. Make time to be a couple . I love date nite. We try at least once a week to check in with each other so the little things don't turn into big things ! Choose love always !:bunchflowers:
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what to DO....
Be grateful that you have one because a lot of people don't. Cherish it and know that although its not always perfect, you are loved and with very little effort you can make it extraordinary. |
be realistic! life isn't a fairy tale, If you sugar coat the hard stuff, or ignore those little things that you know are a problem for you, you'll one day choke to death on it... handle the hard stuff accordingly
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When she expresses that something is important to her, make that thing important to you too.
Be her biggest supporter and cheerleader in her goals and dreams. Do things that make her want to come home. Make your home a place where she finds peace freedom and happiness. Create an envoriment so that when anything happens good and bad to her , you're the first person she wants to run to. |
remember nobody is perfect and when things happen.. esp not intentional things...its not about what happen.. its about the measures taken to assure it doesn't happen again.
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Love is precious and sacred...keep it both!!
Actively LISTEN......be attentive....observe body language, mannerisms. Respect one another's individuality. Make a date night regularly..or a weekend getaway often..just you two...no phones..no TV..just you and her. Add spice to your time spent alone. Dance and steal a kiss in the rain. Laugh at silly things. Belly buster laughs are healthy! Never let the inner child go away...share that at times. Share a coke float or a banana split.... Forget yesterday...it is gone...enjoy today as tomorrow is a present. Lie close in one another's arms at night..and dance horizontally...whisper sweet nothings in one another's ear. Wake her in the middle of the night with that flaming hot desire that drew you to her in the first place..and make love! with wild abandon...grin Agree to diagree..no one is ever the clear winner if you don't...it is both equally. Never forget those feelings of how it was when you first fell in love..get those butterfly in your tummy feelings again...ask her for a date. Don't forget how she takes your breath away..every time she steps into your world. Validate.....resonate..rejuvenate...keep love young, vibrant, and alive! |
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apologize when you need to
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This probably has been posted before….if so, I apologise.
Don’t assume you partner is telepathic; say how you are feeling, even if you have to write your feelings down first before sharing them. |
stamp
Write her a letter telling her all you admire, and respect about her...tell her exactly why you love to love her...put it in an envelope put a stamp on it and mail it...even if you live together...Greco (OSOF Butch)
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When your partner has had a bad day, a loving hug, even if no words are spoken, speaks volumes. It’s crucial to continue to woo each other throughout the relationship, from 3 weeks to 30 years. Be each other's cheering section /advocate and always remember to laugh together! |
be each other's hero!
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T A L K !!!!!
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Take the time to lay in eachother's arms and let time stand still.
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Discover what fills the other's empty spot and try to understand what gives them focus and makes them feel valued.
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Feed that Fire!
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respecting YOUR freedom to be YOU! (you know what I mean...grin)
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remember daily what you like and appreciate about the other person. Give them respect. show them respect. Value who they are in your life. allow them the space to breathe and just be.
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Hold on to your OWN beliefs! Don't sell out! |
maintain friendships beyond the relationship....
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Who would do that though? i mean, what grown person would do that?
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