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Falling in Love.. Online
So i'm ust wondering what you all think on the subject of online relationships and love.
Do you think it's possible to fall in love online? |
no don't do it. Read the thread about online relationships, meeting etc that Superfemme started.
can you care about people online? sure, look at so many here but falling in love is a whole other ball of wax. |
It IS possible to fall in love online. That is the way a lot of great relationships start. Mine included.
Here is the thread Sachita is referring to: http://www.butchfemmeplanet.com/foru...ead.php?t=1365 It's a discussion about protecting yourself while falling in love.... |
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Rufus |
You can do anything online or over the phone, but I would prefer real time. That way nobody can pretend to be something that they are not. Just like Rufus stated. |
I have met people who have done it. What I know for sure for me is that it's possible to be madly and passionately >3 online.
And we >3 each other every where - even in public - right in front of people! We don't even care who knows that we are greater then three with each other. We are both hopeless romantics like that. We each stand there with one toe in the water and dare the other one to flinch. -sigh- he is so freakin' cute! On a slightly more serious note - I know that what I've been looking for is a needle in haystack. Being online gave me a bunch more haystacks to search. Once I found the right stack, the needle was much bigger and quite easy to find. *snicker* :fishswim: There are no guarantees whether you meet online or in real time. Connections for me are difficult. I am not easily understood, I have a few minor issues. lol. When it's right I think you feel it. When you connect you know it. When it works it is fabulous. There is only one way to know for sure and that is to take the leap. It's not easy for those of us who have lost before. Once bitten.... |
Anything is possible. For me, it is not probable.
Relationships are complicated things, so is attraction. I might find someone on line to be intriguing or someone I might like to get to know better. But, falling in love, for me, is an up close and personal thing sans a computer screen or telephone. |
Falling in love is a process.
I know LOTS of people who MET online, and an attraction turned into a spark, the spark turned into a fire...and today they are happily together. It CAN happen. Falling in love online doesn't necessarily mean that the entire process from glimmer to fire happens online. It means that yes, online you can see the glimmer of attraction that can lead to love. |
i've always been in love with the idea of love..
my people issues and disomfort socially kinda make it impossible. i find it difficult to even make friends because i fear rejection, sometimes live in my old little world and people don't get me. Sadly if i wanted sex, i think i could get it easily just to a "social" site. but i never just wanted sex, so i gave trying to be social. So i'm here and i think i met someone nice without even looking, we started chatting over the smallest of small things. But i am kind of woried that my social skills are going to screw me over.. i keep telling myself no matter what i should keep my distance cause i only know the person online.. However i have to consider that in person i would never have had the chance to meet anyone. God i really do babble on!! |
Wheelie? We've chatted and you are going to be fine. You have fabulous social skills. Sometimes it's ok to take a risk, yanno?
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They f**king suck.
Never again—not online, not r/t. I'm attracted to certain types of women, but I won't let anyone from online get close except for friendship. Jus' sayin' |
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I met my Daddy/Sir online.... I then met him in person by going to a state I had never been to and meeting 8 people I had never met just to get out of my comfort zone.. I had really enjoyed my interactions with them online... Does it always work online? No... Can it? Yes... For me it requires real time interaction but that doesnt mean online is not possible. Everyone has their own personal experiences to judge from... but you can only judge it from your OWN experience... Listen to your heart, listen to those little nudges when something doesnt feel right.. Usually if it doesnt feel right it isnt.. My first online experience was just that way. I gave way too much of myself to someone I hadnt really spent alot of time getting to know. It was a very hard lesson to learn. I havent read the other thread yet but I have a feeling it will hopefully give you alot of helpful tips... Good luck!! Becca |
For me I think SuperFemme said it best Falling in love is a process.
I know LOTS of people who MET online, and an attraction turned into a spark, the spark turned into a fire...and today they are happily together. It CAN happen. Falling in love online doesn't necessarily mean that the entire process from glimmer to fire happens online. It means that yes, online you can see the glimmer of attraction that can lead to love. And that's the way it is with me. I meet femmes online attracted to who they are meet them in person and can tell wether there is a spark there or not. If there is great we can move forward, if there isnt then well that's cool too Ive made a great friend. I have had friends that met their significant others online as well who have met and fallen in love once they meet. It can happen. And it does happen when its supposed too... Until then it sure is fun meeting and trying :) |
I think the answer is yes. I know you *can* meet a love on line because I did. I've been with my partner for five years, and our relationship has progressed from online, to long-distance, to living together for the past three years.
It's hard to find a someone who is "right," so I'm all for being open to all options. I know too many people who are single, who have dated all of the eligible people they know, locally. If you want to meet someone, I think it's OK to take a risk. Just be smart and careful. Nothing ventured, nothing gained. |
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IMHO relationships, be they online, r/t, long-distance, ALL take hard work, honest, open communication and talking as often as you possibly can, even if it's merely to say "sorry, I can't get online right now, but don't think it's because I don't want to talk to you, it's for *x* reason(s)" If you meet someone you click with then it's up to you to see where and how far it can go, dismissing it out of hand because they are far away can mean you will regret that for the rest of your life, yes, it is hard being long-distance, I speak from experience here, My babygirl lives in SC, and I live in the North-East of England. It might be harder than dating someone just down the street but it is equally rewarding, today we have webcams and the likes of Skype where you don't have to spend a fortune calling someone on the phone, you hook up your cam and mic and chat, it's not exactly face to face, but it comes pretty damn close. Try not to be too scared, that's the best advice I can give, and don't let other peoples doubts dissuade you either, it's your personal choice as to how you choose to live and love! |
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Your last sentence is the best: don't let other peoples doubts dissuade you. Amen! At the end of the day, it is between you, your object of desire and fate. |
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I know, I noticed Wheelie was one of the few BFPers on My side of the pond, unfortunately we're at opposite ends of our small island, if I lived closer I can guarantee that I would be popping by for a chat and a cuppa! Wheelie, I sincerely wish you all the best here! |
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My ex gf (the wench lol) who cares for me is from Sunderland, are you that far North East? |
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I did, I've loved and lost, but not for any reason anyone would ever imagine. Honestly, I'd do it again if the right person happened into my life Well, at least when I'm ready, anyhow |
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I hate that. |
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