If You Could Turn Back Time, What Would You Do Differently?
 

Hi Folks,

I thought this would be a good thread to start.

As the title states, If you could turn back time (and no I won't be busting out in any Cher song) what would you have done differently?

I would have to say, that I would have never EVER gotten involved long distance with a straight woman which was over 12 years ago. She was my first love and it was my first real experience with another woman. We did the long distance thing for 4 years and I was determined to be with this person.

She made many, many broken promises to me over the course of those years, it became complicated beyond words. We began arguing a lot and things just weren't working out, but neither one of us wanted to let go. I know she loved me very much, and I her, but it had to end. I was so consumed with the relationship and determined to make it work, but at the same time, I felt like I started to lose sight of myself and everything around me.

Finally one day I said no more. It was a emotionally draining and I think I hung in there more than I should have. I ended it and I was so heartbroken, but it was actually for the best, for both our sakes.

The strange thing is, I vowed I would never be involved in a long distance relationship ever again. Then one day, I met a pretty, intelligent, gentle, caring Minnesotan femme who I fell head over heels for. It's true what they say about opposites attract. Boy are we ever different, but we balance each other out so well. It's a nice mix ;)

We have been together now for 8 years and the rest is history.... :stillheart::stillheart::stillheart:

I'd take back those words that hurt you; If could reach the stars I'd give them all to you then you'd love me, love me! Like you used to do.





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no cher?!

(clapping) Very good...And this one's for you:

Oh gosh if I could turn back the hands of time I would do several things diffrently.One I wouldnt have gottem married at 18..I almost walked out of the church when mom caught me and said....I spent all this money,u arent walking out on this..I should have kept on walking.Big mistake.
Corse I would have come out way sooner than I did...famos words of many.
I also would have been more chosey who I dated,but I learned many things about life from it.

Oh, so many things...

I would have studied more in high school. I also would not have sacrificed one entire semester in college in favor of the party scene. One semester of nothing but drunken fuckery was not worth the 5 F's on my transcript and is causing me stress as I apply for a new job and work on a change in grad school plans.

I wouldn't have gotten married right after college. We thought it was a great idea because we were both gay, and we were both two kids from the country too scared of disappointing our families. Bad idea!

I wouldn't have wasted so many years worrying about my father's opinion.

I would have told my grandfather how much he meant to me before he died.

I would not have eaten those shrimp at the chinese buffet. :/

Oh yeah... THAT too! LOL

Btw... Strappiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiieeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee!!

I would not have given up my job and home in PA...both times

I would have talked more to my brother...it might have stopped him before he killed himself

I would have been kinder and more attentive to Mrs Rogers who lived downstairs from me and was in a wheelchair

I would have gone out to see my mom when she called me and asked me to, on the day she died

I would have gone on for my PhD in anthropology like I wanted to

I wish we could in a way turn back time. For me , I would have furthered my education and been more career orientated instead of looking for love. Geesh how dishearting , but my lessons were learn. However, all the lifes experiences made me a better woman. And I thank God for that. For showing me I had love all the time ...

Confessions of a perv
 

I was a Hollywood runaway rape victim at age 11.That turned me into the person that I became for the next 30 years of my life...it was not a nice person.I couldn't see how wrong my life style was until just recently.I was a brute,a monster,especially to the female race.Some of you experienced that side of me personally.I'm sorry.

Of course there's no turning back time.

I'm much nicer these days,trust me.

There are too many things to count for me. Really. I live with a lot of regret. At this point in my life, if I could change one thing, it would be not telling someone that I loved them when it would have really counted. Now it's too late. Never let fear stop you from telling someone that you have feelings for them. I don't regret the chances I took, only the ones I didn't.

A few things (assuming I knew then what I know now),,

I wouldn't have left my mother, career and home in Mississippi when I did. Huge life-altering mistake on several fronts.

I would have finished my education the first time around instead of waiting until I was 40. I eventually did finish a master's degree but it would have been better had I done it sooner.

I would have asked my mom more questions about so many things. I didn't realize how many questions I had until I couldn't ask them.

I would have purchased flood insurance on my home in Mississippi before hurricane Katrina. 4.5 feet of water; enough said.

I would have spent more time talking with my brother before his passing in 1979. I was only 17 when he committed suicide but I think there were more things I could have learned from him had I known what was to come.

Only a few things. I've learned a great many lessons along the way in this life; some of them are harder to think about than others but overall, I live with few regrets and apply lessons I've learned along the way as I go forward in life. Great topic for a thread!

Glynn

Hey Folks,

Thanks for sharing your stories. I think you're all pretty special with sharing some intimate stories about yourselves and what you would have done differently and I appreciate that.

Keep your posts coming. I'm enjoying reading them as I'm sure the next person is as well.

Be well.

if i could turn back time......
 

started T at 20
learned to play more instruments
had more sex...... (if that is possible)
scheduled more vacation with my family
drank less
never smoked
worked out more
recorded more songs

that is all for now

If I turned back time I would have to live the bad parts over, can't do it.

“Regret for time wasted can become a power for good in the time that remains, if we will only stop the waste and the idle, useless regretting.”
~Arthur Brisbane

I would not turn back time. Everything in the past happened for a purpose, and changing variables would not create the same learning, the same experience, or the same bonds. If there are regrets, they are only in the mind. Mental torture and mental suicide. Instead, I choose to embrace acceptance for the balance and thankful for all experiences however they are perceived by me. I've experienced and continue to experience love, life, and hard lessons, and am grateful for each and every second that I can continue to grow and move forward in this wild chaotic ride of a short life on Earth.

“We do not live an equal life, but one of contrasts and patchwork; now a little joy, then a sorrow, now a sin, then a generous or brave action.”
~Emerson

One thing I should have done in the past is take better care of me insted of busting my ass doing things for ppl who didnt appresheate it.Over the years I have given so many ppl in my life slack when they did things that were not good for me cause I was a ppl pleaser insted of seeing them for who and what they were befor it was to late...this caused me no end of self dislike for being such a push over.Now im a lot more careful and not as trusting as I once was...I really hate that I have lost a lot of trust I once had of ppl's objectives.I would like to think I can still trust folks and I do in reality its just I wonder when I let ppl into my life if they are going to use me for whatever thay want then..im nothing but an object to get the place they want to be or get.I hope that made some sence,well I did to me anyway..

There was a time I would (I even had that as a wish in my profile) but now, no way. I wouldn't want to take the chance of having to re-live some of the shit I've lived through. Once was more than enough.

I wouldn't do anything different. It has been a crazy ride and a beautiful journey. I needed to take them both to grow.

I could think of a couple things you could of done differently

Yes I agree I could have and I wanted to, but there's nothing I can do about that now right? Its in the past and I cant change that

i was only teasing no need to get defensive

If anything at all, I would have learned certain lessons the first time rather than having to experience repeated performances.

if i could change something from the past it would be not give people so many chances when it comes to love and dont trust to many people with my feelings and life............ nothing I can change now, I have made alot of friends and also came across alot of people who are full of drama and love to just sit and gossip about everyone and everything.

I wish I had sought the help of career advisors at important junctures in my life. I became a social worker because I wanted to help people, but also because it seemed like the easiest route to a career. Well, it was. But, now that I'm older and really interested in growing, professionally, I am finding it financially impossible to go back to school. I wish I had become a lawyer. I could have helped people, been intellectually challenged, and actually have made a decent living. It does get tiring when I have to worry about paying the bills every single month.

Otherwise, I'm pretty happy with the way things have turned out. If I had made other decisions, I might not have the joys of my children, my home, and my relationship.

I would not have been sitting at that red light when the semi hit my car

I would not have drank Nov 11 2008

I would have moved to a warmer state but one that still had fall

I would have had one or two more children

I would have gone on for my PhD

i'd go back to March 9, which is "Get Over It" Day so i could go round tellin
everybody to just get over it already! (starting with myself)

:nixon:

If I could turn back time...
 

In other words I would of never ran away to Hollywood.
I hate that town.*snort*

Thanks for all your feedback.

Misspent youth (pun intended)
 

I would have taken all that money I spent on booze and drugs in my wild, wild youth and invested it, I could have been retired by now.

I wouldn't have left home at 16.

I would have done it sooner.

There are things I wish didn't happen.
There have been moments in my life I wish I could erase.
In retrospect, the things I've learned because of it all have been priceless, and for that reason, I wouldn't change it. I might have wanted to tweak it a little, but certainly not change it.

Pick different parents :cheesy:

I have thought long and hard about this, since my answer to this question has always been "I wouldn't change a thing, because all I have I owe to where I've been", but that doesn't hold so true any more.

I would have had more children for certain, although my Amy has always been enough.

I would have spent more time with my Mom and Dad before they passed....God, I miss them every single day. I have no regrets about the quality of our relationships, but I feel cheated out of time with them.

That is all I guess. (f)