The Older LGBTIQ Crush Thread - Post Age 40
 

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Been crushing on Joan Baez since I was 12! She's still da' bomb! I know, a celebrity.... but couldn't help myself.

Thank you so much for starting this thread AtLast! :rrose:

I have to confess that I can't handle much time in the other crush thread...it pushes all of the "you aren't beautiful enough to be loved" buttons I had installed at far too young of an age.

And, in gratitude, I will share a story with you...because I love Joan Baez too...always have, always will.

When I was 16ish...oh back somewhere about 1978...I flew (standby) up to San Francisco as I was inclined to do back then. It was right around Christmas...clear, cold, bright...

Joan Baez gave a free, candlelight concert on the steps of City Hall (or some such building) at midnight as her gift to the people of San Francisco...and I went. There were hundreds and hundreds of us, standing and sitting, silently holding candles....listening to her sing and play acoustic guitar in a relatively silent city night. It was probably one of the most magical times I have ever experienced.

:moonstars:

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Crush on the stunning. (However, my aunt who lived up the road, said she was the biggest bitch in town.)

i dont see whats wrong with posting celebrities, a crush is a crush regardless of age.

Hi Jet :rrose:

I don't have an issue with celebrities or crushes...and I agree that a crush is a crush regardless of age.

Speaking only for myself, I don't spend time in the other thread because I have had far too much pain around the "you're only beautiful and desirable if you're skinny, blonde and fit some standard media notion of beauty." I'm not...I never have been...and I never will be. It took me a long time to embrace my own beauty...and it's still easily shaken by too much fawning over the likes of 20 something stars.

That's just me...and I'm not saying anyone is wrong for liking what they like...I just choose not to hang around it and feel the thumb jamming that old button down, that's all.

AtLast...embrace those wrinkles...I have no doubt you earned them.

:rrose:

umm..ya.....
:bowdown::bowdown:


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:yeahthat::thud:

I guess I still don't understand this because I don't believe you should feel like this....

"you're only beautiful and desirable if you're skinny, blonde and fit some standard media notion of beauty."

People can crush celebrities all they want, its not like going their going to
end up with them. And the deal breaker is....just because they're gorgeous or famous, does in no way set a standard as to what is beautiful...at least not for me. I thought it was all in play, anyway, until it finally it came down to agreeing as to who was hot on the A-lists. Pretty people can't help being pretty physically. But.....

Who gives a shit? I don't.

Every body is attracted/attractive to somebody in this world...and for reasons beyond beauty. And there are dozens of them.

I'm sorry your sensibilities got knocked about.
If I were you, I'd go back in the thread anytime you want and let on that there's a tall, cool glass of water out there for you...because of you.

cya around

still looking fabulous!

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I'm crushing on Arwen because she's the most amazing woman I've met in my life.

We all have feelings about ourselves and our bodies that may not be rational. It's easy to say we should or should not feel something. But we feel, none the less. And we have to respect that in ourselves and others.

I don't tell myself what I should feel. I ask myself why I feel it, and act accordingly. Like Jo, avoiding situations that make me feel bad about myself is my healthy response.



My crush is Queen Latifah in Set It Off. It was a female bank robber movie. She played an unapologetic butch, and she was AWESOME! I have yet to see Chicago. I hear she rocked that, too.

MODERATING:

Reminder:

Please honor the purpose of this thread by posting your over 40 crushes. Keep in mind that we cannot "Police" desire, and that not everyone's desires are the same. Also, please try to be sensitive in your use of language, which can come across as sexist if we're not careful! We are all individuals here with varied tastes and interests, if something/someone doesn't float your boat, skip it and post someone that does.

Thank you Cheryl :rrose: I couldn't have said it better myself...

I also adore Queen Latifah....and she did rock Chicago....you gotta' be good to mama....

Remind me not to look at the glass half full again.

MODERATING:

Jet, if you don't have something related to thread to add on here then don't post. Please keep yourself in check. I know you hate it when others do exactly what you are doing on your threads.

If you have any issues with moderation or otherwise, I encourage you to PM me or any of the other moderators.

Now if we can go back to the spirit of this thread I for one would be very pleased.

I haven;t done anything wrong...nothing. I was referring to my earlier post trying to be positive for Just Jo. Maybe you missed that.

And I'm not off topic. If you have something against me personally, then PM me please...because that's what this feels like.

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Ivan E. Coyote

Brains, humor, a way with words, and an adorable smile.... works for me! :)

So many over-40 crushes!

Ivan E. Coyote
Amy Ray
Kay Ryan
Alison Bechdel
Toshi Reagon
Eileen Myles
Tracy Chapman
Ferron
Cheryl Dunye
Gayle Rubin

For more, see http://www.tophotbutches.com/the-2009-list/

And when I feel really bold, maybe I'll reveal my over 40 (and over 50!) regular-people crushes, some of which might just be right here ;)

Jet,

I know you think that you havent done anything wrong but please do not talk back to our Moderators like this. Its rude and disrespectful.

This moderation wasnt personal and was discussed between 3 different moderators. Now, lets get this thread back on track.

Thanks,
Admin

so lets see....big time crush on my sweetie Jo(f) then...
i crush on..
Lady Pamela
Violaine(dont think she is old enough to be in this category but oh well)
Diva
NYCFembbw(she isnt old enough either i dont think but again oh well)
The Daywalkers
Kat/AllyJ

and since i put so many REGULAR ppl i feel i can throw in Kristy McNichol(omg loved that woman) and
Olympia Dukakis--i know she is up there but dammit she is hot and sassy(at least in Steel Magnolias)


but they dont hold a candle to you sweetheart ;)

Awwwwwww....... :kissy: you're sweet baby (and that's a pretty amazing group if I do say so myself!) :)

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Got to agree! Sexy and talented too!

i have to admit i haven't thought of Mindy Cohn in forever, but i just found this picture of her

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that is one beautiful lady!

i also had it bad for Kristy McNichol and Nancy McKeon.

my BFP crushes are too many to name! :byebye:

WOOT!!!

(f)

ok so i read this wrong...i thought our crushes had to be 40 or above--even tho some i posted arent....didnt realize u had to BE 40 to post....damn old ageism

Our poet laureate, Kay Ryan

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Author of Crybaby Blues. Sigh. She is married to another professor. They have two kids.

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another of Kay Ryan. She can write too. Big Sigh. She's more or less local, but no sightings of yet.

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Elizabeth Montgomery was my first crush as a child, watching Bewitched. As she aged, she became all the more beautiful to me.

Isabelle Rosallini makes my head swirl..the reaction is immediate and intense when I run across her in a film unexpectantly

Queen Latifa is HOT, as is Tracie Chapman.

If Kirstie Alley would just butch out already, I would ask her to marry me. Anyone who loves lemurs is ok in my book...

I love butches of size, too, and there just isnt any in the media (that I know of). The ones who have been in my life were very attractive to me. None of them were truly ok with their size. I was!

On a context note, I want to point out how it feels when you are the young blonde, slim, blue eyed porcelain skinned female in this country. My daughter is one of those. I worked HARD at getting her to not buy into the "desired image" of our culture. She hated that people saw her as that image and devalued me, her mother, who has always been plump, curvy, dark, olive skinned, and now, older and silver haired. She has always valued people for who they are and not what they look like and has had to battle those stereotypes...as well as people who unintentionally devalue her beauty because it IS the desired image. She loves to be beautiful and will advocate her right to be beautiful but also fights to include, not exclude anyone in the realm of beautiful...

she told me the other day, "Mo, you havent looked more beautiful than you do now"...wow...I was blown away...but I had to think it over and realized that she was right...and it was exactly how I felt about myself too!

I WANT a butch with wrinkles, and lovely looser skin, and silver in their hair. Youth feels so unfamiliar to me and I have no desire to lean against someone who hasnt dialed a rotary phone nor ever listened to 45s...the only dance I do nowadays are with those who treasure my aging process...

In femmes, Lena Olin is my favorite. As i was growing up though it was Diana Rigg (The Avengers) and Anne Francis (Honey West).

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