Amongst us butches ..
 

Why when a femme asks you how she looks in an outfit .. Does she think your lying when you tell her she looks amazing ?

Btw this is a general chat thread .. Femmes feel free to answer questions etc :tea:

Have you asked her?

I have asked her just wondered off other femmes why they sometimes feel like we are telling fibs when we say .. "honey you look hot,amazing,sexy" etc.

She knows i dote on her .. I am always complimenting her.

I wonder sometimes that maybe femmes in the past don't get many compliments .. then when someone comes along who is genuine they find it strange to be complimented and adored.

I have a bad habit of replying to a compliment with "Oh, this old thing?" or "You're kidding; I haven't had my hair done in weeks". I don't think it's a butch-femme thing; I think many people have trouble accepting compliments and shrug them off.

My experience with this topic is that anyone, wether butch, femme, allien, etc, would much rather be complimented before they ask

BRAVO!!!!!!

I was gonna say, if they have to ask, no one is going to believe the compliment. I always try to compliment, (if one is in order) before the question is asked, no matter who it is.

That being said, I also know some people who will always "fish" for a compliment. When I know their fishing, I won't say anything to the matter. It's a fun game for me. :cigar2:

I'm a Femme so I am going to answer from my Femme perspective. There are days when I wake up and I am all blah (menstrual days) and I ask my pookie bear how I look, sometimes I negate the compliment with a negatory remark cause I feel bloated, bloody, fat, pimply, nappy headed and not all around good cause I'm in PAIN. It's like a tiny pity party we take our other halves on and the nice thing is SOMETIMES our other half does a great job with the pat pat soothe other times they are like :seeingstars:. It's nice having trust enough in someone to be able to have a bleah moment without them wanting a why, they do it and go through it with us because they love us no matter how much of a pity party or bleah day we are having.

Now, on other days, when I am looking fucking damn fine and I come out of the room all ready and I ask Grant how I look, it's gonna be different, I'm more flirty, my swagger is different, I may bend a lil like this, or a lil like that, and at that point it becomes mental foreplay. It's then my pookie bear picks up on the cues and goes with the flow.

That's just me though and how I particularly roll.

At first your question seemed a little sexist, cause it casts as Femme's being the only one's with the issue, I know that's not true cause I have Grant ask me how he looks, and I pick up on his body languages and other things. So I think it rolls both ways. I figured you really weren't being sexist and maybe forgot that butches, lesbians, femme's, guys, Daddie's. baby girls, pony girls etc etc all sometimes want a lil compliment even if it's an extra one.

:)

P.S.

Sometimes also for us in particular Grant will be having a bad day as far as how his body and mind connect and I will have to reassure him he looks fine and know to be understanding since what he sees does not match what he is, if that makes sense.:)

Personally, I always wonder...
 

Guys and Butches ask the same thing.

My grandmother taught me that "thank you" is the right answer for a compliment and I try to go with that.

Lol ..

I wanted a thread like this for a bit of chat between butches and femmes,

I did not want to put it in the femme room as that is their personal space to play ..:tea:

I just had a bit of a 'play'

ewwww....that *so* was not anything near what I intended to say...nor what I was saying!

(decorum, decorum!!)

Never. Because, in the eyes of the beholder, "femme" always looks amazing.

:moonstars:

signing up, because...i've been on vacation and missed the funny's:byebye:

The last time I had the privelige of ansering this question form a femme We were geting ready to go to a dance then she came out of the bathroom all dolled up..I never gave her the chance to ask the "do I look ok or dose the make my butt look big ect" I just got up then told her she looked fantastic...gave he a big kiss ..well u get the idea,we were late for the dance.

don't generalize (and while doing so disparage) about femmes so much, please and thank you.

I hate having my makeup mussed up when I'm all ready to go out :eyebat:

:pile::giggle::cheerleader::pointing:

I am carrying a gym card in my wallet , right in front of that coin sized thing..Does that score any Fab points, brushing eyebrows back :cigar2:.

Well Tommi!

Had you phrased your question with a tad more sophistication and left off all the googlie smiley faces and maybe did not refer to it as a coin thing... hmmm - oh and eyebrow brushing - scares me a bit. I wonder if the loose brows ever drop?!?

But other than all of that!!! Love the Gym Card! and unless the Cigar is a Cuban?!?

FABULOUS!

It' all good...
 

Lovely
 

Thanks, Merlin, for this thread, such a lovely idea.

Hypothetical magic words between Femmes & the Butch, Boi, Stud, AG, or... in their lives:

To the Femme : "Honey, you look beautiful, you look fabulous, you make me so hot for you!"

From the Femme:"Oh baby, you look so handsome!" she says smiling & reaching to gently straighten the tie, or collar, or brush back a stray hair or two with her finger tips.. then looking her loved one in the eye she says, "I love you, baby. You rock my world".


:blueheels:

in honor of Femmes
 

Have you heard about International Femme Appreciation Day?

A femme always needs reassuring, it's not that she doesn't believe you....she just needs to know that she is still hot in your eyes.

I don't think I acctually have to say anything to my woman, my eyes say it all. And yes, I know she belives in them...