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MsTinkerbelly 07-01-2016 05:42 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by JDeere (Post 1073478)
No I'm not comfortable at all with the step parent role. The kid calls me by my first name. I think my gf has boundary issues. I don't mind being there for the kid but kids get attached too easy and I don't want that kind of pain, for anyone of us.

I'm just lost.

I hear you JDeere.

Lost is a really uncomfortable place to be in a relationship, and only you know how much of that feeling you can deal with in your life.

In long running relationships, I have found that if one person feels unheard then there are
many issues that will not be resolved...just pushed under the rug until the feelings have nowhere to go, and the relationship cannot be repaired.

Love, sex, passion, attraction...are all necessary ingredients in a healthy relationship, but in the long term, communication and respect will keep you together through the hard times. Add children into the mix, and communication and respect are even more important as you are responsible for your actions around and with a child.

Follow your gut always...if it feels wrong, sometimes all you can do is break ties and protect yourself.:bunchflowers:

JDeere 07-03-2016 03:02 PM

I'm mobile right now but when I get to my laptop, I will respond further.

JDeere 07-27-2016 08:37 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by MsTinkerbelly (Post 1073481)
I hear you JDeere.

Lost is a really uncomfortable place to be in a relationship, and only you know how much of that feeling you can deal with in your life.

In long running relationships, I have found that if one person feels unheard then there are
many issues that will not be resolved...just pushed under the rug until the feelings have nowhere to go, and the relationship cannot be repaired.

Love, sex, passion, attraction...are all necessary ingredients in a healthy relationship, but in the long term, communication and respect will keep you together through the hard times. Add children into the mix, and communication and respect are even more important as you are responsible for your actions around and with a child.

Follow your gut always...if it feels wrong, sometimes all you can do is break ties and protect yourself.:bunchflowers:

Yes that is true, the part about being responsible with my actions around and with the child. I only got to see the child for like 2 days while I was there last, it was her birthday party so I wasn't much in control of the situation but her mom and 2 sisters with the Grandmother were there so they took that spot up fast lol.

JDeere 07-30-2016 08:16 PM

I will be watching said child while her mother attends massage internship classes, I am nervous as to punishment right now due to not being around the child much, in the past few months due to work.

We get along but said child does have behavior issues. So it makes it hard and me not being her parent makes it even worse when it comes to discipline. I don't want to end up being the horrible step monster.

JDeere 08-06-2016 07:29 PM

Apparently I am not an evil step monster LOL

JDeere 02-24-2019 10:55 AM

Okay so my new love has adult children, woohooo!

Ive had been hurt so many time by withholding me seeing the kids, etc.

This go round I just gotta impress her boys to show Im not like the others.


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