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Kids Korner - Lessons from/with Our Kids
Six Traits Adults Can Learn From Children By Rita Offen 1. PERSISTENCE - Children are willing to risk failure in order to achieve what they want. They won't give up. Watch the baby learning to walk, falling over endlessly, knocking his head, but getting up and trying again and again until he succeeds and walks, in order to get to the DVD controls for a good chew! Or the child who won't take 'No' for an answer, 'No' meaning 'Maybe', or that with a little bit of creativity, it can be turned into a 'Yes'. The key ingredient for success is the ability to keep going through all adversity, and to never give up - ask any successful person. Even at times when everything seems to be against them, they won't take 'No' for an answer, and if what they're doing doesn't work, they change until it does work, until they get what they want. 2. HAPPINESS AND GRATITUDE FOR SIMPLE THINGS - Picture the parent at the school gate, waiting for her six year old to come out. Mum's had a bad day with disappointments and setbacks and, quite frankly, all she's focussed on is what's gone wrong. Her little girl appears, her eyes search mum out, and she runs out with a big, toothless, ear-to-ear grin, "Mummy, exciting news, I've got a new library book!" Mum's concerns melt away. It would have been a far better day if mum had focussed on what went right about her day, even if the good points were small. Gratitude for what we have in our life helps us to focus on the positive, and be more resourceful, and have more energy to do those things that we have to get done. 3. THE ABILITY TO LIVE IN THE 'HERE AND NOW' - Children become immersed in what they're doing, they live for today. They don't consider what happened yesterday, or what might happen tomorrow, nor what the next moment might bring. This enables them to become absorbed in the task in hand, like when it is visible when a child is 'living' in a page of a book, studying every detail, almost going inside the picture. Adults however, have difficulty with being 'present' to where they are or what they are doing. So often our minds are somewhere else. When we are at work, we wish we were at home, when we are at home, we wish we were on holiday. We take our work with us on holiday, and end up not being present with our family, even when we are with them. "Most of us spend our lives as if we had another one in the bank". Ben Irwin. 4. THEY TEACH US ABOUT OURSELVES - Can you recall a time when you have corrected your child on something she has done only for it to bounce back to you with "But mummy, you do it". "If there is anything that we wish to change in the child, we should first examine it and see whether it is not something that could better be changed in ourselves". Carl Jung. Parents of teenagers will relate to the experience of watching their own childhood over again through their own teenage son's/daughter's antics today. The parent knows what his child is going to do next, because he once did the very same thing himself! 5. FORGIVENESS - Children forgive very easily. They don't have to understand things to forgive. Unlike adults, it seems to come naturally to children to forgive. In our busy lives it is easy to resent our children's interruptions when we're trying to get something done, and we can so easily turn around and snap at them. But first think, how often do we apologise? And second, how often do we realise that our children have forgiven us before the event is even over? 6. THEY ARE ALWAYS READY TO LAUGH AND PLAY - When we laugh and play we are at our best. When we laugh and play our body releases endorphins, chemicals that produce feelings of well-being, happiness and contentment. Laughter is good for our health. "Allow children to be happy in their own way, for what better way will they find?" Samuel Johnson. |
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What lessons have you learned from your kids or when trying to teach them a lesson of life?
What funny experiences or conversations have you had with your kids//nephews/nieces/grandkids? |
Don't laugh - it could happen to you. :)
My 16yr old found *astroglide*... A: "Mom, I think this belongs to you." ::: insert him with a eye roll and cheeky smile ::: jelli: "Uhhh...actually that belongs to Cruel." ::: insert me laughing deep inside ::: |
Our kids are 15 yrs upto 24.
Some times wonder if we really have taught them much. The decisions they make and actions they take just don't always jive with one another.
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luv2luvgirls was posting in another parenting thread about makeup and such.
I just smile thinking of all the fun learning experiences we've had with our kids. then shake my head thinking of all the times I swear my heart was breaking or gray hairs were sprouting. It's such an incredible ride, good and bad, that will forever change our lives. |
So as not to derail the other thread - more...
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Yay babygirl tendencies, but don't be surprised if that changes on and off. Our went from dance classes and the prettiest lil princess, to tomboy, to young woman, to wanting to date trash(father issues), to working 2 jobs in what seemed the blink of an eye. |
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LMAO that is just wrong Jelli |
I totally know how to do hair in a variety of styles... from pig tails to French braid to multi mini braids...lol
Thanks to 2 girls who are now 11 & 7 yrs old :) |
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mine went from tomboi...to in kindergaten seeing this lil girl with long blonde hair and coming home talking about her everyday making her pictures...so one day she bust out with when I see lacy mae..I feel like the cartoon and she does her hands up to her eyes and makes em go in and out and says with hearts in it ...to liking boys and being all girlie so I guess time will tell lol how did you guys handle 5 kids...my head spins thinking bout it :S |
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We've grown up together and shared so many experiences. I was meant to love. Simple as that. |
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yup I was meant to love...i love my lil girl so feircely...I make up stories for her at night she loves it,still wants to be tucked in...Im dreading the day the hormones kick in and she hates me for a minute...but we all go thur it as teens so I know its coming back at me. |
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All the talks. Masturbation. Dating. Drugs. Etc... it's a wonder we all survive. lol |
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Little girl hair is so hard cause it is soooo fine. Lol I have the nail painting down too. Even did Sunshyne's toe nails when she was here. Lol It is the make-up I don't get...I just stare in amazement... :) |
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Lucky you to forget. j/k When our oldest was about 4 yrs old he kept running back and forth between the door and the couch. i was washing dishes and just kept smiling at him thinking he was just entertaining himself. Well, he was. :| He was entertaining himself by going to the door where it was cold enough to get an erection and then running back to the couch until it went away. I was horrified and yet laughing inside(I have twisted humor). I just closed the door and brought his attention to something more educational. lol |
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My sisters son woke up w/ a woody for the first time one morning and ran to my sister saying he broke his member and could his dad fix it? lmao..Amber didnt know what to say to him so she called her husband :D |
I also learned to have the bath water high enough so that it wasn't a 'floating/bobbing" issue. lol I tried never to shame them though.
Then you have the issues of farting, burping, etc. And I don't just mean the boys. lol |
I learned how to listen....I mean Really listen. Because everything they say is important to them.
I remember when the oldest was about 4. she walked up to her mom with a serious look on her face & said "Mom we need to talk...I have a problem..." I don't remember what the problem was....but it was so darn cute & in my head I was thinkin ur 4 what problems could u have? lol |
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Tcountry that is cute :) I know they seem like it is life or death and they are so serious, mine makes me laugh daily she pops off with some of the funniest stuff |
I just fond this thread and I love it.
My two kids teach me so much every day... They absorb everything... Sometimes its hard for me to connect because they love so many thing I never really got into though, like... video games. I don't DO video games, but I gave in and bought them a Wii and I listen when they tell me about their monsters and their triumphs. I was always a bit too grown up for a little kid. My daughter is like me, but my son is all kid, all the time. Yesterday, my 8 year old told me what shes going to be when she grows up. A rockstar she says, but only at night. A teacher during the day. And she will have a husband. He will be a teacher too to help the kids with homework while shes busy being a rockstar. But, she will take the weekends off to be with her kids. I never had it planned out like that.... |
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Oh yea.... mother nature time was an awesome time for us. I had taken the time to talk to my daughter, Kassy, about everything that might happen and even had explained that it was like her right of passage. we would celebrate her starting to become a young woman. Opal are to be gifted and we promised her an opal when the time should arrive. :cheer: Cruel and I pulled into the drive and Kassy came running in a mad dash, "It's time! She's here. Do I get my opal now?" Cruel and I could just chuckle. We scooped up the kids and went out to dinner. Our son was wondering why all of a sudden Kassy was ear to ear smiles and we were going out to eat. Cruel drove with Caleb and met Kassy and I that way Kassy and I could go to the store for hygiene products. It wouldn't be until the next couple months that she started cramping and wanted to give me the ring back. :giggle: Now a days she warns us all by saying "my uterus is falling out just let me be". :crybaby: Now wait until the time that they may not know how to use tampons. Oh joy. Kassy had a friend that tried to put one in her butt. I felt so sorry for her. Quote:
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I have found that kids will talk so much when you get down on their level or take the time to play their game or listen to a song or two of their music. We also have this thing at our house where everyone goes around the table and says a good and a bad thing or 2 good things of their day. At first they resisted and then it got to the point if we skipped it - they let us know. ;) BTW Tell your daughter she's already a rock star!! |
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when mine was 3 her fave song was freebird and she would sit back there and say faster go faster,in a car,and start belting "I cant change" freakin 3 like she knew just what it meant and could relate lmao I love kids :) |
Cruel has been a trooper - especially for having no kids and probably never wanting any.
We joke a lot about how we met in the SC thread over at the dash site. I think cruel was looking for ummm.... well something less than me and 5 kids. I remember... Cruel: Do you have any kids? Me: Are you sitting down? Cruel: Yes, why? Me: I have 5. Cruel: You have 5 what? Me: 5 kids. Cruel: *laughing hysterically* You do not, be serious. Me: I am. Cruel: ::: silence ::: Me: You should run away. Cruel: huh? Me: Really. You should run away. Run FAST! Just when you think you've run far enough away - run faster and further! Well, as you can see we've made it so far. I have stories about Cruel and I learning this parenting together too. LOL |
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you guys sound great :) I hope I find that kind of connection one day ! i bet Creul wishes hy listened :P j/k congrats on such a long relationship. |
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Ty. I will pass it along. I am sure you're right some days. I hope you do find someone that compliments your family and can fit in nicely. I look forward to sharing more stories as time goes on. May I ask do your son, daughter, or both - do they refer to you as mom? |
So... my son lit a box on fire today on our front porch. He found a lighter someone had left out there and lit a candle, then held the flame to the side of the box...
... As soon as i walked out to check on him he dropped the candle under a chair, thank the Gods it went out as he dropped it. After his time out (rather lengthy) I asked him if he understood why it was such a big deal... Him: I could have hurt myself Me: you could have burned down the house Him: oh... but the house was bigger then the fire... LOL... if I couldn't find humor in all the little things, I would never make it. |
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she likes me like this tho so im glad for that. I play watergun fights and we play games all the time. she just needs the other side now :D a femme around the house |
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