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imperfect_cupcake · 08-29-2015, 09:48 AM

I personally don't care about expereince, at all. All I care about is that they are the gender expression I am attracted to, they read in a way that I can pick up they'd be the boss in bed, or they have the desire to be the boss in bed and that they are emotionally even keeled and they don't leap into commitment just from having sex once.
I sincerely don't care about experince. In fact, some of the best sex I've had have been with people FAR less expereinced than me (not diffult lol)

I get judged too. People judge me for having slept with as many people as I have. They insinuate im diseased or untouchable, I have a "stretched out" or "spoiled" vag. That I won't make commitments. That I will use them. Or I'll cheat.

I'm an extremely honest person. And I don't make commitments lightly at all. I consider monogamy to be a promise and a commitment. Because it *IS*. And I don't take that lightly. Not like most lesbians. My heart hurts horribly and I can't bounce back like most others can, so I don't give it often. But I love sex. So I have connected, warm and friendly casual sex between full committed relationships. And I've been in non-monogamous but fully committed relationships.

My sex life started when I was 14.

So I've had a lot of partners. I have been honest, clear, caring, open and not a player. I have safe sex. I get tested. Most people don't do either and it only takes one person. It's not accumulative. Each person does not add to the sexual Lurgy. It takes ONE. So I find it really hypocritical for this idiots to judge me when they have slept with, say only five or six people by the time they are 50 (im 46) but had safe sex with none of them and have never been tested. But I'm the dirty person.

So I hear you. People are really judgmental around sex. They just are. And frankly, when people put themselves as fucking assholes about it, it's actually dodging a bullet. It's best you know those things about those people so you can drop them *immediately* and move on.

There are those of us out there that how many doesn't matter. 0 or tripple digits, it honestly doesn't matter. I *know* what matters in sex for me: creativity, desire, lust, explorative, able to talk about sex openly, enthusiasm. And the need to be the boss. Lol.

Sex skills aren't rocket science. People pick them up super quickly if they are *really* interested. The last person I slept with that wasn't very expereinced told me "I may not be the best first time round, but give me some time to practice and I'll be the best you *ever* had or will have!"

MWREOW sailor! Come use my body like a ginea pig!

Nothing I like better that someone with that kind of enthusiasm!

So don't worry, if it's at all possible. Some of us don't care about experience- at all.

08-29-2015, 09:48 AM	#5
imperfect_cupcake Senior Member How Do You Identify?: feminine dolly dyke Preferred Pronoun?: Your Grace Relationship Status: I put my own care first Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: In a gauze of mystery Posts: 1,776 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,426 Thanked 9,712 Times in 1,611 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	I personally don't care about expereince, at all. All I care about is that they are the gender expression I am attracted to, they read in a way that I can pick up they'd be the boss in bed, or they have the desire to be the boss in bed and that they are emotionally even keeled and they don't leap into commitment just from having sex once. I sincerely don't care about experince. In fact, some of the best sex I've had have been with people FAR less expereinced than me (not diffult lol) I get judged too. People judge me for having slept with as many people as I have. They insinuate im diseased or untouchable, I have a "stretched out" or "spoiled" vag. That I won't make commitments. That I will use them. Or I'll cheat. I'm an extremely honest person. And I don't make commitments lightly at all. I consider monogamy to be a promise and a commitment. Because it IS. And I don't take that lightly. Not like most lesbians. My heart hurts horribly and I can't bounce back like most others can, so I don't give it often. But I love sex. So I have connected, warm and friendly casual sex between full committed relationships. And I've been in non-monogamous but fully committed relationships. My sex life started when I was 14. So I've had a lot of partners. I have been honest, clear, caring, open and not a player. I have safe sex. I get tested. Most people don't do either and it only takes one person. It's not accumulative. Each person does not add to the sexual Lurgy. It takes ONE. So I find it really hypocritical for this idiots to judge me when they have slept with, say only five or six people by the time they are 50 (im 46) but had safe sex with none of them and have never been tested. But I'm the dirty person. So I hear you. People are really judgmental around sex. They just are. And frankly, when people put themselves as fucking assholes about it, it's actually dodging a bullet. It's best you know those things about those people so you can drop them immediately and move on. There are those of us out there that how many doesn't matter. 0 or tripple digits, it honestly doesn't matter. I know what matters in sex for me: creativity, desire, lust, explorative, able to talk about sex openly, enthusiasm. And the need to be the boss. Lol. Sex skills aren't rocket science. People pick them up super quickly if they are really interested. The last person I slept with that wasn't very expereinced told me "I may not be the best first time round, but give me some time to practice and I'll be the best you ever had or will have!" MWREOW sailor! Come use my body like a ginea pig! Nothing I like better that someone with that kind of enthusiasm! So don't worry, if it's at all possible. Some of us don't care about experience- at all.