How many femmes are attracted to butches?
I'm looking, but it feels like there aren't many girls who would like to date a butch; and I just feel kind of defeated.
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The youth of today aren't as old fashioned as the "Dance" between butch's and femme's used to be ! But we ( femmes ) are out there ! Be patient :)
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I've never dated a feminine woman.
A memory... years ago, I had a roommate who had this dominant feminine friend who fancied me. My roommate would say "think of her as a butch who wears lipstick, she's also rich" and I said "no way am I interested, that's disgusting!" Also is the fact that I don't use people for their money. Deborah |
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Ender, you are in Alberta.
If you moved to Vancouver you'd be swimming in it. Every single butch I know that has moved here from AB has said exactly the same thing "Holy shit! It's great here for dating!! They *LOVE* butches!" Then they do a back stroke in dates. Wrong province, dude. The femmes are starving here. |
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There was always a sexual charge missing for me but I never could put my finger on :blush: what it was exactly. Then I reconnected with a butch that I had met in NOW after the femme and I ended our romantic relationship and went back to being best friends. One date with the butch. She said: "Come here, I want to kiss you". Knees weak. Then I knew what it was that I had unconsciously been missing. Femmes are friends and sisters for me. They always will be. I always chuckle at the title of this thread: How many Femmes are attracted to butches? Uh, most all of us that are on this site. |
i’m attracted to both but only can only be in a relationship with a butch woman
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Me. I'm attracted to butches.
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I experienced the same sort of thing. I've been with femmes before, but once I experienced the butch/femme dynamic? It's all I want, now. |
But aren’t there degrees of butchness? Like today I saw a photo of Kate Spade, and jeez, if she were just a bit more masculine.... ugh yes! Or Cherry Jones is another one.
Granted, it’s down to personality. Like the butches I’ve liked are confident, smart, kind, and carry themselves in a certain way. Maybe? |
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But isn’t this just socially constructing a binary then? The same could go for femmes. I’m not super femme-y, which dismantles social hierarchies and gender distinctions. I think that’s the beauty of what Judith Butler was getting at when she was talking about gender being performative. |
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In response the the thread there are lots of Femmes and Butches out there I believe but they are scattered far and wide, a statistical cluster would be advantageous for dating I think !
Though no longer taking applications or applying I am attracted to Butches and FTM`s. As far as the phrase `degrees of butchness` goes I would take that to just be a clumsy way of saying the spectrum of how Butches present, from tomboi, soft butch, or harder, extremely masculine looking etc. Every Butch and every Femme has their own unique blend and I dont believe how they present, their preferences in the bedroom or whether they are a Butch attracted to other Butches or likewise with Femmes gives them any more or less of a degree of their identity. Peace. |
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I think its quite difficult to make the right tone come across in the written word as well. For the record, if typing were talking, I smile a lot and am softly spoken, I also speak with my hands and usually spill my tea ! |
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I don't see it being problematic to talk about how masculine presenting a person is, however. I would go with that language. |
I honestly did not intend for this thread to go down this route. As someone who has not only been abused, but also been harassed, I am very sorry. It was a simple mistake. I take these things very seriously and I am very sorry if I have hurt or harmed anyone.
To qualify how I am in real life, I am very ditsy (similar to Jess from New Girl). I think my posts are commonly misread so I think it's best that I either take a break or leave permanently. Thanks and, again, I am so, so sorry. |
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