How romantic are you?
 

How romantic are you? Are you the sweep them off their feet hopeless romantic type or are you the I don't have to say it, she's knows I love her type?

Personally.....I am the hopeless romantic type. I can't help myself really. I love doing romantic things as well as being very chivalrous. I hold doors, hold hands, give you my coat if your cold, walk on the inside of the sidewalk to protect you from traffic, send flowers for no reason, leave love notes around the house, plan surprise picnics and getaways. I always remember anniversaries and birthdays. I keep mental notes of little things you say you like so I can surprise you with them at random moments. I give hugs and kisses just because I simply can't keep my hands off you.......

Mm I like to think I am the hopeless romantic type. I enjoy surprising women with breakfast in bed. I do silly things like make homemade chocolate covered strawberries and play guitar while singing to you as you eat them. I will give you my coat and freeze if you're cold. I always walk on the outer part of the sidewalk..

*Swooning over VT....... I am the hopeless romantic type. I love love love romance. Little surprises, sexy texts, waiting for you when you get home dressed just the way you like........

Romance me and find out for yourself....:jester:

Nine years down the line, the most frequent romantic thing that Blue does for me is make me a surprise cup of tea when Hy sees that I'm stressed or weary.

A simple act of love, but one that always fills my heart to the brim.

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I am a hopeful romantic. Nothing hopeless about it for me.

Romance is truly the only way to my heart. I'm an old fashioned romantic too. I'm not a practical girl whatsoever. I would much rather be given flowers than a plant any day. And I love reading poetry to someone of my affections and having it read to me as well. Or better still, writing poetry for someone and vice versa. Love songs and 'our song' and secrets between only each other that no one else 'gets', flirting, love letters handwritten, oh the list goes on forever! There is nothing as romantic as chivalry either. Not to me at least.

Some of the most romantic moments in my life have been first kisses. I love when that first kiss is asked for. "May I kiss you?" Good goddess is there anything sweeter? I don't think so. Once it was standing in a parking lot in the rain. That might be the most romantic kiss I've ever had.

And then once, on a first date while waiting for her to show up, she calls and asks if I'm ready and when I tell her I am, she tells me to go my balcony. I lived on the third floor and of course it was dark. I do and it's Winter and very cold but all of a sudden I hear her below me on the ground starting to play her guitar and sing, "Wild Thing" LOL! to me!!! I about fell over laughing and my heart was just jumping all around in my chest. It was so adorable and when she was through, all of these other people from other balconies started applauding LoL... needless to say, a very romantic date ensued. And then once someone played Happy Birthday to me on their harmonica naked for my birthday, and still another time a midnight picnic under the stars, and and and...

Mhmmm there is absolutely NOTHING better than romance.

I am very romantic but I don't kiss and tell so you just have to find out on your own.

*Smiles* Well, I am very romantic but it isn't always done in a traditional sense. It really depends on the situation and the person

I always keep the romance burning . Sometimes it is intense and other times it is a soft, slow burn. I believe that with the right person I can and WILL sweep them off their feet.

I don't necessarily expect anything from anyone else but chilvary goes a long way.

When I get in the car at o dark thirty in the morning and find a full tank of gas...yep, I get all squishy.

I'm the letter sending, leave love notes on the windshield, give her a massage kind of girl, but do something to simply make my life easier and I'm a puddle at her feet.

I will open a car door or any door I can get to before she gets to it, to let a femme in and you're right, it is about good manners.
Are you telling me, it's not normal behavior for everyone :|
That's something I learned young.

I'm not romantic.
But I want to be.
Someday.

I couldn't agree with you more. Case in point:

Years ago a coworker asked me if I was gay. Have you seen me? I am so femme and rarely if ever, does anyone think I'm gay much less ask me and so in shock I looked at her and asked her, "why would you ask me that?" and she proceeded to tell me that straight women don't hold the door open for other women nor do they light each others cigarettes. I was appalled at her comment. I don't do those things because I am gay, I do them because it is the right thing to do. Our society has become so self involved that we have forgotten common courtesies and manners.

And re: Chivalry? Again, I couldn't agree more. Opening car doors and walking on the outside of a sidewalk is not chivalrous however... again, case in point:

Years ago when I was in a relationship, my son, my partner and myself were sightseeing. I was completely oblivious to my surroundings and taking pictures not paying any attention to who was around me or what was going on. My partner and son both came and removed me from the situation quietly and calmly without my even being aware of what was going on and afterthefact I discovered I was in the middle of a very questionable environment and my safety could have been very much in question. That... was chivalry.

In a sentence my ex gf used to call me Pe Pe le pew, Unfortunetly she was penelope. lol

Yeah..I think that had to be it! Wow that's what it had to be. Well I better cancel my therapy appt now. lol

I would say I am not romantic- but passionate and sensual, direct...I can be romantic but I would not say I myself am...

What makes it romantic and chivalrous is the fact that not everyone does do it. In fact a lot of people dont do it. It says something about a person that treats me and others like that all the time. It says they care and are caring. It also says they care enough to make me feel special and make me feel safe and protected. Everything doesnt have to be a grand gesture. It's the little things that count too but to say that opening doors and walking on the outside of the sidewalk is not romantic and chivalrous is in itself an unromantic comment.

I think unromantic comments do it for me.

Questioning the norm is true chivalry. I'm pretty sure I read that once in Andreas Capellanus's The Art of Courtly Love, but then again my Latin is a bit rusty.

@ Daktari..No not offended at all, Actually not only was my ex gf Penelope. But my daughter is too. So I got teased by both! lol But my romantic ways I like to add a little humor in the mix. Cause if it fails..Well at least I get a laugh out of it. ha ha.

I have been told many times that I am a romantic at heart. A friend recently reminded me of one Valentine's Day when I bought my partner an item from every letter of the alphabet and put it into a basket and called it my alphabet of love for you. It had everything imaginable in it. She said the only reason she remembered that was because she always wished she could find a partner who put so much love and care into a present for her. That is just one example. I can also remember doing treasure hunts with clues of things we would know from within or outside our home or places where we visited often as a couple. The next clue would be in that spot. All in fun. It helps keep the relationship alive. I miss it sometimes.

The art of romance ...
 

My ex was neither romantic nor polite (but I was in love anyway). I stopped thinking about romance as important. And then the first date I went on after we broke up (way before I was ready to date) was with a very polite and romantic Butch and it just felt so wonderful. For me, it is like a light switch... turn it on and I light up. When off, I don't remember how great the light feels.

And in regards to manners versus romance. Personally, I consider holding the car door open as romantic and not just polite. Where I grew up, this was not done in general--so it is not a 'back in my day' kind of thing. Car door opening was ONLY done in dating situations (well... or if someone's hands were full and they couldn't do it themselves). Maybe it is different geographically? So I associate it with the excitement of dating and do consider it romantic. Now, not letting the house door slam on, or holding open the building door is just being polite (in my book).

I do agree with Dakarti in general. Being polite is not romantic--it is just the right thing to do. But polite can mean different things culturally... so I classify things as romantic that others may think are just basic manners and visa versa.

I am a spontaneous romantic (in the way Hollylane mentioned earlier-- stealing a kiss, being the first to link arms, making last minute decisions to take a walk in the moonlight, and other little spontaneous things).

Question on romance (that was coincidentally bought up at work yesterday): If someone brings flowers to every girl they've ever dated on the 2nd date... well... is it romance or dating routine? If someone gives every person they've ever dated a handmade picture album, filled with pictures of the two of you, for Christmas... is it romantic or dating routine? Any thoughts on the difference between romance and dating routines...or if they are the same thing. Does it even matter?

Being courteous, polite, and just plain using manners in general is not the norm anymore. I wish it was but it isnt. We all SHOULD be treating each other with kindness and respect but we dont. If we we did the world certianly not be in the state it is right now. Why is it chivlrous and romantic to use manners and be polite you ask. Because not everyone does it anymore. It's a lost art of a sort. Besides that what is romantic and chivlrous to one person and between two people is between them and not for anyone else to judge whether it is or is not romantic and chivlrous. You do your thing and I'll do mine. The topic of this thread is "How romantic are you", it's not "Pass judgement on other people's definition of romance".

Well said VT. I couldn't agree more.

You and me both.....