Asking the Femme's for help!?!
 

Okay this is my dilema...
Doll asked me to buy her 2 night wears <~ I know, so old fashioned is my termanology, give me a break lol.
First of all, I have no clue on how to buy a warm pajama, let alone a lingerie.
She told me to feel her body and then go out and buy what I feel is right as we were dancing.
I don't want to be seen in the shops trying to fondle a night gown.
I don't want to get a size to big, or she will feel insulted.
I don't want to get a size to small, then she may think that I think she needs to go on a diet, which she doesn't so there we have it.
How do I purchase these items without insult and more so for me injury??
And she said she will not go to the store with me, that I have to surprise her. Will the surprise be on me?
So I am asking for advice from my sisters out there PLEASE...

Ok......first.....go look at some of the things she has already....on the label at the neckline (sometimes the label is on the side seam) it will say what size it is.

My guess is she's a Medium. Sometimes, sizes are by S~M~Lg, etc. Sometimes, they are by numbers: 6~8~10~12, etc.

Again...I didn't check her out when You guys were here, thinking: "I think she's a size 10." hee hee

But from what I remember...maybe a 10 and a size medium.....but go check her clothing and/or other pieces of lingerie.

What's her favorite color? Buy it.

I would say Victoria's Secret, but Macy's also has some lovely lingerie. Good luck!

Oh....don't buy flannel or fleece....

Thank you Diva,
Hmm, check the size label.. But she seems to buy really tight clothing, at least to me there tight. Hope she doesn't read this :kungfu:
I will take all of your information and :deepthoughts: into this...
:bigcry: but I like flannel!!! I think I will shop for myself

:superfunny:That is too funny!!

Okay... here's what you do. If you cannot ask her what size she wears--really, that's the best option, but sometimes you can't--check her closet and drawers, and see what size most of her clothes are. Then, pay attention to what she wears that you like the best, and check the sizes on those items--write the size down so you don't make any mistakes, k?

Now think about WHY you like it the best. Does it fit her loosely? Does it hug her curves? Next time she wears it, DO fondle her... see if you can tell what she's wearing under it. If she's wearing a corset or shaper of any kind, DO NOT buy that size in lingerie, k? Buy the size of most of her clothes, in that case. But if she's only wearing a bra--or nothing--under it, then you're good on the size.

Remember there is a difference between sexy slinky lingerie for going to bed in and warm pj's for actually sleeping in. She might prefer pj's to be a little looser.

Go back to thinking about your fav outfit for her, not just the way it fits, but the color and the style of it. It is plain? Does it have ruffles or lace? Is it a print, or a solid color? Is it a true clear jewel tone? A pastel? A warm autumn color? Look at all the clothes she looks best in, so you can get some sense of the colors that go best with her skintones. If in doubt, avoid buying red, orange, lime green or lemon yellow--only buy one of those colors if you're certain you can tell the right shades, k?

NOW go shopping.... go to her favorite store, and have fun. Bring a color pic of her with you, and ask a salesclerk for help with colors and styles if you need to.

Good luck!! Let us know how it goes!

If she likes flannel, that's one thing.....

But for CHRISTMAS?

I'm just sayin' right now, that, if You buy that girl flannel for Christmas, I will personally kick Your butt to China. ;) You're gonna put FLANNEL on that gorgeous girl??????

Sweet Baby Jeebus. :D

Thank you so very much Bit. Wow, between You and Diva's information, I am starting to feel alot more confident in my shopping demur. And to think. I would go into fishing stores and tool stores with not a doubt...
Doll usually want's perfume, and this I can handle because she leaves so many hints with open magazines circled with red ink for me to catch onto.
I am thinking that I can soon open my own manual on how to buy lingurie so we can help my butch brothers out there. This is awesome. Now, I will have to print all this valuable information and take it with me so that I can shop with out fear. Again, I thank you Ladies' for helping me...

I may have some Chinese in me, so I can deal with the free kick to China, lmao...
Qoute: I said I like flannel, I should shop for me. Geeeez Diva, I look good in flannel lmao, She would look like a woodchuck. I promise not to buy flannel,
~grinz~ 100% cotton!!! That's the ticket ~runzzzzzzzzzzzzzz~

Cotton, my Aunt Fanny! :giggle:

Okay Blaze, let us know how it goes. :nixon:

Owww catalogue... Do you have fishing and camping ones too????:hangloose:
Than you Fever for giving yet another option to my shopping spree

:thud: They have fleece corsets too?
Do please remembere where you saw it.

I may be alone in this, but I don't like Vickie's Secret.

You might try figleaves.com. They have a huge range of stuff.

Come to think of it I don't think Doll likes Secrets either, I think it was Freddrick of Hollywood that she like, but I don't remember seeing any around here. Ok, I will check out figleaves,com. Many thanks Blush...

I would get her a really cute and comfortable, sexy pair of fleece or flannel PJs with matching slippers. Like >>>http://www2.victoriassecret.com/coll...ZZZ&rfnbr=5241

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Good luck Blaze!

Wow, so many choices, I am really getting the hang of this shopping now. Thank you very much FeminineAlure, seeing is much easier than trusting my instincts on what is out there, I deeply appreciate you taking the time to post the links for me! Your awesome.

hi .... I see you got a plenty suggestions already I just would like to add I shop both places VS and FOH ..... VS has much better quality of everything .

FOH stuff look nice on the website , but in reality it's cheap . I even purchased clothing from them and there it's no way I would go in public looking like that . I give it away all what I ordered . I have some nighties , but that's it .

There it's a website www.fatwallet.com .... it has it's own thread for VS updated with promo codes all the time such as free shipping , etc .

good luck and happy shopping :)

No, I am not thread stalking you V. roflmao

awesome!
 

Oh, yes! Please!

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Boom Boom Pow
 

A certain gal :drool::deepthoughts::tease::daddy::tongue: just thinking outloud

no not you ;).... I stalk you too when I worry if you are feeling good and as far I remember you used to like my nighties , but then again you were snoring too much :tongue:

sorry for derail y"all , ya know these ex's .... but at least we are good friends :) and not spiting fire here .

I did, very much so. And sorry about the snoring thing. rofl I wake myself up sometimes.

lmao ... I know , but I used to that so I was fine with it ... and stop stalking me before moderator comes in this thread and tell us off ...... you are derailer ;) not me I am a good girl ...lol

Really?

Cuz I was kind of thinking...

http://img.diytrade.com/cdimg/695069...seen_on_TV.jpg

Suuuurrrrreeeee you are. :superfunny:

Hmmm, I think I like it in Blue, would go good with my tent, and perhaps some serenity prayers... Yes definately the Blue, wonder if it comes in Camo?

For the ladies, I could use some ideas, advice, etc....

When a certain femme comes to visit me from out of town, what is the best way for my house to be cleaned, I do it myself or hire someone to clean it from top to bottom?

Should I buy certain candles she likes? Certain foods?

If You're a clean freak, do it Yourself. If not, hire out. Make sure the bathroom is clean ~ no hair in the sink, plenty of TP, a clean handtowel, maybe even a little basket (if there's room on the counter) with special soap, lotion, travel sized shampoo, etc. It's a nice touch.

Clean linens on the bed, of course.

It would be a very nice gesture to find out her likes and dislikes as far as her preferences ~ drink (alcholic and non- ) of choice, snack preferences, food likes and dislikes, allergy issues. Does she like Peppermint Patties? Favorite candy? Favorite cheese and crackers? Does she like apples as opposed to pears?

It might seem like some work at first, but to her, You will be thoughtful.

Ohhhhh awesome Miss Diva thank you for answering with honesty:rrose:

LOL@ clean bed linens, that is a must for sure :nerd:

I like the 'night wears' (and day wears) from
Agent Provocateur, LaPerla and La Senza

to buy or not to buy
 

make her buy it!

OK....I'm not sure how to even explain this whole thing but here goes.......Femmes I need answers as to why other femmes act the way they do. And I just wasn't happy being disrespected. OK here goes the story......there was this femme that I have known for many years but just online and there was never anything between us except friendship as far as I knew. Well when we met I was single. But that isn't the case anymore. She insisted on calling me Hun and Babe even when I requested she stop. I was told that was how she talked. This femme is very high maintenance and expects to be catered to. Now I agreed to do some work for her which she kinda took as a free line to me whenever she wanted. Now I'm not much for talking on the phone. and this femme would insist it was business and we just HAD to talk etc. It really just ended up being over an hour of my time wasted on nothing. And she was impossible to get off the phone once she was on.

Now all this behavior was sending me the signals that she was trying to stake some claim to me that she has no right to. Am I wrong in that?
I mean she was very into talking all the time and taking up my time and I spent a good amount of time doing work for her. I have seen NO payment for any of it.

Now this fall we met in person and spent a day. She met my gf and everything. She was high maintenance all day which really wears me thin. Then she stopped at Walmart and I opted to wait in the car. When she finished shopping like 45 min to an hour later she threw a fit that she was disabled and legally blind (meanwhile she's driving all over in a rental car)etc. But I needed the break and wasn't going to apologize for it. Another red flag to me. I ain't your butch! Since I haven't been paid at all, I started setting boundaries with her as to how I would communicate with her. This ended our working relationship. Now I'm still owed total payment which I'm not holding my breath for.

Tell me.....did I miss read this whole situation? I think I was just too nice for to long.

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she's crushing on you ~ that's why she got nasty ~ "run forest runnnn " don't look back !! lol gl jedi

You were far too nice for far too long. And she's a jerk, and possibly a narcissist. This isn't femme-specific behavior, either. Of course it's entirely possible that she had romantic expectations of you, but even if that was the case, she expressed it like a really big jerk!

What kind of work did you do for her? Are you able to retract the work or revoke her rights to access the content until she provides payment?

Jedi: "And she was impossible to get off the phone once she was on."
What happened to "click...hang up" once the hairs on the back of your neck stood up?
And what was it you wanted, given you already "were not single anymore". To me it seems you hung in there far too long for all of this to be blamed on her.
Maybe you should take this as a learning moment about your own behaviour and then move on.

I did say I was too nice for too long. But I did finally set the boundaries I needed to and she got mad.