only another butch would understand
:cigar: Enjoys the calm; the peace,,and
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For the male identified butch
The pain of hearing emasculating things from a woman because she's pissed. Is there anything more hurtful short of a breakup? *Opening a brewski waiting to see thoughts on this*:beerbros:
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not sure which is worse, actually -- a femme or another butch doing that. when it happens it's like someone is trying to hurl the ultimate insult.
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The best thing in the whole wide world is a Femme who does understand. :love1:
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In other words, no one can emasculate me... though they may try and it isn't pleasant I'd guess... but IMO it only reflects back on their own short comings. Anyway good thread Dean Thoreau... though I'm not much of a burper. ;) |
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Well I don't burp much, am not male identified, and don't have a huge concern about anyone trying to emasculate me, but howdy to all the butches in the Butch Zone.
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Live and learn I guess and hopefully so will they eventually... |
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Hey Metro, great to see you!
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seriously...not again
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Beau, who doesn't scratch in public either |
no posturing zone
As someone both male identified, and (trans) butch identified, I think there is a broad expanse of what can be covered by "only another butch would understand." While burping might be a knuckle-dragging male stereotype, it's a practice greatly enjoyed (or not, for those of delicate sensibilities) by all sexes and genders.
Meanwhile, I think Ol' Jet was on point with the emasculation thing, I've had this one hurled at me before, and I just viewed it as the feeble last resort of a desperate person. Eh. Which is to say, why don't we move on respectfully, instead of disdainfully. |
what Metro, Bully and Beau said.........
certainly I have been asked to 'tone it down a little'......laughin.......like I can.....however I didn't find it emasculating...not sure how you could emasculate me.....laughin..... |
Ok to me the only way anyone is going to emascualte me is if I allow them to.
And easiest way to allow it is by letting them know saying stupid shit bothers me. I just ignore the comments...cause I know the person making the comment is: 1. looking for a argument 2. wants to be a bitch 3. feeling wounded cause i did somethin stupid; or someone within a 2000 mile radius did and the person is desiring to boost their ego by saying stupid crap to me 4. an insensitive idiot that doesnt have a clue 5. ignorant 6. an asshole 7. all of the above And bluntly none of the above have the power to shake my masculinity/butchness/ sense of self....and If i am dating/married/ involved with a person like that....I am the asshole. at my age,,gas happens..be thankful it was a burp! Anyone else get annoyed by the "butch sterotype" handy? likes power tools? can fix things? Fine I burp but..I cant fix things..i dont like being thought of as the person that can fix the door, the light switch, or the one who wants to go up the ladder and clean the leaves from the gutters. I now have tools..all sorts...that out of necessity I have had to buy because once in a while I get this brainstorm of an idea to build something. But that does not mean I know how to fix or repair things in the house.....like....toilets, sinks, or cars..... My Diva's are convinced if they call me it will magically be fixed... not sure why cause my response is usually.....looks broekn to me......... then I say call the repair person, the mechanic, the tow truck, the plumber, the elctrician.... |
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Hey Dean, I get what you are saying about how you feel like nobody can emasculate you. That is great for you. What comments like "only a Butch would understand" and the subsequent examples of "burping or farting" do is create an atmosphere that is hostile and unwelcoming to folks who do not embrace the binary. It also can feel gross to have these stereotypes heralded as "the way" in a Queer space. I want to ask you to please do some thinking around this. As far as saying that someone is making comments to "be a bitch". This is a very sexist and unwelcoming comment. The word "bitch" is often used in a sexist way to silence women and is unacceptable in that use on this website. You may be comfortable with this verbiage and you are most welcome to use that verbiage in your daily life in your own home but it is not welcome on this site. I want you to feel welcome here as a member but we have already received numerous reports over things you have posted in other areas. I am asking you as the Administrator to please do some hard thinking about the way you are interacting with the members here. While I am not asking you to change the way you think, I am asking you to at least give some thought to how what you say makes other people feel. We do not want to create a site where posturing, hierarchies, sexism, or ignorance is the norm...nor do we want members to feel that their own gender identities or ways of being are being mocked, "othered", or dismissed. Again, please take some time to do some hard thinking around this issue and take the initiative to make sure that your words are welcoming and inclusive of all ways of being. Thanks, Admin |
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