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imperfect_cupcake · 08-04-2015, 08:27 AM

Me?

Typical: it's not a date. Since it's the very first time we are meeting I don't really consider it a date. I meet up for a coffee or a drink locally. I do not get into someone's car if I haven't met them yet for them to pick me up and take me somewhere though it's been asked of me several times.

Ideal: there is a lot of banter, joking and laughing, swapping stories and being very open. We don't talk about deep painful things. If we do talk about experiences, we don't do it with a "therapy" tone but matter of fact and with a dark sense of humour to diffuse it.
They do not try to hold my hand or grab any part of my body in the first hour.
I like they get my sense of humour. I like how playful they are. I like how easily they talk about themselves and their life without being "heavy." I like they can talk about difficult things without it being all about feeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeelings. I like they can joke about hard stuff.

They don't write me a love poem or start making me promises.

If they have come from a ways away they have booked a room for themselves and don't expect to stay with me. They asked me if I know of any close good places (or cheap) but they don't ask me to book for them.

They understand I have full time school and that I can't spend an entire day with them, even if it's a day off. Or they offer to help me study in the park and they really actually help me study and not distract me.

They don't expect monogamy from meeting only once.

08-04-2015, 08:27 AM	#2
imperfect_cupcake Senior Member How Do You Identify?: feminine dolly dyke Preferred Pronoun?: Your Grace Relationship Status: I put my own care first Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: In a gauze of mystery Posts: 1,776 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,426 Thanked 9,713 Times in 1,611 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	Me? Typical: it's not a date. Since it's the very first time we are meeting I don't really consider it a date. I meet up for a coffee or a drink locally. I do not get into someone's car if I haven't met them yet for them to pick me up and take me somewhere though it's been asked of me several times. Ideal: there is a lot of banter, joking and laughing, swapping stories and being very open. We don't talk about deep painful things. If we do talk about experiences, we don't do it with a "therapy" tone but matter of fact and with a dark sense of humour to diffuse it. They do not try to hold my hand or grab any part of my body in the first hour. I like they get my sense of humour. I like how playful they are. I like how easily they talk about themselves and their life without being "heavy." I like they can talk about difficult things without it being all about feeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeelings. I like they can joke about hard stuff. They don't write me a love poem or start making me promises. If they have come from a ways away they have booked a room for themselves and don't expect to stay with me. They asked me if I know of any close good places (or cheap) but they don't ask me to book for them. They understand I have full time school and that I can't spend an entire day with them, even if it's a day off. Or they offer to help me study in the park and they really actually help me study and not distract me. They don't expect monogamy from meeting only once. Last edited by imperfect_cupcake; 08-04-2015 at 08:29 AM.