[Gemme]

Originally Posted by Mel C.

I'm so tired! I volunteered at a fundraiser for at-risk youth, including homeless gay and lesbian teens. While I was happy to contribute to a worthy cause, I couldn't help but notice that there were a lot of couples AND that the average age was late 20's to early 30's. This is certainly not my demographic so I pose the following questions:

1) When you feel like you are the only single person, how do you deal with it (avoid the scenario, embrace your singleness, etc)?

2) Do you attend events if you know only 5-10% are in your age group?

It depends on the circumstances. Using your example, I wouldn't care about demographics or singledom because it's not about me. If I were volunteering somewhere, it is about that cause and the people that it will help. I'm not a part of the equation and neither are the other volunteers.

If I'm attending something that is more entertainment than purpose, then those factors may come into play more. It would honestly depend on how I felt in that moment before I left for the event, if I would be the only person I knew there, et cetera. If I'm going somewhere and I've agreed to meet a friend, I wouldn't dream of canceling on them, no matter who else was there and how old they were or weren't.

Some events can be tough if you are basically the ONLY person outside of a particular age bracket or if you are the ONLY person there by yourself. When I decide whether to go to something, the other people are not really even part of the equation for me. Mostly, is the drive going to annoy me is what I think. Will someone try to kill me on the way there goes through my mind. Basically, personal safety trumps any other card in the deck when I decide whether to go out and attend a function.