What do people think about speed dating?
 

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I've never done it, but have watched videos of it online.
I think it would be a way to sample many women, and ask those important questions you have. I think it could separate the good from the bad, especially if you have good intuition.

Deborah

Not for me thanks. I prefer taking the time to truly get to know someone before a date of any sort.

If you'd just get that Hello Kitty tattoo, women would be coming up to you on the street, handing you their numbers. Just saying.

I've never speed dated before. It could be a hoot! I'm game! :koolaid:

It sounds like an oxymoron to me and makes me feel like taking a nap. But more power to those who enjoy it!

If I were more extroverted, I would consider it. It seems like a fun way to meet potential "real" dates.

However, I am super duper introverted and pretty sure I'd suck at it. :)

Quite! I wouldn't consider speed dating to be akin to real dating. Seems like it could be a step up from just going to a place with lesbians with the hopes of striking up a conversation. ;)

Bahahaha whatever! No HK tat for me.

I think the idea of speed dating may be to sample many women, ask the questions, use intuition and if by chance one of them makes it through this screening process, then exchange phone numbers.

I've never done it, but I think it would be a way to screen and get to the winners, to have a greater chance of dating someone who could be a match. Just my opinion.

Deborah

i so totally agree.

I am shy until I get to know someone then I open up to them

After screening through speed dating, a person could exchange phone numbers from those who are the best choice. At that point you could get to know that person better before deciding if it's someone you should date. I just think the idea of speed dating can give you a screening tool.

Would I do speed dating? Maybe, if it was an option where I lived and I was interested in being in a relationship.

I do know from mistakes in my past that it's important to do a screening process and not just based on appearances.

Deborah

People are quick to give out numbers, etc these days and communication has fallen down the tubes. Speeding date is too quick and I need a lot of time to truly get to know someone and in person.

This introvert could never do that. I would spend the five minutes palms sweating and tripping over my words, only to have to move on. I suck at small talk, and real conversations can’t happen in five minutes.

It makes me almost break out in a sweat just to think about it...

I did a speed dating once at a queer kinky event and met someone I played with that night. That was like seven years ago and we're still good friends and occasionally indulge in some kinky play. I say that speed dating was very successful! I haven't been to a "real" one though, and probably never would.

Speed dating
 

I have never tried speed dating but I would try it at least once.

Made me think about my youth in the disco bars but "dating" was not what we were doing by a long shot.
Haha!

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I would do speed dating in a heartbeat........

And not to derail the thread but I once read about a party/event where everyone brought 1 person with them that they felt was a very nice person but there just wasn't any chemistry/connection between them. This sound like something I'd like to give a shot to as well.........

Has anyone else ever either heard or attended one of these events?

No but I did try speed dating once. Well I don't know that it was speed dating proper, like they used to show on television but I did do, if not that, something simillar. For me it wasn't a pleasant experience. First there was the possible, potential stranger danger factor. Not liking it - people coming unknown/not recommended by trustworthy, reliable sources. We had to give our real names and what if afterwards some kook followed me, stalked us. The alley we'd went down to get there wasn't very comforting at all. Like this would be nice, safe, fun place, full of non-creepy people, we were headed to. But having a friend with me gave me courage. It turned out it was a mostly male/female heterosexual, maybe bisexual thing going on. I didn't see any butch lesbians, at least not any obvious ones. There was one woman who told me she was butch and only there dressed femme because her friends had convinced her she'd have better luck finding a match to date if she toned it down some, tried dressing more femme. She pulled off her wig to prove it to me but come on she was there in a wig and a dress with makeup on, attempting to try and deceive people. I certainly wasn't going to take her at her word. No to truly determine it, that would require closer inspection, from a distance, with binoculars. Just because well if she was a butch, pretending to be femme, who's to say she wasn't a man pretending to be a butch lesbian, or a serial killer pretending to be some Dudley Do-Rite. Not that there's anything wrong with being a man or femme or a Good Samaritan it's just - be yourself because there is nothing attractive or even remotely interesting about a consummate liar. I don't know, maybe it would have been a different experience in a honest environment. But on the other hand if I haven't felt a compelling need to try it again, in over a quarter of a century, well I think that right there is very telling, speaks a lot about how miserable I found the whole experience.

N
 

I would try it.
 

I haven't tried speed dating but I think I would just to see what it's like.

I wouldn't need a lot of time to know if I vibe with someone. I just need a couple of minutes to know if there's enough interest, curiosity and commonalities to build on.

hum i suppose it's a nice concept but it's a nope for me i'll need a little time to learn about the other so no

Sounds a tad overwhelming.

Sounds like I would need to bring my running shoes and workout apparel. ;)

I'd most likely never do 'speed dating'.

I look at it this way: people have countless ways to get to know another person. In our everyday lives, we work with others at work or casually meet people while shopping for groceries or while waiting in line at the post office or while driving in traffic or riding public transit (etc). I view each set of instances as an way to get to know others. It takes time, for me, to really know someone.

Hence, why I think speed dating is more like some over the top way to know someone. Again, it's not my first choice in trying to know someone better.:rrose:

I agree with your post 100% but to me speed dating is just another way to meet new folks as well and I'd do it in a heartbeat!