"straight" women and Butches.
What is the fascination ?
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Is it easier for them to go for a butch,because visually they can maybe have the best of both worlds ?
Male looks,female anatomy ? |
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It's not about the *best of both worlds*--it is about being aware of one's desires--and that goes both ways for butches as well as the femmes...and all people, no? |
June (loving the name) I know love takes all shapes and forms,what I wonder is for a straight or supposedly straight woman is a butch a way to explore their sexuality with someone who visually looks male so as not to give the game away ..
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If anything, we were more noticeable and immediately considered lesbian/queer by the general public. |
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What about if she passes and is perceived to be male ? |
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There's no possible way for anyone here (or anywhere) to provide a definitive answer to that question. Anything anyone offers is purely and merely speculation. *shrug* |
It could be "straight" is The only label she knows to identify with, sexual curiosity could be what she is free to do. Heteronorm is what is continually shoved in our faces vía media, religion, culturally. Then again I'm one to believe we're all sexually fluid until sexual standards are fed to us.
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I realise this is a bit off topic, but I've seen women go completely gaga over my bf when they find out he's trans ? What is it that they are looking for I wonder, how do they imagine he'd be different to any other guy?
I've never been butch but I have attracted a fair amount of straight women in my youth, so I'm not so weirded out by the straight girl/butch thing. I figure it's the woman-thing that attracts them, rather than any particular ID, just like some women like feminine men and some like masculine, so what you like tends to cross genders. I don't think it's necessarily a 'queer' attraction however, as straight doesn't mean narrow. If they were all porn would be the same, all kink would be the same and they'd all wear the same kind of underwear ... oh wait! |
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Me I am an honourable butch,I couldn't take advantage of an unknowing straight woman. All my ex's have previously been straight and knew the score with me, I guess an unscrupulous butch could take advantage of a straight woman's vulnerabilities ?? |
What group June ? I will have a peek.
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I think it is the butchfemme dance most often. That energy exists in the atmosphere. It is a dance. There is all kine dancin....I have done alotta alotta that dancin. The straight women are saying they love and admire butch energy. They are attracted to those who are themselves regardless of societal pressure. Rebels and freedom are archetypical of strength. These are just words with maybe some illumimation. I always ask straight women why they wanna be with me...it is always desire.
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Like June put,sometimes we see things differently this side of the pond .. It doesn't make your thoughts or our thoughts any less topical.
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Some of them are probably straight, and some are not. Like dykes who fuck men. Some may be developing a different sexual orientation, and some are just turned on by a guy or guys. We have no way to know.
i think it's only decent of you to assume that her motivations are that she likes you and wants to fuck you. Why interrogate her motivations unless she has given you reason to doubt them? Clearly you have dated straight women before. Is something about this one making you have doubts? |
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One of my good friends is a Married lesbian as she calls it. She is married to an amazing man and she has a girlfriend whom is also fem. This partnership works for them. Doesn't matter it's the preference of each person as to what they like. |
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Lets put a couple of misconceptions to rest shall we..
Male does not nor has never as far as I know been about being Butch. Butch is a 3d gender, except when it isn't. Not ALL Butches LOOK masculine, nor do ALL Femmes LOOK feminine, except when they do and if they want to. You have some kind of messed up generalizations going on here from your posts that perhaps you should do some reading on this site to get some since of where these thoughts are coming from. Again welcome to The Planet, and I hope you will explore not just the things that make us different, but those that make us a community. |
Whenever I see a thread about "straight women and butches" -- it makes me twitch. (Haven't read the posts - so nothing personal.)
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I think a more fitting question would be...what is YOUR fascination with straight women? I mean...with a world full of beautiful queer, gay, femme, lesbian, girls, grrls (and any other id's I may have left out).
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This thread feels like a shit-stirring thread. Haven't we done this one before?:| |
If the butch thinks it's cool cause s/he's converting or taking women away from men, it's squicky. Otherwise, who cares? If people find each other, i am all for it.
A lot of femmes -- and butches -- were once straight. i guess it is weird to say one has only dated straight women. Maybe the butch lives in the middle of no where or somethin. Who knows. |
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Perhaps I missed the intent of the thread? Are we talking about dating self-identifying straight women and why they are attracted to butches? Or are we talking about dating people who are questioning? |
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Basically it's not clear to me why this butch is asking the question. It almost seems as if s/he's bragging. Dating a straight woman is not a bad thing in itself though. And no one has a right to tell a straight person s/he is not straight even if they fuck same sex now and again. It's the same with dykes. i personally would date a straight woman if she floated my boat although that wasn't always true. Straight people are less narrow than they used to be, seems like. i certainly date and/or serve bisexual women. i don't know. It does seem like a pointless thread just asking us to make some of the usual comments. |
Off the top of my head, I don't recall the topic being discussed on this site before and even if it has, the OP is a new member and might not be aware that the conversation has taken place before in our community.
I have known many butches who date straight women, including a few who will only date women who ID as straight. I have dated, and had LTRs with, straight women. I can't speak for them, but in my experience the draw was probably a combination of several different things including the taboo factor and the "best of both worlds" factor. On my end, it was never about intentionally seeking out straight women, it was just something that happened in the same way that I have met, dated and have had relationships with any other person. |
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It seems this has gone a bit twisted with people jumping on the defensive. This is a discussion board is it not? Hmmm maybe I shouldn't ask questions that seemed to have hit a nerve .. My bad .. Maybe the pond is too big and we won't connect. Haven't been on the scene for a long time so I don't know of all the genders,id's etc. And it's not a shit stirring thread .. Nor was I asking because I get kicks out of turning straight women. I date them because they the gay pond in which we all fish over here is tiny,itsmore of a puddle. Think of the spider gram on the l word , America has a huge lake in which you fish. Seems some folk like to jump on newbies .. This is why some forums are cliquey. |
Oh and for the record ..
I don't know any Americans, I have never been to America .. I thought this might be a good place to break the ice. Maybe I shouldn't paddle into fast waters without a canoe or paddle. |
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On this side of the pond, some will even argue over "agreeing to disagree". LOL For the most part you can have a good discussion. After youve been around a while, you will just learn to ignore some, and engage w/ others. It may just take everyone a while to get used to the cultural diffs.. Do stay and feel welcomed. |
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