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fatallyblonde 01-04-2014 06:56 PM

Femmes: what makes you feel sexy?
 
Starting my first new thread :nervous:

anyway, I am interested, my fellow femmes, in what makes you feel sexy. Not in a general sort of way... but what you find helps you come back to yourself when you feel run down, or frumpy, or rejected or out of touch (or all of the above!)... how do you get back to a feeling of sensuality and sexiness that gives you a morale boost and makes you feel strong once more?

For me, I find if I take the time to set my hair in curlers and then do a nice brush out, this really gives me a massive boost. My hair looks good, which means I feel a lot better about how I look and that gives me confidence. Without styling my hair really doesn't do anything and a lot of my self-esteem is attached to being well-presented so even just doing my hair can make me feel a lot more in control and therefore a lot more confident.

Another thing is, if I am really run down and stressed out and exhausted and don't feel like my body is properly mine anymore, if I can afford it I go and get an hour or two hour full body massage. Having my aches and pains soothed away and being coaxed into reconnecting with my physical self through touch really is restorative for me and again, it gives me confidence that makes me feel present in my body and that makes me feel sexy.

Of course, it isn't necessary or important to feel sexy all the time... sometimes I just want to slob around in my pajamas with a cup of tea and be a quiet little recluse and that, in its own way, can be just as restorative and soothing to me as feeling like a bombshell does.

What works for you?

Femminator 01-04-2014 07:23 PM

I usually go for a nice long run and then take a hot shower. I get all smelling girly, and dolled up and, that usually does it for me. Knowing my body can DO that, run for 3 miles and feel not out of breath or whatever, makes me feel really strong and sexy.

Erryl 01-04-2014 07:37 PM

Lingerie and makeup. :)

~ocean 01-04-2014 09:56 PM

my booty jeans ~

LaneyDoll 01-04-2014 10:02 PM

Two words...

My guy.


:sparklyheart:

candy_coated_bitch 01-04-2014 10:12 PM

Taking the time for the extra details. Even if I'm doing it just for myself, and sometimes it matters even more then. Instead of running out of the house dressed like crap--wearing a nice outfit, taking time to do make up, doing my hair. Make up is one that makes a big difference for me. Sometimes I will play with make up when I am home alone and not going anywhere and it makes me happy.

Nice underwear and a nice bra.

A bubble bath.

Putting on nice lotion that smells and feels good.

Just a few.

LaneyDoll 01-04-2014 10:17 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by candy_coated_bitch (Post 875962)
Taking the time for the extra details. Even if I'm doing it just for myself, and sometimes it matters even more then. Instead of running out of the house dressed like crap--wearing a nice outfit, taking time to do make up, doing my hair. Make up is one that makes a big difference for me. Sometimes I will play with make up when I am home alone and not going anywhere and it makes me happy.

Damn I wish you lived closer! We could play make up together!!!

:sparklyheart:

Venus007 01-05-2014 12:03 AM

I love to do my make up, to play around with it. It always makes me feel good to paint my face, lol.

I also love dressing up, big black boots and a pencil skirt, fish nets, porn queen lips and going to some swanky bar and smoking a cigar and drinking a really fine bourbon. It reminds me that I am a woman to be reckoned with when I am feeling beat down.

imperfect_cupcake 01-05-2014 02:20 AM

Taking care of mysel and knowing I can. The thing that makes me feel better than anything is a sense of independence. That gives me the freedom to feel frumpy without feeling fear, without feeling crushed, without feeling that it will cause horrible things. Then being frumpy for a bit is just frumpy. It isn't loaded with all the other things that go with it.

A run. Some hot Thai soup. A spa bath. My own space, and a lot of it. Usually days or weeks. To gain control over how I feel about myself takes more than just a face pack. It means I need the independence and space to wrestle my own shit and to assert my abilities with only myself.

It was hell getting to that point though. And it felt deathly lonely, not looking after people, not being important to someone, not being so needed in someone's daily life.
Now I would not give my feeling of strength in my independence for anything. Not even falling in love. Jesus, especially not that. What makes me feel beautiful is knowledge and confidence in my own self. On my own. And that I am the one that is control of my own life.

I know that's probably not what you meant, but I read what gives me back my self confidence. And the sense of peace and independence and capability I have in comparison to the fear and anxiety of being afraid of being found unworthy... I still get it sometimes, but when I see what's causing it, I change something. Sometimes it's leaving the environment that makes me feel that way.

Actually to be honest it's mostly that. I no longer have to put up with stressors I don't have to. I leave. I find that makes my life a lot easier and my self confidence a lot higher. :)

Random 01-05-2014 02:28 AM

What makes me feel sexy?

when I'm confident in myself and my own power..

for me.. it starts within and flows without..

Venus007 01-05-2014 10:39 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by honeybarbara (Post 876010)
My own space, and a lot of it. Usually days or weeks.

For me that is not just feeling sexy that is necessary for my sanity. A lot of people get weird when they are alone too long, I am the exact opposite. Keep me around people and not alone, I get real twitchy and cranky.

The_Lady_Snow 01-05-2014 10:47 AM

Sexy Times
 
Waking up in the morning, hair looks great, it's all tossed and flipped out, slipping on a sundress and flip flops and driving with the music on sunshine warming up my legs.. I love Sunday morning drive sexy...

tantalizingfemme 01-05-2014 10:51 AM

For me, feeling sexy involves self care, which I forget to do a lot as I get caught up in taking care of everything and everyone else. I love it when I allow myself the time to take a long hot shower, shave everywhere so I am nice and bare, and condition my hair with a deep conditioner. Putting a thick layer of lotion all over my body top's it off.

The feel of clothing brushing over my shaved skin is sensual to me....

fatallyblonde 01-05-2014 07:18 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by honeybarbara (Post 876010)
I know that's probably not what you meant, but I read what gives me back my self confidence...

Actually that's exactly what I meant... what gives you back your sense of self, your own inner strength that makes you feel in control... and then makes you feel sexy.

I asked partly because this last two years has been very hard for me, I had a nervous breakdown and so I have spent a lot of time being 'frumpy'... not being dressed up, not going out, I stopped performing burlesque, I haven't been dating, I've been a quiet recluse... I learned that taking care of myself the way I need to is something that returns me to myself... that sexy isn't just putting on a tight dress... it's also self-possession and ownership...

I think all means and methods are valid! I've really enjoyed everyone's answers.

RockOn 01-05-2014 07:44 PM

I wanted to find out what makes the femmes feel sexy.
After reading all the posts, now I'm feeling sexual. ;)

Better duck out before I get into trouble for posting in here.

The_Lady_Snow 01-05-2014 07:47 PM

hmm
 
Quote:

Originally Posted by Brock (Post 876421)
I wanted to find out what makes the femmes feel sexy.
After reading all the posts, now I'm feeling sexual. ;)

Better duck out before I get into trouble for posting in here.


I don't believe that is why Femme's post their empowerment, to make others feel sexual, I think it's something we do that fuels us, charges our battery so we can take on the world in our Feminine shell.

RockOn 01-05-2014 07:54 PM

Snowy, I knew that before you posted it. I am in a playful mood tonight.

tantalizingfemme 01-05-2014 08:09 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Brock (Post 876421)
I wanted to find out what makes the femmes feel sexy.
After reading all the posts, now I'm feeling sexual. ;)

Better duck out before I get into trouble for posting in here.

Personally this post makes me feel oogy about what I wrote in here.

The_Lady_Snow 01-05-2014 08:20 PM

Playful or not
 
Quote:

Originally Posted by Brock (Post 876427)
Snowy, I knew that before you posted it. I am in a playful mood tonight.



I don't mean to be a cunt, or be mean, I am only trying to explain to you that when the women.femmes.feminine people of our community start exposing intimate things such as what makes *THEM* feel sexy and someone sexualizes it, it's ickie.


Look around your world, women get sexualized enough without consent.

I didn't share my intimate posting of a sundress on my skin after bed to take a drive for your enjoyment, I did it because I thought about it, for a long time, I examined deep within myself, asked myself what *MAKES ME* feel sexy.


It was like excavating, it always is for me as a Femme to do so cause in the back of my head I am wondering, who's gonna turn this into more than it is.


That's all I was trying to make you understand.

RockOn 01-05-2014 08:25 PM

Okay, let me make an apology to everyone for being offensive.

I am sorry.

No excuse for my initial post. I have been in a playful mood today and when I read about a bubble bath, it reminded me of someone. This very special someone is not anyone from BFP. I made a poor choice by posting in this femme forum and made matters worse with content that offended.

Hope everyone can forgive, forget and move on.
That's all I have
Out of here now.
Sincerely,
Brock


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