Bed Side Preference and Dominance
 

In my experience to date, I've noticed a correlation between dominance and bed side preference. That is, where there is a dominant character in a pairing (not necessarily dominant as a sexual identity) that they prefer to sleep on the right hand side of the bed.

Has anyone else noticed anything similar? Does the theory fit you?

Nope. I've always slept on the left side of the bed because I'm left-handed. lol, except I'm not sharing at the moment so I sleep on the whole thing now. lol, I dominate the entire bedroom. lol, master of my domain so to speak. :tease:

I've done left and right. The only constant in my selection is that I'm always closer to the bathroom.

Ladies' choice! :cheesy:

I've typically been the dominant one in the relationship and when I'm sleeping in the same bed with someone, I prefer to sleep on the side closest to the door unless she objects because she cannot sleep on whichever side is not closest to the door. So this theory doesn't fit for me but it will be interesting to see the responses of others.

I sleep on the right!! But not always. I slept on the left in my last long term relationship.

I'm not ever the sexually dominant partner and I sleep on the right side. I'm even more attached to that side now because the right side of my bed is against my bedroom wall. To totally seal the deal, I don't ever need to get up for the bathroom in the middle of the night, which means that anyone sharing my bed has the freedom to do so without waking me.

I'm interested in what SleepyButch wrote because it sounds like she prefers to take a protective position. It makes sense to me that I would prefer my partner to sleep closer to the door and that I would prefer to sleep in the more protected place, closer to the wall.

Hi Cheryl,
I inferred the same thing from Sleepy's post, too; but what you wrote is also very interesting to me because personally, I'm not sure I'd feel more safe being sandwiched against the wall. On the contrary, I think I would feel trapped and therefore, less safe in the event of a fire or other emergency.

On the other hand, you can never wake up on the wrong side of the bed, I suppose, lol. Hope you don't mind my 2 cents; I just found your perspective interesting. :)

I'm usually not the dominant partner in the relationship, I currently don't have a bed mate, and I primarily sleep on the right-hand side. My nightstand is on the right side even though I'm left handed. It works for me, for now.

When I do have a bed mate, it makes no difference to me what side I sleep on. I allow my bed mate to choose because I can sleep on either side without any problems.

I don't like sleeping against a wall. I don't usually suffer from claustrophobia, but I it kicks in when I'm sleeping against a wall. I shiver just thinking of it!

I don't think I've ever slept in a bed that was up against the wall but I can see your point Smiling. You could always pull the bed out a foot or so right?

My reasoning is that I am being protective. If something comes in the door, it will be me that encounters it first. Just makes me feel better. It's the same reason I walk closest to the curb if I'm walking with a femme. It's just what I do and I'm sure I'm not the only one around her who feels this way.

I just need to feel like there is enough room to make a quick getaway should the need ever arise. lol, a foot of room would probably be more than adequate for that purpose. For me, happiness is both of my feet being able to make contact with the flooring in case I need to Flintstone's it the heck outta there, lol.

I am the dominate sexual partner and prefer the right side but interestingly enough I position the bed so that the right side is closest to the door so that I can protect my partner.

Ok I'll bite.

Are you looking at the bed, or looking from the bed when you say right side/left side?

If you are looking AT the bed, i sleep on the right side because i roll to the left. My wife who is bossy as heck, sleeps on the left because it is easier to get up and use the restroom fast...works for us!

I'm never the dominant one.

My beds are always pushed right up against the wall on one side (no, no one foot gap. That would be senseless waste of one foot in my room). Mainly because I have a desk, a tall boy, a vanity and a night table to fit in the room as well and thus no room.

I always offer the outside of the bed to whomever my bed guest is because I'm being polite - I don't want them to feel trapped nor awkward about crawling over me and waking me up to go to the bathroom, plus it gives them easy access to the night table and the water.

Guest gets the best position at the table, the left side of the couch (best view of the room). and the outside of the bed.

But that's not because I'm submissive in a relationship, that's because I was raised that way for manners.

I've never been the dominant one and I've slept on both sides.
Only preference I had is to not be against a wall lol I hate having to climb over someone to get out of the bed and worry about waking them up.

Interesting that Sleepy talked about the protective position!
I sleep on whatever side is furthest away from the door for this reason :) I prefer to be as far away from the door as possible.

Currently I sleep on the right side of the bed (but only because it's not nearest the door). Whenever we go to a hotel where the door is reversed, I sleep on the left :)