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Privacy?
Can I make my information and pictures private from non members?
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Speaking of privacy; why are guests allowed into the forum to read? That kinda makes me feel icky!
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I can't link from my phone but there are some recent posts in the "Ask A Moderator" thread that address both these questions. :)
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i have a question
i was reviewing the terms of service and i am down for and love this one but i have a question since i am considering getting a paid membership i was noticing that it allows you to be invisible the TOS i have a question on is "Drama - "Break-up posts", trolling, shit-stirring, stalking, or harassment of any member" how do you know if you are being stalked or harassed if people can mask they are checking out your profile and can see you online with out your knowledge just wondering thanks for any and all feedback :flyingmonkey: :pointing: |
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ok so you will be able to tell if invisible people have visited your profile then?
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ok cool so there is a way to protect yourself from those behaviors
thanks for the input! |
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Ok it is always good to know though
that was one of the questions i had about membership since there are the terms of service how do you prove it with the invisibility status any other tips or suggestions for online safety on your site? |
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it is just nice to know that the serious nature of problems are handled by the administrators of the website the terms of service are awesome
i was directed to this website from a friend and i find it to be a safe area to go i am sure others feel comfort knowing that the moderators and administrators are stern on the rules and privacy of others the gossip, across domains, it gives a comforting feeling i am happy and excited to be here! thank you for the information |
thank you all so much for your input!!
i really enjoyed this topic and answers |
awesome to know!
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I am confused about some terminology that comes up at times regarding some of the "privacy issues".
With the internet being public domain, anything you write on a public forum as I understand it becomes public information. Just Google your screen name and put in butch femme lol it's out there. I google myself frequently because of the nature of my work, and believe me it's all out there. So while this is a group unto it's self, because it's the internet I think we need to keep in mind that once we hit submit, our sharing's are now recorded public information. HMMM makes one think, right? So participating on the internet is not private. Reading can be, but written information is not, this includes profiles, forum posts, anything written down. I believe images as well. My next thought in this convo is the loose usage of the word "stalking". This being a public forum, we all wonder who is on here, and what they are about. That's why we read each others posts, look at profiles, comment etc. There are some eloquent writers and really funny people on here. People with strong opinions as well as those looking for love or new friends. It's all part of the online community experience. So if someone is interesting in their online presence, it may attract onlookers, followers even. This is not stalking, in my mind. LOL look at my profile all you want follow my posts, it's a compliment isn't it? I know there are people on here who's expressions interest me, and at times I will go see what they have been up to. Isn't that part of what an online community is all about? Where we cross the line in my mind is when a member is being verbally attacked, or contacted PERSONALLY via forum or PM by someone who's behavior is bothersome or threatening. I think this is where stalking comes in. And intervention may be necessary. I think it's important to be clear about this. We all joke about who's stalking who today, and I always understood that to mean they were interested in what you are saying or doing, like it's a fun thing. I guess my point in all of this is if a person is not contacting you personally, harassing you directly or indirectly, take a deep breath and enjoy the public sharing. The question then becomes does one feel safe sharing themselves in a public place, where what is written and shared can and will be seen by others basically when ever they want. I understand some people have reasons for being private, and needing to feel safe, so you have to know you are ready for all this..... Anyway, xoxox Pashi (who knows this can be google-ed) |
So I did a search on 'chancie', 'butch', and 'femme', and an archived birthday thread from the old site came up, and boy, was that bittersweet.
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Canadian currency at par I presume?
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we can all hope that there is no malicious intentions of another it's just nice to know that the forum takes their terms of service seriously it gives a very comforting feeling but the main question was for the being invisible |
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LMAO! Ok i'll give you 50cents |
Wow, I had no idea that different membership levels have different privacy levels, that the "higher" up you are, the less able others are, to see where you visit on the site, if I'm understanding correctly.
Heightened invisibility, then, becomes a kind of reward? That's intriguing. In the city where I live, class differences determine levels of privacy. Having private outdoor space is a luxury beyond what most people can dream of. Even having yoru own room, in many families, is both an experience of privacy and a determinate of class status. Privacy, exposure—really interesting things to think about. |
I did not realize it bothered anyone if members were invisible, now that I know...I will remain visible.
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Hmm...I'm a sentinel. I keep myself set on invisible simply because I'm a nerd like that.
I never really thought about it as being "private" though, because I am fully aware that at least SOMEONE (actually multiple folks) can see anything I do at any time. Whether it be admin, mods or other sentinel members, I am truly *not* invisible. The minute I post, it's viewable to everyone. I am exposed the minute I log on to this site, and any other site I visit. The only way anything will ever be truly private, is if it's kept in your head. |
All of this is entirely MY OPINION, so keep that in mind...
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For me, I have that odd, cynical conspiracy theory mind. So when someone says to me that it bothers them that I'm invisible, it makes me wonder why they feel the need to monitor the activities of others. "I don't like that I can't see you unless you post" for example. I can understand if folks have legitimate concerns such as stalkers or whatnot, but in general? I see no harm or no issue with folks being invisible. Yeah, I donated and have that option. That was choice. For a long time, I didn't have that option. Did it bother me that others did? Not a bit. |
I don't see anything wrong with invisiblity being a perk for paid members. I think people should get rewarded for membership!
I didn't even know paid membership was an option here (I just joined). I must have missed it. Someone said they don't push it and there you go; I didn't even notice it, it's so un-pushed. It did feel kind of funny when I realized every time I visited someone's profile, I left a calling card in the form of my screen name on their "who last visited" list. I felt sort of exposed. But on the other hand, I like seeing who has visited my profile—I guess I can't have it both ways (unless I join). Nice to have a choice... I have no idea where I'm going with this, just commenting, taking it in. |
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I am not and have never tried to sneak around on here lol, but have heard the invisible thing mentioned by several people several times...so some people give wayyyyyyy more thought than I ever have. ;) |
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So now everyone is making me wonder if I would participate differently on the site, if I were invisible. Is that what we used to call "lurking"? But "lurking" has negative connotations, and I think the invisibility we're talking about here, since condoned, and consensual in that everyone knows the deal, doesn't have any ethical problems associated with "lurking." |
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I don't care as to who visits my profile, the only one I do care about is my wife. Folks are gonna look folks up to post on their profile page so it automatically shows up, unless one is invisible. It's just an operating feature of the site.
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Can a Sentinel (or above) member see who is invisible? If Apocalipstic is invisible, is she invisible to everyone or just invisible to those who don't have that capability?
I always took lurking to mean following a thread without posting in it. And then there is 'threading stalking' a person. I thread stalk June because I like to read what she writes.....I have a long standing crush on the poodle and can't help myself....meaning I click on her name and click on the see more posts and then read everything she writes in every thread. Going to the way back machine and seeing what Toughy posted 10 years ago is an eye opening experience...........laughin..... |
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