Poly-friendly mingling/flirting thread
 

i felt a bit awkward posting in the singles forums as i'm not single, but i am available/open to possibilities. so i thought it might be fun to have a thread for folks who are poly and available, or who are interested in dating poly people (you don't have to be polyamorous yourself) to come and chat, flirt, get to know each other, etc. :)

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Cool thread :) I am poly myself, but am currently "single".. Though I do have a close and deal friend/playmate that has been in my life for over 3 years and will continue to be part of my life.

I do have a comment regarding the "don't have to be poly yourself".. I have found that dating folks that are not poly usually leads to hurt feelings on all sides.. Mainly because the "non-poly" may try to be "ok" with it but in reality may think that if he or she works hard enough, eventually the poly person with choose to be monogamous.. This is just my thought and experience..

Saying that :) I think that this is a great thread and I look forward to seeing where it goes :)

-Tony

yay! i'm glad you're here, tony. :)

i've dated a few monogamous people - one of my current partners feels very strongly about being monogamous because that's just who he is, but he's very accepting of the fact that i'm poly. and i've mostly had good experiences. i tend to be pretty open to dating anyone as long as they're accepting of the fact that i'm poly...i don't care if they choose to be or not. but i agree that for some people it can definitely be an issue. thankfully i've been lucky in that regard :)

flirting is fun! it's odd...i haven't really ever flirted or dated that much, so i'm kind of a newbie. most of my relationships have been with people i was friends with for a long time before. there are definitely perks to that, but i think it would be fun to date and flirt more :)

For a number of reasons, I think being polyamorous makes sense. So many horrible things happen in our lives under the excuse of jealousy and its accepted.

I do love to flirt! :)

Cool thread and fantastic subject,today while I was playing pool this subject came up in the group I was shooting pool with.I do admit I dont know many polly couples but on one hand it seems doable if all parties are on the same page cause I dont see how it would work otherwise.I will be reading and learning.

I was always adamantly opposed to being poly for myself, but so much has changed with me this past year. I know I could be. I dont know if now is a good time to be, since i am so busy with the store opening (delayed now until June) but I wouldnt be opposed to it if chrissy was open to it as well

Laughing!

Yeah, when I saw we had a flirting newbie I thought how perfect we have 2 of the biggest flirts I know here ready to help. 'Cause we are generous like that. *high five to Paj*.

Come to the reunion!!!!

Heh.. K and I have always been open to having another, ideally a couple but I think our biggest challenge right now is exhaustion from work. I'd love to flirt but I'd be afraid of falling asleep..

hehehehehe, thanks apocalipstic and pajara!

i compliment people a lot (honestly) but i never thought of it as flirting before. my eyes have been opened! ;)

I think compliments can be very flirty, as can a look of pure admiration! A sideways glance....a touch on the arm when talking. An unexpected whistle....

Thank you June! We work our little fingers to be bone to express admiration for the beauty and hotness around us. :) :cigar2:

And I totally get what you are saying. It would be nice to have someone around to do the things we don't want to or are not good at. Each person can play to their strengths.

Like I don't ever want to be in a position where I am cheated on or yelled at or told what to do ever again.

If I am not putting out enough? No prob, see your other GF.
I want to spend Christmas at the beach? again, no prob take your other GF to your parents for family time.
You don't like how I fold towels??
How I squeeze my toothpaste?
What I watch on TV?
What way the toilet paper goes on? and other BS you can think of...not a problem, because you have other relationships in your life who might enjoy your toothpate tube issues...live with them.
Want to dish out passive aggressive whining?....thats right, call someone else.

See Me when you want to spend special time with and serve Me. Heh. :rrose:

*mingle mingle* Jellos I am poly and currently involved, not looking to add but always up for flirting and fun! I think this was the best idea of the century!

We do now. :blush: I kept forgetting to add it.

Ahhh Pajara, you hot fucker! Thank you!!!!! :fastdraq:

I'm either shy, or not. It can depend on how much alcohol I have consumed, and with trying to drinless less or not at all usually, my flirting has lessened. Give me a couple of drinks and I am a flirt machine!

What say we all get in a big pile and make out???? :danglecarrot:

that awkward moment when you realize your alcohol tolerance isn't what it used to be...i went to theology on tap tonight and drank a couple long islands and usually that makes me pleasantly tipsy and right now i'm on my way to druuuuuunk. oops. :blush:

i've heard fantastic tales of queer making out parties. but i've never actually been to one :D

i love that yellow smilies aren't necessarily race-specific, but i also love that we have poc smilies here :poc-blush:

*fans self*

Hello!
I am going to join in on this thread, where has it been all my life!??:sunglass:
I am recently out of a 11 year poly/open relationship. It ended mostly because we grew apart, our needs ,wants desires changed, well hers more then mine I suppose.
Anyway i am single but have a play partner, and am dating. I am a big ole flirt!
So how you doin ;)
MisterB

I think it's gonna be a long hot Summer!

I'm non-monogamous, but not ecactly poly. I mean, I'll always reserve the right to play around outside of a primary relationship, but I don't think I can have more than one fully developed romantic relationship at a time.

Can I still play in this sandbox?

yes! at least...i'm totally okay with all folks who are interested in consensual non-monogamy playing here. :)

How is everyone this fine Friday!

Welcome to aishah's Lair. (f)

Mingle * Flirt

It's morning? Gah... I need more sleep :P Maybe a cuddle or something..

lol.. all this flirting going on.. I'll be honest, in person, I find it really hard to flirt, mainly because I don't want to "offend" people.. So I usually just awkwardly ask them out for coffee or to play and then flirt once they say yes, lol. Maybe it's a safety buffer thing for me.. I know that "rejection" is always part of the game, but I still tend to be on the safe side.. But getting MUCH better at "grabbing up my balls" and just asking people out :)

Apoc, I have had an eye on you for a while, hon.. Smart, funny, and sexy.. Some good qualities there, my friend :) ;)

Have enjoyed reading the thread so far, look forward to more.. Oh, and Linus.. How you doin'? ;)

OMG, those were the best parties! I miss them. That was a great picture, I remember my nails were Chrome. :)

Remember the party we were gonna play make up and we ended up playing make out?

I don't even know many girls who want to show me their boobs any more...we need to get out more. Heh. :detective:

I'm not even sure I am up for any romantic relationship. They seem to crash and burn for me. So glad to see you here! :)

A nap and cuddle sounds Fab!

:) why thank you BK! :)

Aihsha, you rock! :rrose: :blush:

Saw the thread at the top of the new post listing,
so dropping in to say hello to all.

I don't know how to not be poly,
I don't know how to not be open,
I don't know how to not be honest
I don't know how to not be flrity.

:praying:

A blue eyed tomcat by nature and design!

Well Hello Beautiful!
Handsome Devil?! has a good ring to it!! LOL the devil part def, true!!
;) I have been far far away in a strange and peculiar place for many years, but now I am back!!
YA
MisterB

Welcome BooBoo!

I know how, but I am burnt to a crisp trying to make monogamy work. It is not because I want multiple partners, it is because I want whomever I date to have multiple partners so they don't expect me to be everything to them.

Where in the UK did you live? How cool is that? I have only been to London, but quite like it there.

thanks apoc! & others :) i'm really glad folks are enjoying this thread.

also, i baked today. *offers cookies* i've been told that baking is the sincerest form of flirting. or at least one of the forms. and besides, COOKIES.

how are you enjoying being back in the states, misterb? i've only been to the uk once (outside of manchester for a few weeks and london for a couple days) but i reallllly loved it there and want to go back someday :)

for me, i could probably do monogamy. i've done it in the past. i just...don't understand why i should. i like being polyamorous :) i love people and i love expressing love towards people in different ways. i love not having to be everything to everyone and not expecting everyone to be everything to me. i love feeling connected in different ways. i love not having to hide the fact that i love people a lot, or not having to channel it into certain kinds of platonic relationships for the sake of...monogamous respectability or whatever.

Yes it was good fun until it wasn't! I lived in South East London,
Zone 3. I loved our flat and the school I worked at was right down the road, HOWEVER it was very, ummm un queer,, straight folks, so felt a bit out of my eliment
At least in Lincoln I know all the queers or most of them and a pretty large group of FtM guys so its all good!
Where in the world are you?
;)

I love cookies and cooking for me is a GREAT way to flirt! (f)

When I been to London it has mostly been for work and we were in the West End area to hire singer and dancers for Cruise Ships, when I went for vacation I stayed near Trafalgar Square since I am familiar with that area. I love it there, but agree I see way more queer presence here in Nashville. Lol.

I have done Serial Monogamy and have been in relationships with more than one person before. I have really been thinking a lot recently about jealousy and what horrible things it brings out in people and why we insist on placing ourselves in situations where we will be miserable not to be alone.

Dont get me wrong the queer &BDSM world is hoppin in central london tons of stuff going on but for going on the train and the underground in chaps and a black tshirt to go to an event just dont cut it for me!
Central lond is incredible! i did love going in and seeing stuff
THe overall experience was a good one!

jealousy is a werd one for me, I thnk for me I need total openness and honesty about what my partners are up to most because I dig hearing about it all, and also its been my experience that when people dont want to talk about it is when things get weird
Any way its hot and I am drinkin iced tea with my shirt off ,in fron of the fan watchng tv and hangin out online!
Hoe you doin'?