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lettertodaddy 01-03-2012 10:39 AM

Flirting by text
 
How do you decide to make an initial flirty remark via text message? What's your favourite opening line?

I have an astonishing lack of game when it comes to dating, so unfortunately I don't have a favourite flirt to share, but I'm happy to hear yours!

1QuirkyKiwi 01-03-2012 11:08 AM

Ummm….I wish I could help you out here, other than saying just be yourself, which sounds such an obvious thing to say….

I once had a text message from a date which read: “I’m nervous, in Café. See you soon!”
I replied back with: “Hi nervous in Café, I’m Sammie, how are you today? I’ll be there in 10 minutes!” ….It worked! LOL! ;)

You could open the text message with: “Hey handsome!” Or “Hello Good looking!” …. To be honest, I’m really rubbish at this sort of thing…. I have a spectacular talent for just opening my mouth or letting my brain take control of my fingers, allowing the words to just fall out….usually, in unintentional innuendoes, or because I’ve a naturally chatty and bubbly personality, it comes across as me flirting, when in fact I’m nervous and shaking like a Jelly, lol! :cheesy:

Best of luck! :)

macele 01-03-2012 11:16 AM

if flirting is your thing, timing just finds its way. if not, make timing LOL.

my fave is, "i sure would like to find the slope of your curve" lol

princessbelle 01-03-2012 11:26 AM

I like flirting with texts!!! Even though i'm in a relationship, we still send flirty/dirty text sometimes...it's all the more fun.

But, a longgggggg time ago, when i was single and stuff and was getting to know someone, it was sometimes difficult to pick up on the "is he/she flirting or just being friendly" text and not sure how to take it. Without seeing the face, sorta like online, it's not as obvious.

However, it was fun to text with something that could be read as either way, that way you are safe if they aren't really flirting and in good shape if they were.

Like say....."Good Morning...is it a hard morning or an easy one for you". Or...."Did you dream of anything special last night?" And just let them take the lead, giving an opening sorta.

Well, that's how i rolled anyway...like, here's the bait...are you gonna bite or just sit by the creek and have a "friendly" day.

I found it very enlightening!!!!


UofMfan 01-03-2012 11:49 AM

Lines are lines.

Flirting should be natural.

Be yourself, do whatever comes natural and forget about lines and such.

The best flirting is that which comes from the moment, inspired by the person whom you are flirting with, it is not planned.

starryeyes 01-03-2012 11:55 AM

Flirting via text is awesome! I feel more inclined to say things I wouldn't say on the phone because I would be shy, lol. It's fun to get a flirty text in the middle of the day, too :-D

Just be yourself!

Smiles,
Starry

Gemme 01-03-2012 12:00 PM

Using lines via text is even cheesier than when it happens in bars.

Be natural. If they say something and a thought pops into your head...as long as it's not illegal...send it.

:)

ruffryder 01-03-2012 12:07 PM

I'm a fan of flirting so flirting by text happens too! *wink wink
It just comes natural I would think and depends if it is reciprocated if one is interested.

betenoire 01-03-2012 12:45 PM

I always liked to say "by the way, I am flirting with you now."

lettertodaddy 01-03-2012 01:22 PM

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Originally Posted by betenoire (Post 497321)
I always liked to say "by the way, I am flirting with you now."

Direct and to the point. Love it. :D

Quintease 01-03-2012 02:23 PM

I have no idea what I do but it's probably cheesy. I know when I first met my husband I used to send him messages asking about his workouts and 'you must have amazing muscles', lol.

If it's a cold text (with no prior texting) I usually just send something quite friendly and chatty. I gauge my future texts on their response.

betenoire 01-03-2012 02:35 PM

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Originally Posted by lettertodaddy (Post 497338)
Direct and to the point. Love it. :D

Life is short and being coy is just way too time consuming.

girl_dee 01-03-2012 03:06 PM

*Is my kitchen pig done her chores yet?*




Gets me going every single time. :awww:

apretty 01-03-2012 03:24 PM

I flirt a lot, by accident.

LaneyDoll 01-03-2012 04:00 PM

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Originally Posted by apretty (Post 497386)
I flirt a lot, by accident.

Me too!!! Most times, what I see as being "just me," others see as flirting.

:sparklyheart:

LesboNascarFan 01-03-2012 04:11 PM

I love to flirt via text. And it is nice to flirt text back and forth while working. Makes the day alot more interesting.

And as a lot of the responses has said just be yourself and just say what pops in your head...go with the flow of the conversation.

Jett 01-03-2012 04:20 PM

I once practiced my flirts in the mirror, and I immediately fell hard for my smooth charming ways... me've been happy together ever since ;)

SweetJane 01-03-2012 04:43 PM

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Originally Posted by princessbelle (Post 497266)
But, a longgggggg time ago, when i was single and stuff and was getting to know someone, it was sometimes difficult to pick up on the "is he/she flirting or just being friendly" text and not sure how to take it. Without seeing the face, sorta like online, it's not as obvious.

A butch once told me that the femme should know instinctively when the flirt turns serious. I said, "How in the world would she know that if you didn't tell her?"

So how do we know, hmmm?

SugarFemme 01-03-2012 05:00 PM

Oh yeah. Flirting via text messages can be fun, flirty and smoking hot. Innuendos and double entendres make for some pretty hot stuff. I personally enjoy that kind of flirting when done right:)

princessbelle 01-03-2012 05:38 PM

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Originally Posted by SweetJane (Post 497422)
A butch once told me that the femme should know instinctively when the flirt turns serious. I said, "How in the world would she know that if you didn't tell her?"

So how do we know, hmmm?

Exactly. Without seeing the person it is hard to know IMO. That's why i say i text things that could be taken two different ways....WHEN it gets to the point of wondering.

Also, it's not a pick up line. I'm talking about texting with people you know or are getting to know as the OP says "flirting" and perhaps have been friends awhile. It's the transition to taking it to the next step that leaves many wondering what this or that means.

It's fun though and all part of the dance....



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